Being reduced to tears by a stupid dream!

[xxSRMxx]

This week I havent been too bad....I havent done the psycho ex (the routine for the first few weeks) in a while and ive pretty much kept my head down..Ive had fun, hes always at the back of my mind but ive tried to block him out

 

Then last night i had a stupid dream and its just ruined my day if im honest, I had a dream we decided to get back together and his grandmother was cooking for us and i was really happy.. woke up and felt rubbish.

 

I know its just a dream, but i wish i could feel that happiness I felt in that dream again... :(

 

why doesn't he miss me like I miss him? I feel like i wasted my time, was I really that bad? Im getting help with my issues now..I know im a good person and i know i wasnt that bad as a gf, I just cant believe that after a year he couldnt even give a dam if i was dead or alive.

[eles83]

Hi there,

 

I just wanted to say that I know what you're going through. I, too, have the dreams. He always shows up in mine wanting to reconcile and we have a fantastic time until I wake up and realize it isn't real. That's part of why I have such bad insomnia (because I am both afraid to sleep and once I wake up in the middle of the night, I can't fall back asleep)...

 

I haven't had a chance to read your story, but I'm sure you were a great girlfriend (I know I was!). I don't know why this happens. :/

[Reddice]

About 2 days after my break up, I had the most vivid dream ever. in my dream, my ex came back to tell me why we couldn't be together anymore. She told me her feelings had changed and that she had fallen in love with someone else. She just didn't want to break my heart and thus didn't know how to tell me in real life. She was very sorry for cheating on me and she never wanted it to have come to that. I swear, it was almost as if we were talking face to face. It was just that vivid! I almost felt some kind of peace that I'd at least had some kind of explanation. The day after, I dreamt that she wanted me back, but that she kept on cheating. I guess our subconscience is just trying to process everything that happened. The dreams suck though.

[Mr Scorpio]

Don't feel bad for being effected by a dream. Other than waking up late when you have something important on the docket, I can think of no worse way to start off your day than with a bad dream, especially one about your ex.

 

Now, I know I'm being nit-picky, but you don't "feel" like you wasted your time because that isnt a feeling, it is a thought. I think the difference is important because your thoughts can dictate your feelings.

 

If nothing else, don't you have pleasant memories from the experience? Even if they are now tainted? Also, you've been in -- what was once -- a loving relationship. There are people on this board in their late 20's/30's who have never experienced that. I didn't until age 26.

 

Why doesn't he miss you like you miss him? I'm assuming because he was the dumper? Why doesn't he miss you at all? He probably does, but your "psycho-ex" routine certainly has certainly given him reason not to show it.

[heartless2012]

You can't beat yourself up for thinking about someone that you cared about, we are all only human . I didn't the whole crazy thing with this girl and now she wants nothing to do with me, I know this for a fact. I still think about it a few weeks after it happen because it was a huge emotional roller coaster for me, with the highs and lows. You have accept the fact, like I had to, that once you do the psycho thing on someone they probably want nothing to do with you again. It's not that they don't care, but they don't want to handle someone else problems. I hope the best for you, don't worry about thinking about the past but don't let it block your future