Pursuit

[Summer Breeze]

Got it,

 

How can you make a decision about your marriage and it not be about your spouse?

 

I know this wasn't directed at me but when I ended my M because of him having an A the decisions were all about myself and my child. What became of him was of no importance to me at all. He chose his path and it was time for me to finally do the same.

[frozensprouts]

I do think that there can be "mixed signals" sometimes, and perhaps one may, in fact, not pursued as vigorously at they my think.

 

In my own life, i was pursued ( hit on, to use the vernacular) more than a few times and I never even noticed it ( I'm terrible in social situations, and often oblivious to what others are thinking). I had one guy , who was also married, ask me out, and I told him no, quite abruptly. He seemed surprised, and told me he was sorry but he thought I was interested in him, as I was always so shy around him. I'm that way around everyone I don't know, and it never occurred to me that someone might take it as "flirting"...

 

i think you see that online a lot as well. someone may make an innocent comment and have it taken totally the wrong way..."hi" or "what's up?" are not flirting, at least to me.