Emissary Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I've never been an ugly guy, and I consider myself to be moderately attractive if I bother to spend a few minutes or more on my looks each day. Though, I'll admit that I look pretty lame in my work uniform, hairnets plus visors do that to a guy(Tim Hortons). Anyway, I've been having a bit of trouble at work the past year, we keep getting these high school girls working at my store, and they all keep falling for me. It's happened like five times in the past year, so much that it's become a running joke behind the scenes. I'm a nice guy, got a smooth voice, playful, and am generally pretty easy to work with, and never fret over anything. I guess it's just natural that single girls would be interested in me, but why do they have to be so young? I mean, they're all 16(age of consent) and I find myself attracted to them in return, but it would be just so much trouble to deal with all the social stigma. The latest one is this cute little Korean girl, worked a few shifts with her, now she's like obsessed with me or something. She's so tempting, I almost feel like I'm playing with fire here, especially since I'm already on the verge of letting myself become involved with another girl at work(redhead).
dasein Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Have experienced the same thing, but not with girls that young. Dated an 18 y.o. woman back when I was 28, didn't take her seriously, and looking back I should have, as she was a good GF, mature, fun, giving, well-behaved, not a party girl at all, never flaky, and ended up happily married to a guy with the same age gap; still married today to my knowledge. Later dated several women in the 23-25 range with a ten year age gap and found no difference between those relationships and dating women my own age other than the younger ones had less baggage. I still prefer women near my age sexually, but take younger ones more seriously also. Wouldn't date one young enough to be my daughter though unless things were really perfect otherwise. My last two GFs were older than me. People make way too much of age gap on this board IMO.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 .....as she was a good GF, mature, fun, giving, well-behaved, not a party girl at all,... My golden doodle is well behaved too. She's also alot of fun and giving. Emissary, yes, younger girls are easier to impress. They have lower expectations. Which is probably part of the reason some men enjoy (and brag unnecessarily) younger women. They don't have to work as hard to impress a woman enough to be interested in them. However, despite "laws of consent", please stay away from 16 year olds. Why not just date girls your own age? Come on now. 1
Radu Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 DY, you don't know his age so lay off him with the stereotypes, just because they fall for him doesn't mean he takes advantage of them. It could be just that he isn't that much older than them and they are impressed about something else, we don't know as he gave too little info. OP, regardless of the age difference getting involved with someone at work is asking for trouble. And if you want to know if the age difference is at fault here, you should have mentioned it.
dasein Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 My golden doodle is well behaved too. She's also alot of fun and giving. If you want to portray a compliment I paid to a distant ex as equivalent to talking about a dog, that's a big -you- problem, not a -me- problem.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 DY, you don't know his age so lay off him with the stereotypes, just because they fall for him doesn't mean he takes advantage of them. It could be just that he isn't that much older than them and they are impressed about something else, we don't know as he gave too little info. OP, regardless of the age difference getting involved with someone at work is asking for trouble. And if you want to know if the age difference is at fault here, you should have mentioned it. No, I don't know his age. However, I do know enough that he gets made fun of by the other people at work that high school girls keep falling for him, that he is attracted to said high school girls, and that he is clearly older then them, no matter his age. I gave the advice I think best applies. As you are free to do as well.
