Thatguy80 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Hey all! Recently I went out with a girl a few times and it went really good both times. I've only been out with her twice, but have been friends with her for about 4 months. Before I asked her out, she would always stare at me, get near me to see if I'd talk to her. When I asked her out she got extremely nervous and fumbled a lot. The first date was a simple lunch date, very casual and it went really well, we ran over and were late getting back to our jobs. The second date was a long one, about 6 hours. After we had done what I had planned, it wasn't very late so we saw a movie too. I thought there was a really strong connection and we just laughed the whole time and had a great time. She would take long gazes into my eyes (she always had), everything felt very natural. When I dropped her off I said "come here" and it took her about 1/2 a second to crawl across the center console to kiss me. Everything good... Or so I would think. So I go to call her last night (2 days after 2nd date)and get her VM. Left a MSG "hey name, this is name, gimme a call back. Bye". No call back, or text back. The pessimist side of me says I guess she isn't interested anymore. A few things that might play into this: She admitted to me a while back she's flaky and working on that (ya I know red flag) Everything in person with her has been great, the only thing that kinda made me wonder was when I hold her hand she keeps it really limp - which I've never ran into. She's pretty old fashioned, raised on a farm, etc. When I kissed her, it was like 1am, i was half way asleep, and was not expecting her to jump on it so fast and was unprepared. I kissed her back some, but it was a pretty bad kiss on my part. We have the same group of friends and I see her usually once a week. (well I did before all this) She is very outgoing, but is a natural introvert and very shy when it comes to some things. She had told me she's very shy about contacting a guy until she knows him really well. I'm not sure how to go forward on this. Just basing it on a bad experience years ago, I want to run! But everything about this girl is different than that one. Should I even try to contact her again if I don't hear from her in the next few days? Should I wait until I see her in person and just act like nothing happened? Other than the limp hand holding, I've seen no signs of disinterest until now. Is she just not into me, playing hard to get, or is this how old fashioned girls are? Thanks!
Joaquin Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Your over thinking it. Give the girl a chance to return your call.
Author Thatguy80 Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 Thanks guys. I guess I can try again like Wed or Thurs night. It just does not make sense to me why she wouldn't get back to me. Women make no sense! Me calling her 2 days after the 2nd date wouldn't seem needy would it? I'm used to waiting longer but I had made a decision I wanted to be completely real with this girl and not play games. I'm not a guy after sex, I genuinely like this girl.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Not a lot of information to make a strong determination in terms of why she would act this way, but yeah typically If someone is interested in you they get back to you right away, there's really not many exceptions. You've done your part by giving her a call and leaving a VM...not sure If you want to push that from this point, fact of the matter is she would get back to you as soon as she could. The best thing you can do is just wait it out and not panic or become dramatic over it.
Author Thatguy80 Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 (edited) Thanks all. She had admitted to me that she's flaky about returning calls (her exact words) when she did not text me one time for lunch (before we ever actually went out). I had to initiate contact then. I guess it's a waiting game now. Should I maybe send her a text sometime this week just like a "hope your days going well" or actually call again if I want to try one last time? There is a part of me that wants to send something like "I had a great time the other day. I don't need the reason, but it's pretty apparent it's not mutual. Let's forget about this and not let any awkwardness be between us in the group". (were in a bible study together) Haha, I know that ones a bad idea but want a second opinion from you guys. If she was into me would she reply it was mutual? I would of course send this like Friday when I knew she was ignoring my VM Edited May 15, 2012 by Thatguy80 Addition
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