radrluv72 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 My ex & I stopped seeing eachother 3-4 weeks ago. Reason being is that he knew that I was looking to get into a committed relationship with the right person, but he gave me the "I don't know what I want" breakup speech. He's 46 going on 47, divorced for a year, hasn't been in any kind of a serious relationship since his divorce, buit has had plenty of casual dalliances with a lot of women. When we stopped seeing eachother, he said that we could be friends, but the said that he wanted to keep sleeping with me (should it happen) because our sex life was so good. And then he said that he wanted me to start seeing other people, but not sleep with them. I don't care if he was serious or not. But I flat out refused any kind of an arrangement, The last thing that I told him was that he was full of crap, and that if he wanted his "time" to figure out whatever it was that he needed to, to take it. That was 2 weeks ago. We've not contacted eachother since, and I've been out with a couple of different men since I stopped seeing him. Since we started seeing eachother, I've always known that about half the people he has friended on Facebook were the girls that came before me, most of them casual, short-term "flings" I suppose. Being where he is in his life, I can't hold that against him and I won't...whoever he was with before me, I don't care. And even though I'm out dating other men, there's this small part of me that wishes he's grow up a little & pull his head out of his butt. Despite the fact that he even suggested that we be FWB like a moron, he is just a guy. I totally accept the fact he's probably going through some midlife-crisis-post-divorce BS. He's only human. Anyways, to my point...I happened to notice that yesterday on Facebook, he suddenly de-friended all of his old "flings". His friends list literally dropped from 37 people to 18...all the old GF's, gone. Today he defriended 3 stragglers that he might have missed the day before. And while I'm not trying to bother myself with it, of course it does have me thinking...what could possibly be going on that all of sudden he would de-friend all his old gf's? Could there be a serious girlfriend...eeeeehhhhh, I kind of doubt that. Not that it's an impossibility, but I know what he wasn't that far off of the mark when he told me that he couldn't give me a commitment because he didn't know where he was going to be the next day due to all the mayhem in his life. So I very much doubt that he suddenly met someone in the past couple of weeks that waved their magic wand it suddenly made it all better. I'm actually starting to wonder if maybe this de-friending of the old flings could be a step in maybe actually trying to re-claim some stability in his life & clean things up a bit...I'm wondering if maybe he's starting to turn a corner & starting to want something a little more real. I can't think of another reason why a guy would suddenly shed his old FWB like that. On a side note, because I know I'll be asked, no I never friended him on Facebook. His profile was open to the public, so there was no need. I don't know...thoughts? Sometimes I hear that the ones that "don't know what they want" are the ones that always come back...but then again, that's crap on the internet for you.
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