hayley1357 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Ive been lingering around here for a while. and have been trying to establish my break up ( many questions un answered ect) Okay bit of background + the story Me and my ex where together for 5 years, met when we were 15 and broke up about 2 months ago. I played a huge part in the break down of our relationship and have come to acknowledge and accept that. I went through a phase of taking my ex for granted, he did SO MUCH for me and i would consistently throw it back in his face. I was too busy putting 'bro's before h*e's' that I was blinded by what was right infront of me. i NEVER cheated and NEVER wanted anyone else just wanted to do what i wanted. Through all of this my ex stayed with me, did everything for me, loved me unconditionally and never stoped caring. Around a year ago I began to realise what a fool i was, we started becoming amazing again getting back to where we were, loving eachother to the point of looking to move it together ect. I understand where i went wrong now knowing what ive done would NEVER treat him like that again. Then suddenly my boyfreind began to caring, he started putting me last and not bothering anymore. I know i have a huge part to play in this and should have been expecting it from day one. He has been acting the exact same way i did but went further in the sense he called it quits. He went with the he doesnt know what he wants and needs to see what happens. He said hes realised its easier not to care but he knows deep down he still does. He says he knows eventually hell start caring again and regret everything he is doing now but knows he needs to do it right now. So anyway I was doing fine going through the normal stages, highs and lows, crying and feeling okay. I still love him unconditionally and would do ANYTHING for him. We still talk about every two weeks and have met up twice since and everything was good! Well a couple of days ago i broke down, there are so many things going on in my life atm aswell as loosing the love of my life ( my nan has a brain tumour, i broke my foot, and have alot of pressure from work, all my freinds are in different unis around the uk). My mum called my ex to come and talk to me and he did. He wasnt much help (haha) but text me after to say he was sorry he just doesnt know what to say or do but do i want to stay with him that night so i went. He obviously still cares, he just needs ALOT of time to figure himself out. This whole thing has hit me HARD to the point im trying to get into uni for september to get away from it all. I told my ex and got upset/angry and said he didnt want me to go but its up to me what i do and that i cant make my decisions based on him. I made it clear that I wouldn't be going if he wants to work things out but I also understand that it wont make a difference in how he feels now and that I wasnt putting pressure on him just making sure he knew how i felt. I was just wondering if anyone has any thoughts, mine are that I should stick around. He did for me and a lasting relationship is about give & take. He gave for so long, now its my turn? But i dont know because you never know what can happen, he may never return. SORRY ABOUT THE LENGTH!
blutoj Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Honestly, you need to pursue your own life, and he needs to do the same as well. I'm going through the same thing with my ex. Men are so indecisive! Let him miss you. Talk to him once in a while, but be your own person. In time life will make sense.
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