Coolchica94 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I'm a 19 year old girl, and this married man is in his mid-40's and is a friend of my parents. Tonight we were all at a party for my cousin, and this mans wife was there too. This man is a big flirt anyway, but he seems to like touching me a lot. Several times he put his arm around me, and one time he was trying to shove a grape into my mouth and I had to push his arm away. The biggest thing was that I was standing there with both my hands in the back pockets of my jeans, and he comes up from behind me and loops his arm through my arms. And he stays Iike that for awhile so I can't move my arms away. Whenever I tried to get him to let go, he gripped tighter as he was standing there talking to someone standing behind me. Then he actually takes me with his arm still looped through my arms behind my back and starts dragging me across the room. Then when I finally got him to let to, he starts tickling my sides. The whole time hes doing this, his wife is standing there watching, not saying anything. So I don't know what she thought of it. In addition to it being awkward for me, it also hurt because he basically had my arms pinned behind my back. And then later he was encouraging my mom to let me drink more wine, even though I'm not legally old enough yet. One time at church, he hit me on the butt with his briefcase as he walked by me. He and his wife have been married 30 years and he flirts with her a lot too, so I definitely don't think he's a cheater. But how do I make him stop touching me when I don't want him to?
pteromom Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I would say yes, he is flirting with you. OR - he is just one of those people who have no boundaries. If he does something obviously over the line again, like hit you on the butt, turn around and say "Don't do that." in a serious voice. He may end up thinking you are a b*tch, but he'll probably stop touching you. The main thing is if he starts dragging you around or grabbing you, DON'T laugh and play along. Make sure he knows it is annoying you. He'll stop.
PegNosePete Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 he comes up from behind me and loops his arm through my arms. And he stays Iike that for awhile so I can't move my arms away. Whenever I tried to get him to let go, he gripped tighter Correct response: "Let go of me please" If he still does not let go, "Get the hell of me arsehole" at increased volume so that others hear. By allowing him to get away with this kind of behaviour, you do not do yourself any favours.
orcunderabridge Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 sounds like a real sleezball.... What the above poster said seems a pretty good course of action
dasein Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 He could be flirting or he could just be a boor thinking he is playing with a kid. Have seen both in a "churchy" context so hard to say which. What I have seen is people who do this type of thing act all innocent "aww I was just kidding around, don't be so sensitive," and end up making their target look like a bad sport. So unless it gets overtly sexual, be careful how you handle it. If he gets overtly sexual, tell your parents, and decide with them what course to pursue. More importantly, how to stop it? First, avoid him. Second, when he approaches, just step back, put up your hands and say "No!" If he persists, make a scene, maybe loudly in earshot of others, "are you drunk? stop being obnoxious" and he won't do it again in all likelihood.
rach24680 Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 boardering on sexual harrasment if u ask me!! Tell ur parents if its botherin you hunny xx
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