Krytie TV Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I'm guessing that's a Silence of the Lambs reference.
stillafool Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Who the heck is clarice? That's how young you are. That's precious. 1
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 I'm guessing that's a Silence of the Lambs reference. Is it a book? I never heard of it...
stillafool Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Katyerine do you look and dress mature for your age would you say?
Cobber9 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Listen, if your comfortable with this guy then who cares, as for his son, he will move out, get old to, and it wont be such a big deal. I wouldnt worry about it. The general rule is 1/2 your age +7, so if he is 39, then he typically shouldnt date below 26, but again who cares. Maybe your mature looking and he is young looking. It really just matters if your happy or not. Of course there are alot of men you could date, but good on him for getting a 19 year old. I was 39 and dated a 25 year old, I loved it, we fell in love, but it didnt work long term because we had different goals and I couldnt trust her. It was the hardest break up of my life and no one really ever compared after that, we were together 6 years. Amor Fati - Latin for love your fate. A philosophy that yields that you cant do anything about the past, and you should worry less about the future, and enjoy today.
Cobber9 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 ...its a reference to Silence of the Lambs, a movie, refers to further analysis of daddy issues
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Katyerine do you look and dress mature for your age would you say? If I dont wear makeup people think I'm a freshmen in HS, but with makeup I usually get 17/18. But for the most part I dress maturely. The most immature thing in my closet is my pjs, which has hello kitty on it.
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Listen, if your comfortable with this guy then who cares, as for his son, he will move out, get old to, and it wont be such a big deal. I wouldnt worry about it. The general rule is 1/2 your age +7, so if he is 39, then he typically shouldnt date below 26, but again who cares. Maybe your mature looking and he is young looking. It really just matters if your happy or not. Of course there are alot of men you could date, but good on him for getting a 19 year old. I was 39 and dated a 25 year old, I loved it, we fell in love, but it didnt work long term because we had different goals and I couldnt trust her. It was the hardest break up of my life and no one really ever compared after that, we were together 6 years. Amor Fati - Latin for love your fate. A philosophy that yields that you cant do anything about the past, and you should worry less about the future, and enjoy today. We still have a lot to work out, but I really like that philosophy. I'll keep a note of it
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 ...its a reference to Silence of the Lambs, a movie, refers to further analysis of daddy issues Ohh, I get it. I don't think I heard of that movie before.
xxoo Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Ohh, I get it. I don't think I heard of that movie before. It came out when your bf was in high school 4
Cobber9 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 It came out when your bf was in high school So true, so true, he will have alot of movies to show her, or they could just watch hot tub time machine
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 So true, so true, he will have alot of movies to show her, or they could just watch hot tub time machine haha we actually watched hot tub time machine on dvd. He hated it. I thought it was hilarious.
Radu Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Ohh, I get it. I don't think I heard of that movie before. Movie's good, but i recommend the book ... at night, alone in your room with the lights dimmed.
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Movie's good, but i recommend the book ... at night, alone in your room with the lights dimmed. it's probably a scary book knowing you.....
LittlePrince Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I just think it would be a shame for her to miss out on the experience of dating hot, fun college guys while she is a college girl. Guys at the same stage of life. That's part of the whole college experience, one you cannot duplicate later. Women lament those relationships for the rest of their lives and then feel every man they date has the duty of coddling these past hurts they had nothing to do with. I'd recommend skipping them. Younger guys will do as they please and won't care what the girl feels. Whatever problems you are going through with your older man will only get worse with a man under 25. How many people do you know who have had good dating experiences in high school or college? We all know it is none. FitChick and friends are pushing a lame duck as a plump Christmas goose since they take issue with something completely superficial and will nitpick this relationship to death until not even the marrow is left. We could do that to any relationship and even the most stable relationship will falter. This is why these women are still single or unhappy. No relationship will be perfect enough for them. 1
OhHey Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 He's too old, oght to be slapped in the face, it'll seem great at first, but in a while and forever....it won't work... Get out...and get out now, spend your young life care free, get educated, do something with your life and don't settle for somone old enough to be your dad. You're 19....19.....seriously..... drop this and see what life is realy about and just have fun.... WAY to early to get tied down. 1
Rabbit-foot Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 As someone who was always attracted to older guys, I'll weight in on this. My first relationship was with a 53 year old man. BUT I was 23. I knew I was always attracted to older guys, the guys I first fell for was a 55 year old and I was 16. But I never pursued him or any of my subsequent crushes (who all ranged in the 50-60 range). The reason I never pursued them was because I really thought about how gross it would be if a man 50+ was attracted to a teenager. When I hit adulthood, meaning 18, I still didn't because essentially, I knew I was still a teenager. Despite me thinking I was mature for my age and not being able to relate to anyone my age, I knew I really had nothing to offer emotionally to someone that old. And it still held true when I met that 53 year old I mentioned earlier. It was just a fun, little fling. He was bored and lonely and so was I and we connected over that. I did like him as a person and vice-versa but there was nothing between us except physical attraction and the fact we share some minor common interests. We still like eachother and talk at parties when we get a chance, but the attraction fizzled out a looong time ago. Your guy sounds like he has issues. Who gets jealous of their kid? He's sounds like a little boy trapped in a man's body. And you sound like you're being taken advantage of. Seriously, focus on college. This is your first foray into the 'adult word'. See if you don't change in another year or two. 1
Author Katyerine8993 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 As someone who was always attracted to older guys, I'll weight in on this. My first relationship was with a 53 year old man. BUT I was 23. I knew I was always attracted to older guys, the guys I first fell for was a 55 year old and I was 16. But I never pursued him or any of my subsequent crushes (who all ranged in the 50-60 range). The reason I never pursued them was because I really thought about how gross it would be if a man 50+ was attracted to a teenager. When I hit adulthood, meaning 18, I still didn't because essentially, I knew I was still a teenager. Despite me thinking I was mature for my age and not being able to relate to anyone my age, I knew I really had nothing to offer emotionally to someone that old. And it still held true when I met that 53 year old I mentioned earlier. It was just a fun, little fling. He was bored and lonely and so was I and we connected over that. I did like him as a person and vice-versa but there was nothing between us except physical attraction and the fact we share some minor common interests. We still like eachother and talk at parties when we get a chance, but the attraction fizzled out a looong time ago. Your guy sounds like he has issues. Who gets jealous of their kid? He's sounds like a little boy trapped in a man's body. And you sound like you're being taken advantage of. Seriously, focus on college. This is your first foray into the 'adult word'. See if you don't change in another year or two. yeah, I sat down and spoke with him like an hour or so ago, and it's not going to work. He's not responding like how he should be as father or as someone to be serious with. I guess he was just shocked that I even cared and brought up his son or how I viewed our relationship in general because he said this exactly,"You're young, I didnt think you would think or care about that stuff." -__- I didnt break up with him, yet. I'll have my last hurrah and leave in a few days. Thanks everyone for your advice. It really helped me narrow what I should focus on in my relationship.
