LittlePrince Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Give me a break. Men are obsessed with age just as much. I actually have found that men seem to be more fearful of aging then women. I see so many women in my life who welcome the next stage of their life (and it's a relief to be honest) while I see a lot of men still trying to pretend they are 25. I'm not saying this makes men bad or they are dating 19 year olds. I mean, I see them physically trying to compete with younger guys when they simply can't keep up anymore. I really think women adapt better to aging then I've seen men do so. Which is also why I think men are more likely to date younger women then women date younger men. I think a lot of men that do that are looking to feel young and recapture their youth despite knowing that they are aging. They have a less realistic viewpoint on aging. Now that isn't all men, I am of course generalizing. But from how I hear men talk and what I see men do, I think they struggle more with aging then women do ironically enough. Younger women are more fertile. Men are more attracted to women who are more fertile. Therefore all men are attracted to women in their physical prime despite their age and will compete for the only women worth having. Men settle for the rest. It is purely biology and has nothing to do with a man's views on aging.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Younger women are more fertile. Men are more attracted to women who are more fertile. Therefore all men are attracted to women in their physical prime despite their age and will compete for the only women worth having. Men settle for the rest. It is purely biology and has nothing to do with a man's views on aging. Both younger men and women are more fertile.Once men hit 30, their sperm isn't prime material anymore. I also believe that nature and biology are about balance. That's what makes nature/biology work. A system was not created where men would forever be "prime" mates. Time moves on, both men and women age, younger people can be attractive, but since life is much more then base desires, people make choices that are so much more complicated then over simplified pop-science biology. Which is really all too popular a topic in message board land where every average jane and joe think they can argue their point by an over simplified version that is far from the reality we live in. 1
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Give me a break. Men are obsessed with age just as much. I actually have found that men seem to be more fearful of aging then women. I see so many women in my life who welcome the next stage of their life (and it's a relief to be honest) while I see a lot of men still trying to pretend they are 25. I'm not saying this makes men bad or they are dating 19 year olds. I mean, I see them physically trying to compete with younger guys when they simply can't keep up anymore. I really think women adapt better to aging then I've seen men do so. Which is also why I think men are more likely to date younger women then women date younger men. I think a lot of men that do that are looking to feel young and recapture their youth despite knowing that they are aging. They have a less realistic viewpoint on aging. Now that isn't all men, I am of course generalizing. But from how I hear men talk and what I see men do, I think they struggle more with aging then women do ironically enough. That is so true. My dad is 60 and he really thinks he is like half his age. Maybe he is going through a mid-late life crises. And, my mom is 43 is has yet hit the weird mid life crises thing.
xxoo Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 That is so true. My dad is 60 and he really thinks he is like half his age. Maybe he is going through a mid-late life crises. And, my mom is 43 is has yet hit the weird mid life crises thing. Doing the math....your mom was 24 and your dad 41 when you were born? Seems like you are repeating a pattern. Maybe "maturity" isn't really the reason you are attracted to older men, esp since both your dad and the bf don't seem very mature....
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Doing the math....your mom was 24 and your dad 41 when you were born? Seems like you are repeating a pattern. Maybe "maturity" isn't really the reason you are attracted to older men, esp since both your dad and the bf don't seem very mature.... O_o yeah...except my mom got married at 20. Idk when they met they never told me. I rather not compare the two. One may immature in some regards and the other is just a fool(my dad).
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 That is so true. My dad is 60 and he really thinks he is like half his age. Maybe he is going through a mid-late life crises. And, my mom is 43 is has yet hit the weird mid life crises thing. Heck, I hear guys my age complain about how they are getting older and gaining weight and loosing hair. Aging excapes no one. It is a fact of life. I wish we lived in a society where people where happy to get older and older and just accepted that life is a cycle, not one that is meant to remain in one facet. By the way, research shows that the happiest people are older people. Not 20s, not 30s, not 40s..but 50-60s people prove to be more happy since they are much more at peace with life and themselves then younger people tend to be. Katyerine, I also have parents that had a big age gap between them. Which is why my Mom was always very honest about not wanting me to marry some one so much older then myself. Don't get me wrong. She loves my father very much but there were many power/age struggles in their relationship. She really had to be on her toes with my Dad. And when I was younger, part of the reason I dated older men certainly had to do with my parents relationship and other issues regarding my Dad. And that's not tos ay he wasn't a great Dad. He was. But he had some of his own issues that certainly left it's mark on our family. Just like any other family. That's the reality. Seriously, a lot of what we are attracted to or seek out has to do with our earliest relationships. You might want to dig deeper into yours to figure out pattersn of your own.
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