Radu Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Older could mean 18.5 . Which is not unusual. We know too little to apply stereotypes.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Again, you are free to give whatever advice you please based on what you think. As am I. You are not free to tell me what I am allowed to or not allowed to say.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Younger women are more easily impressed, hugely less aware, lot of fantasy/blindness, easily impressionable/influenced, typically more insecure and fairly vulnerable to crushes. The only thing about younger women is that they're less inclined to be sociable interacting with strangers or people of different age groups, and typically less mature. However at work you eliminate all those factors and they get to know you. Don't think it's your looks necessarily, It's more your personality and the confidence that guys their age don't have yet and they're also a lot less bold and much more clueless, and also...just because you're an older guy really. I'm not sure how old you are but 16, man...that's really extremely young, personally they're more like kids to me but I'm guessing you're in your early 20's and at that age at least for me I was way more into and turned by older women...plus they were much better in bed. Also when I was in my early 20's dating younger women just seemed too...easy, and at the time I was looking for a challenge and less gullible, someone who just got all googoo eyes for me without me having to hardly raise a finger was boring and uninteresting. I've always needed to date someone who was closer to my age or older, but then again I've always found older women more intelligent, stimulating and desirable...they always had a level of sophistication to me and mentally I've usually clicked better with them...but then again you and I likely date completely different type of women. 2
dasein Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 We know too little to apply stereotypes. Damn that pesky knowledge! Since when has that stopped anyone from stereotyping on LS though?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Damn that pesky knowledge! Since when has that stopped anyone from stereotyping on LS though? Excuse me, but please show me where I stereotyped. And please show me where I said anything that another man, Ninjainpajamas, didn't say himself. 1
Radu Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Excuse me, but please show me where I stereotyped. And please show me where I said anything that another man, Ninjainpajamas, didn't say himself. Your tone against men who find themselves in the OP's situation was quite vitriolic. Which is probably part of the reason some men enjoy (and brag unnecessarily) younger women. ... Why not just date girls your own age? Come on now. You did not know the age and you started drawing conclusions, even passed judgement on him. When you got called on it, you several times offered the response 'it's my answer and that's that'. Untill Ninjainpijamas posted, you did not go on the attack with the above quoted post. In the name of all men you hate [for whatever reason] i apologize, and i hope you keep in mind that neither me/OP/dasein were the ones who hurt you. It's easy to forget that on the other end of this 'internet' there is a person [like the OP], who exists and who could feel bad for whatever we say, especially since he didn't do anything wrong.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Radu Your tone against men who find themselves in the OP's situation was quite vitriolic. How is it vitriolic? I did not call men names. I did not say "all" men do this. I said "some" men, this pertained to. I simply stated what is true of my beliefs and aren't that far removed from another male that typed something very simliar. You did not know the age and you started drawing conclusions, even passed judgement on him. I know he is older. I know that other people at work tease him about it because its' a regular thing. I know that he is thinking of getting with a "little korean girl". I know that he knows enough about this situation that he posted about it asking for help. All good enough evidence to give the kind of advice I did. Absolutely no different then the information you gave. Please stop targeting me. When you got called on it, you several times offered the response 'it's my answer and that's that'. I didn't get called on anything! You are on a witch hunt with me and this isn't the only thread you've pulled this. Untill Ninjainpijamas posted, you did not go on the attack with the above quoted post. You are not attacking Ninjainpjamas even though we've basically said the same thing. That speaks volumes. In the name of all men you hate [for whatever reason] i apologize, and i hope you keep in mind that neither me/OP/dasein were the ones who hurt you. My advice and comments where completely responsible. You "apologizing", "in the name of all the men" that you think "hurt" me is nothing but an attempt to not offer a real apology for anything, but to paint me a hateful way. I see what you are doing. It's manipulative, insincere and false. It's easy to forget that on the other end of this 'internet' there is a person [like the OP], who exists and who could feel bad for whatever we say, especially since he didn't do anything wrong. I think you would do best to remind yourself of your own advice.
Radu Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 You are not attacking Ninjainpjamas even though we've basically said the same thing. That speaks volumes. Ninjainpjamas didn't attack the OP. He suggested to the OP that he should treat this with seriousness. I agree with him, i also agree with YOU ... college guys do in fact go for high-school girls as they are easier to impress. The difference is that you attacked the OP.
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 So I'm 23, and I work at Older could mean 18.5 . Which is not unusual. We know too little to apply stereotypes. He is 23.. I have always thought when I was growing up that the younger women were harder to woo than the older girls. 1
Author Emissary Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Older could mean 18.5 . Which is not unusual. We know too little to apply stereotypes. Unfortunately I'm 24, I wish I was 18 though.
Author Emissary Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 He is 23.. I have always thought when I was growing up that the younger women were harder to woo than the older girls. Amusing, I browsed my post history to find out which post you pulled that number from, I had totally forgotten I made a post similar to this exactly 1 year ago in May. There are fairly different circumstances this time around though, if you've perused through my posts, you may have noticed a lot of posts about me trying to get with another girl at work who wasn't into me at all. It seems like ever since I truly gave up on her, the ladies have been flocking towards me.
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