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Do I Still Have a Chance?


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I met a guy about a year ago who I was really into, funny, smart, very good looking, exactly what I want in a guy, etc. But he was the ex of my good friend, so I felt uncomfortable about pursuing him too aggressively. (My friend said it was fine.) I flirted with him three or four different times, but he didn't give me the time of day, so I gave up.

Around the same time, I met a different guy, and we clicked pretty well. We started hanging out more and more.

Eventually, Guy A started paying more attention to me. He'd text me a lot and finally told me he liked me.

But by then I'd been hanging out with Guy B for 2-3 months and I'd really fallen for him. I told Guy A I couldn't date him, as I was seeing someone else.

 

Since then Guy A and I have hung out occasionally. I was still attracted to him, but I made it clear that I was very committed to my boyfriend. Guy A started flaking out on me... making plans and then backing out of them at the last minute. This made me sad, but I realized he was moving on since I was into my boyfriend, so I didn't say anything.

 

About a month ago, my boyfriend dumped me. It's been really hard, but I'm trying to be strong. I've been wondering if I should contact Guy A and confess that I'm still attracted to him.... but I don't want to make him feel like a rebound. I'm thinking that I just blew my chances with him by choosing my old boyfriend, and that I just need to let it go. But if there's still a chance, I'd like to try.

 

Should I confess my feelings, or should I just leave him alone?

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If someone came back right after they broke up and wanted to date me, I'd feel like

a) Choice #2

b) Rebound.

 

 

Give it some time, and then try.

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