ascendotum Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Women lament those relationships for the rest of their lives and then feel every man they date has the duty of coddling these past hurts they had nothing to do with. I'd recommend skipping them. Younger guys will do as they please and won't care what the girl feels ...... No relationship will be perfect enough for them. It was good LS helped you OP. As long as both partners are happy and not being mislead as to their expectations I don't think it really matters, though the older child in this case did complicate things and understandably made her a bit uneasy. I didn't read every post but I noticed there was totally opposite reasons given here by women for abandoning the relationship...that he wont be serious and it wont work long term, but then.. that she go out and have fun and date around, to.. he will want to be serious but then.. she shouldn't be tied down.
Professor X Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 "You're young, I didnt think you would think or care about that stuff." Not that I am the type of person to say I told you so (or am I?) P.S. I hope you know that he sees you as he sees his son. If you think he takes you more seriously, you are gravely mistaken. By the sound of things, you get the kicks of banging an older guy who's somewhat of a father figure to you and he's getting off banging a hot young chick.
Lexii94 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 yeah, I sat down and spoke with him like an hour or so ago, and it's not going to work. He's not responding like how he should be as father or as someone to be serious with. I guess he was just shocked that I even cared and brought up his son or how I viewed our relationship in general because he said this exactly,"You're young, I didnt think you would think or care about that stuff." -__- I didnt break up with him, yet. I'll have my last hurrah and leave in a few days. Thanks everyone for your advice. It really helped me narrow what I should focus on in my relationship. Well,at least you wanted the sex too... 1
LittlePrince Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 LOL. And that's what these 40+ guys who want to play with young girls BANK on - that you're too young and too naive to know the difference. Guys don't think and care about that kind of stuff so they assume women will be the same though women are obsessed with age. They spend all their days thinking about it. That's why there are so many ad campaigns preying on this fixation. I talk sometimes to a girl in her early 20's and she has mentioned her youth on a few occasions. When I was her age I didn't think of myself as young or had any thoughts on my youth cross my mind. The only time I think about my age is when creepy old people mention it or when I get carded. I am frickin' 30 and got carded to see The Dictator. That was ridiculous.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Listen, if your comfortable with this guy then who cares, as for his son, he will move out, get old to, and it wont be such a big deal. I wouldnt worry about it. The general rule is 1/2 your age +7, so if he is 39, then he typically shouldnt date below 26, but again who cares. Maybe your mature looking and he is young looking. It really just matters if your happy or not. Of course there are alot of men you could date, but good on him for getting a 19 year old. I was 39 and dated a 25 year old, I loved it, we fell in love, but it didnt work long term because we had different goals and I couldnt trust her. It was the hardest break up of my life and no one really ever compared after that, we were together 6 years.. I want to know who made up this mathematical equation and what it's based on. Its always a guy who whips out this equation but there is never actually no real logic behind it.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Guys don't think and care about that kind of stuff so they assume women will be the same though women are obsessed with age. They spend all their days thinking about it. That's why there are so many ad campaigns preying on this fixation. I talk sometimes to a girl in her early 20's and she has mentioned her youth on a few occasions. When I was her age I didn't think of myself as young or had any thoughts on my youth cross my mind. The only time I think about my age is when creepy old people mention it or when I get carded. I am frickin' 30 and got carded to see The Dictator. That was ridiculous. Give me a break. Men are obsessed with age just as much. I actually have found that men seem to be more fearful of aging then women. I see so many women in my life who welcome the next stage of their life (and it's a relief to be honest) while I see a lot of men still trying to pretend they are 25. I'm not saying this makes men bad or they are dating 19 year olds. I mean, I see them physically trying to compete with younger guys when they simply can't keep up anymore. I really think women adapt better to aging then I've seen men do so. Which is also why I think men are more likely to date younger women then women date younger men. I think a lot of men that do that are looking to feel young and recapture their youth despite knowing that they are aging. They have a less realistic viewpoint on aging. Now that isn't all men, I am of course generalizing. But from how I hear men talk and what I see men do, I think they struggle more with aging then women do ironically enough.
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