Suzanne42 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Every time I meet this guy I really like I start smiling broadly. I can't even hold a normal conversation with him without bursting into a smile. I don't know what gets into me during those times. I try hard to stop but the smile is always hovering right there. I feel so nervous when m with him because I know he thinks m strange for smiling so much unnecessarily. See v r not dating each other or anything. We r just good friends. I have never actually considered dating him though I wish to go for a movie together with him sometime in the future. Now m afraid my stupid smile will give him wrong ideas and put a stop to my movie plans.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 There are a lot of women who turn poker face and standoffish to guys they like. So I'd like to meet a woman who was the opposite. You need to stop being friends with the dude if you can't contain yer emotions.
aal763 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I would love it if women would smile at me more often. All guys aren't just interested in boobs and asses. It's the small things that matter most.
Author Suzanne42 Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 @Oxy: Why should I stop being friends just bcose my smile gives me away? We are very close friends. I really enjoy his company, its just that its difficult to appear sober around him. Any other suggestions?
january2011 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 I know he thinks m strange for smiling so much unnecessarily Did he say that you were smiling unnecessarily?
january2011 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 No he didn't In that case, what gives you the impression that it's a problem for him?
Author Suzanne42 Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 Bcose he truly opens up very rarely. Sometimes I think there's lot more on his mind but he refuses to share it until the moment seems right. Sometimes he shares & suddenly v have run out of words to say. Then there r times when he subtlely tries to give the indication he needs his space yet whenever he is in 2 minds about something, he seeks my opinion. Cmon, I deserve more than this so I thought v shud go out. V have only gone out once together, after that he suddenly withdrew into himself. Nowadays he talks more but m not sure how things will progress.
El Brujo Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Every time I meet this guy I really like I start smiling broadly. I can't even hold a normal conversation with him without bursting into a smile. I don't know what gets into me during those times. I try hard to stop but the smile is always hovering right there. I feel so nervous when m with him because I know he thinks m strange for smiling so much unnecessarily. See v r not dating each other or anything. We r just good friends. I have never actually considered dating him though I wish to go for a movie together with him sometime in the future. Now m afraid my stupid smile will give him wrong ideas and put a stop to my movie plans. You're right to be concerned. If you're blonde, smiling all the time will make people think you're a ditz.
january2011 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Bcose he truly opens up very rarely. Sometimes I think there's lot more on his mind but he refuses to share it until the moment seems right. Sometimes he shares & suddenly v have run out of words to say. Then there r times when he subtlely tries to give the indication he needs his space yet whenever he is in 2 minds about something, he seeks my opinion. Cmon, I deserve more than this so I thought v shud go out. V have only gone out once together, after that he suddenly withdrew into himself. Nowadays he talks more but m not sure how things will progress. I don't think his behaviour is down to your smiling. He could be shy or an introvert and that's why he keeps himself more closed off. As you said, he talks more nowadays. I think that's a good sign and might well have been brought about because of your smiling at him often. I suggest patience and to keep smiling.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Hi Suzanne42, (smiling as I type), I think you are probably being self-conscious to a fault. Most people do not concentrate on how others look, they are concerned more with how they look to others. If you can learn to assume this to be fact, you will learn a great key to looking confident and overcoming shyness. If you like this guy but haven't yet though you'd like to engage with him and find out, take the excessive impetus off how he perceives the minutia of you smile or changes in facial expression from second to second and invest in normal banter. And here's where you can apply a technique to overcome your preoccupation. Observe how he handles interplay with you and if he seems interested, friendly or does he seem to want to avoid you. Don't take any of it personally. If he seems friendly and/or possibly interested, there is no doubt that your perceived excessive smiling has NOT damaged your chances with him and you may proceed engaging with him casually, but just keep in mind that he is just another person who hopes to get his demeanor right too and is not there to pass judgement on you. If he shows no interest, just take it as disinterest because most men will take a female's smiling AS interest.
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