Author Tree_Salmon Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 I still can't seem to do it. Saturday's just get to me. These days were always designated for lots of fun couple stuff. Sounds cheesy but that's how I rolled. Every once in a while i get a nudge of pain.
MissBrunette84 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 It says you joined in May, think you have to wait 1 month first. I know what you mean, I am really thinking alot today. I'm ok just a little Meh
Author Tree_Salmon Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 It says you joined in May, think you have to wait 1 month first. I know what you mean, I am really thinking alot today. I'm ok just a little Meh Yeah, i just hate the fact that I didn't take all this insight i have now and apply it years ago. A mix of anger and sadness. I've been around good people all day too. Sometimes you just can't shake the pain. I'm looking forward to my ability to PM
ladyabstrused Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Yeah. Saturdays is a day like that for me too Tree. Now that I'm through with the agony of a lonely Saturday (well I chose to be lonely just didn't feel like being around people), and now I'm feeling sick to the stomach. Have to shake off the pain. Actually, I'm numb at the moment. I think it will come after the numbness goes away.
mattr89 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I know what your feeling man. happens to me all the time too. Its just the booze, if its really that important to contact her (which i advise strongly not to) then you do it at a sober state of mind. And your associating happiness with her is natural. It will fade over time. Your mind wants to only think of the good cause the ego always wants wants wants. It wasnts what it cant have and when it does get it, its not satisfied and looks for the next thing to want. You only want her cause you dont have her. You gotta find happiness without her before you can ever think about being back with her
NateC Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Well is there something wrong? I think we can only PM when we're established members, that's what Prof X said. You've got to be a month old on here and have a certain number of posts which he said I have..which means you do too. I believe PMs only work for supporting members (i.e, you have to pay). If I wasn't broke I'd consider it myself.
Author Tree_Salmon Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 I know what your feeling man. happens to me all the time too. Its just the booze, if its really that important to contact her (which i advise strongly not to) then you do it at a sober state of mind. And your associating happiness with her is natural. It will fade over time. Your mind wants to only think of the good cause the ego always wants wants wants. It wasnts what it cant have and when it does get it, its not satisfied and looks for the next thing to want. You only want her cause you dont have her. You gotta find happiness without her before you can ever think about being back with her It friggin sucks right now though. I was at this pool party and it was all couples talking about marriage plans and babies and all this garbage. I just missed having her by my side and joking around with me. When it was good it was really really good. I mean the fact that she was gorgeous was just an extra in the end but I did appreciate all of her physical beauty too. I never really cared that much but when I'd look at her I'd be amazed at her beauty. Just pissed me off that it had to end this way. Most guys wouldn't have dumped her purely on her looks but its all about the personality with me. In any case I'm doing pretty well. The initially stab at the heart isnt as bad as it used to be. I think im already over the burn as I write this message. ladyabstrused- Sometimes we gotta force ourselves to be alone. It's great to have people around but sometimes you have to force the alone time like you did. I had to do it last weekend. I used to love spending time alone before. Recently it felt like hell. It's getting way better though.
ladyabstrused Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I believe PMs only work for supporting members (i.e, you have to pay). If I wasn't broke I'd consider it myself. Really? Some people on here said that you have to be registered for at least a month and have at least a certain number of posts and then you'll have the option to PM.
ladyabstrused Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 It friggin sucks right now though. I was at this pool party and it was all couples talking about marriage plans and babies and all this garbage. I know. I don't know what's up with the universe - these past few days since my break-up, so many people keep bringing up the subject of marriage, or how is my relationship doing or if I'm seeing anyone. It's like...they unintentionally add salt to the wound. :\ Just pissed me off that it had to end this way. Most guys wouldn't have dumped her purely on her looks but its all about the personality with me. That's really good for you, Tree. Where it's all about personality and not just looks. Someday you will find someone who is truthful, honest and just as amazingly beautiful - inside and out. In any case I'm doing pretty well. The initially stab at the heart isnt as bad as it used to be. I think im already over the burn as I write this message. Happy for you on this! Great to hear about the progress. ladyabstrused- Sometimes we gotta force ourselves to be alone. It's great to have people around but sometimes you have to force the alone time like you did. I had to do it last weekend. I used to love spending time alone before. Recently it felt like hell. It's getting way better though. I totally know what you mean. I've always loved spending alone time cos I seldom do when we were still together. But now it's just a whole different feeling. On one hand it's a relief cos I'm not emotionally stressed. On the other..it's just difficult. Mixed emotions all the time. :\
Professor X Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I believe PMs only work for supporting members (i.e, you have to pay). If I wasn't broke I'd consider it myself. You're wrong. If you donate you get a title of "Supporting Member" with additional extra features. Not sure why you said what you said considering you can PM yourself. Just try it with any other "Established Member".
Professor X Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Really? Some people on here said that you have to be registered for at least a month and have at least a certain number of posts and then you'll have the option to PM. Don't worry, I got that right. You got another 2 weeks I think before you'll get your PM feature enabled. We'll test it 1
ladyabstrused Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 You're wrong. If you donate you get a title of "Supporting Member" with additional extra features. Not sure why you said what you said considering you can PM yourself. Just try it with any other "Established Member". Maybe NateC didn't know he could PM? Go check it out, NateC.
Author Tree_Salmon Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 Maybe NateC didn't know he could PM? Go check it out, NateC. We will find out soon enough. So, LadyA...come here often?
ladyabstrused Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 We will find out soon enough. So, LadyA...come here often? Yes. Seems like I am here pretty often right lol. Trying to fill the loneliness by reading stories and posts here. Quite enlightening. I think I'm getting addicted too. :\ Probably a way to get distracted from thinking about him. Why do you ask it that way though? Lol...do I post too many?
MissBrunette84 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I believe PMs only work for supporting members (i.e, you have to pay). If I wasn't broke I'd consider it myself. I'm not a supporting member and I can PM. I think its just a case of being here longer than a month and having over 50 or so posts
Professor X Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Yes. Seems like I am here pretty often right lol. Trying to fill the loneliness by reading stories and posts here. Quite enlightening. I think I'm getting addicted too. :\ Probably a way to get distracted from thinking about him. Why do you ask it that way though? Lol...do I post too many? See, that's why I told you you're were so closed in your own little bubble for to long. What he said is a cliche opening sentence you tell a chick you hit on. Lol, you're so naive !!
Author Tree_Salmon Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 See, that's why I told you you're were so closed in your own little bubble for to long. What he said is a cliche opening sentence you tell a chick you hit on. Lol, you're so naive !! hahaha, Bingo! But I did it for a reason. Sometimes people need to know that they are still great regardless of how they feel about themselves after a breakup. Life should be fun. Almost all the time.
ladyabstrused Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 See, that's why I told you you're were so closed in your own little bubble for to long. What he said is a cliche opening sentence you tell a chick you hit on. Lol, you're so naive !! *blushes* Lol...okay, I'm naive. Well my mind wasn't thinking like that lol so I wasn't expecting that.
ladyabstrused Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 hahaha, Bingo! But I did it for a reason. Sometimes people need to know that they are still great regardless of how they feel about themselves after a breakup. Life should be fun. Almost all the time. Aww, thank you Tree. It makes me feel better now knowing you were looking out for me. (I think this was what you were doing? Lol sorry I can be very clueless at times. )
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