the gym

[Own Worst Enemy]

just a quick note to say that i wouldn't have believed it could help as much as it does... but it really does. i went in there on saturday, crying my eyes out over how much it hurt to be the first saturday with no silly texts and emails from him all day. and came out of there feeling much much better.

 

off there again at 7pm tonight, however much my body is saying, but it's cold and wet and i'm TIRED......

 

so for anyone who hasn't tried it yet, it actually shockingly surprisingly really and totally might help.

[johan]

Anything good you can do for yourself. The gym. Eating right. Getting enough sleep. Cleaning up your place and making some improvements. Calling distant relatives or old friends. Helping someone with something. All that stuff can give you a boost and put the relationship into perspective.

 

Keep it up.

[hinatticus]

It's strange, but not really; when you do(doing is key-don't just think) positive things, you feel positive. That will make others around you feel positive and good which in turn makes you feel positive and good. It's a non-vicious cycle. Ever notice that if you are around grumpsters they bring you down? Happy goofy people bring you up. If you're sad and down you need a catalyst(gym-releases endorphins, eating right(self explanatory), cleaning house: all positives) to make you feel positive. Once you're somewhat happy keep surrounding yourself around happy goofy things and soon your negative thoughts will disappear.

[Savage4]

The gym is probably my number one biggest help in dealing with breakups. It is almost unbelievable how much better I feel after completing a workout. I hadn't seen the inside of a gym in probably 3 months before my breakup and now I go 5 days a week. I don't recall a single time leaving the gym that I didn't feel better then when I got there. The hardest part is finding the motivation to get there.

 

Why the gym is so great:

1. Exercise gets endorphins flowing - it releases hormones that naturally brighten your mood.

2. It is good stress relief: all that pent up stress can be physically exercised out. It's also a great time to think and reflect.

3. It gets you out of the house: After the dust has settled from the breakup I tend to 'pull away' and seclude myself. This only makes me very depressed and lonely. When I go to the gym it forces me to get back out there. It's something to do with a friend or if I go by myself I people-watch a lot and it gets my mind off my ex.

4. I am improving my body and self image: I not only feel better emotionally but my body is physically improving as well which helps boost my self-esteem. I am healthier and have more energy.

5. I feel accomplishment: After completing a workout I feel a sense of accomplishment and success. I feel like I have a purpose again. I feel mentally and physically stronger.

6. Becoming more attractive overall: I felt like such a loser for about a month after my initial breakup. I was drinking heavily every day, eating poorly, moping around feeling sorry for myself and extremely depressed. I wanted to get back with my ex but I put myself in her shoes and realized how pathetic and unattractive that behavior was. I had given this woman so much power over me. Her decision to leave me made me all but give up on my life. Why would I give anyone that much power over my well-being? She never knew how bad things got and how down I was. Now, when she sees me maybe she will have some regret for leaving me.

[EricaH329]

Good for you!! It was always hard for me to stay motivated enough to keep up with the gym, but I found alternative activities that helped

 

Not only is it making you feel better about yourself, you're going to look amazing by the time you are fully over him!! What a great way to make yourself feel AWESOME and a nice way to get revenge

 

Keep up the great work!!!

[Own Worst Enemy]

And ESP erica... Thank you for that extra motivation, made me smile!

[Lexa]

true, it's quite amazing. I never thought it could help as much as it does. keep up the good work