BL80920335 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I've been married for almost 7 years and have two beautiful girls. However, I've found over the last couple of years that I don't love my wife. We don't fight hardly ever, she's a good mom and wife, I just don't love her. I began talking about this with her about week ago and the more we talk the more I can tell it's breaking her heart. I'm just trying to be honest with her. I don't want to break up my family or hurt her but is it worth it staying in a marriage where I view her as a friend and not a lover. More than anything my feelings towards her are indifference. This isn't new, it's been almost since we got married. I'm not sure what to do.
Eddie Edirol Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 What is it about her that killed your attraction to her?
Leegh Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 It's much harder to get out a relationship when there are children involved. Possibly you could talk to an attorney (you don't have to tell your wife) and find out what your options are, and the expense involved if you do decide to end the marriage. On the other hand, if you think you could rekindle things with your wife, possibly you and she could take a vacation together and/or go to counseling.
skywriter Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I believe that is emotional torture, for your wife and you should let her out of this marriage ,so that she can get on with her life. You broke up your family when you told her you didn't love her anymore. Even worse to hear that you've felt this way almost since you got married and you had children with her. 2
Steen719 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I've been married for almost 7 years and have two beautiful girls. However, I've found over the last couple of years that I don't love my wife. We don't fight hardly ever, she's a good mom and wife, I just don't love her. I began talking about this with her about week ago and the more we talk the more I can tell it's breaking her heart. I'm just trying to be honest with her. I don't want to break up my family or hurt her but is it worth it staying in a marriage where I view her as a friend and not a lover. More than anything my feelings towards her are indifference. This isn't new, it's been almost since we got married. I'm not sure what to do. Did you ever feel that way towards her? If not, I can't see how anything is going to change that. Sad, really sad for her and you and your children.
worldgonewrong Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I can't stand people who sleepwalk through Life, dragging others along, even creating children, and then suddenly 'wake up' along the line and repudiate everything that's gone before as if it never mattered. Makes me want to throw up. 2
Tiberius Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I can't stand people who sleepwalk through Life, dragging others along, even creating children, and then suddenly 'wake up' along the line and repudiate everything that's gone before as if it never mattered. Makes me want to throw up. Ditto. Love is an fleeting emotion. Your wife has been a good woman from your accounts and seems to tend towards your needs and the families needs. You can break up and find a string of women to love and then unlove or you can learn to appreciate the positive characterstics about your wife. Of course that would mean putting an effort towards trying to make her feel loved. Also think of the girls, how are they going to develop when they see that mom tried her best yet daddy is just not that into her?
Owl Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I'm gonna ask a different question... Is there someone else that you ARE in love with, or heavily attracted to right now? 5
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