joe1990 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 OK so I asked a girl out for dinner a while ago and she accepted right away. She's my best friend's sister so I come with good references! However, it took over two weeks for us to actually get together since she had such a busy schedule with work and school. It was very frustrating. Had my friend not encouraged me, I would've quit on this gal! Dinner date went great. Her brother tells me the next morning that she had a great time and would love to see me again. What a coincidence, me too!!! So I wait a few days and ask her out again. Again, she accepts but says she's booked solid for another week and will get back to me... Should I quit on this gal yet?
dasein Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I would definitely move on, but due to personal compatibility issues. People who play the "I'm so busy" game are not to my liking, having been someone who was -truly- busy in life and had plenty of time to socialize, I see right through it. Most of it is just "hustling fabulousness," which I find obnoxious and unattractive. Even worse would be if she is adhering to some version of "The Rules." That's an instant eject for me. Up to you whether you take a hard line on it or are more tolerant and patient.
trist Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 OK so I asked a girl out for dinner a while ago and she accepted right away. She's my best friend's sister so I come with good references! However, it took over two weeks for us to actually get together since she had such a busy schedule with work and school. It was very frustrating. Had my friend not encouraged me, I would've quit on this gal! Dinner date went great. Her brother tells me the next morning that she had a great time and would love to see me again. What a coincidence, me too!!! So I wait a few days and ask her out again. Again, she accepts but says she's booked solid for another week and will get back to me... Should I quit on this gal yet? no I disagree with the above poster... in a normal circumstance where boy meets girl, it's possible he could be correct, but you need to take into account all the variables here... first off, it's your best friends sister... secondly, the girl is genuinely busy, juggling work, school and whatnot... you're one date two and your already being absolutely not understanding of personal space... I'm just asking, but are you normally the clingy type? there is no reason in the world that you two can go about this slowly... let me ask you this... how long have you known your best friend? I'm assuming awhile considering he's your best friend... so you've also known the sister for awhile, no? so what's a week or two in between dates? you've waited this long to ask her out, what's the big deal with a week? it's too early to tell if she's interested, half interested, or maybe she's asexual, who knows... take it slow, relax, and don't over analyze the situation... you handle this wrong and it's going to be awkward with you and your best friend...
Author joe1990 Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 no I disagree with the above poster... in a normal circumstance where boy meets girl, it's possible he could be correct, but you need to take into account all the variables here... first off, it's your best friends sister... secondly, the girl is genuinely busy, juggling work, school and whatnot... you're one date two and your already being absolutely not understanding of personal space... I'm just asking, but are you normally the clingy type? there is no reason in the world that you two can go about this slowly... let me ask you this... how long have you known your best friend? I'm assuming awhile considering he's your best friend... so you've also known the sister for awhile, no? so what's a week or two in between dates? you've waited this long to ask her out, what's the big deal with a week? it's too early to tell if she's interested, half interested, or maybe she's asexual, who knows... take it slow, relax, and don't over analyze the situation... you handle this wrong and it's going to be awkward with you and your best friend... Thanks. I don't know what type I really am as I am rather inexperienced with dating (I'm only 22). I'm perhaps clingy but I mostly worry after reading all the posts about an interested girl never being too busy. I've know my best friend for several years but his sister always lived with their mother. I'm hoping that he really knows what he's doing when he suggests that I ask her out!
trist Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 yeah, let me give you some friendly advice... girls absolutely positively HATE clingy guys... clingy, jealousy, insecurity will make them run in the opposite direction... just be cool, let things happen gradually... and don't talk to your best friend about it, he could inadvertantly let some info slip to this sis... lastly, try and remember, it's always a little awkward for the SISTER of the best friend to be set up with you... for a brother to set his sister up with a guy, that means it is the safest possible guy they know... I'm not sure if that's a good thing considring how old you and this girl are...
Leegh Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Is there a possibility that she already has a boyfriend and cannot make time to see you (even though she wants to) as it would make her boyfriend suspicous? On the other hand, she may truly be busy or be playing hard to get. I would give it several more tries, and if she is constantly busy, you may want to find someone else.
Author joe1990 Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 yeah, let me give you some friendly advice... girls absolutely positively HATE clingy guys... clingy, jealousy, insecurity will make them run in the opposite direction... just be cool, let things happen gradually... and don't talk to your best friend about it, he could inadvertantly let some info slip to this sis... lastly, try and remember, it's always a little awkward for the SISTER of the best friend to be set up with you... for a brother to set his sister up with a guy, that means it is the safest possible guy they know... I'm not sure if that's a good thing considring how old you and this girl are... Thanks for your word of advice. As for the brother's involvement, we weren't actually "set up" as I initially asked her out myself. I only told the brother once she accepted.
Author joe1990 Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 Is there a possibility that she already has a boyfriend and cannot make time to see you (even though she wants to) as it would make her boyfriend suspicous? On the other hand, she may truly be busy or be playing hard to get. I would give it several more tries, and if she is constantly busy, you may want to find someone else. Thanks. I am 100% certain that she is single. She's very sweet and there are no "playas" involved here.
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