ziggue Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 There is this guy I really like. We had met when I was Overseas on holiday in Hawaii and had a bit of a fling over there. I added him on Facebook when I got back home back in Australia and started poking him a few weeks later on there. Just for the fun of it. I suddenly get a message on there from him. He seemed keen to get back in regular contact. The first time we spoke to each other since I had gotten back home in Australia was on Skype, which was his idea. The guy seemed really nice. He complimented me, told me good things about himself and was keen to stay in contact as well. Reckon that is a good sign? He had also encouraged me to message him from time to time. I had done this since. Only sent about two flirty messages casually to him. He sent one back complimenting my other one to him. Then he suggested we go on Skype again. Only this time he suggested to Sex Skype. I was taken back by that! I did not know how to comment back and just responded with not tonight. Maybe another time. He was like aww! After I just went on about how it sux that we both live in different countries. Got no response after that. I was tempted to Skype Sex but then got fully paranoid that he could record it and put it online and show it around. If he asks again about it. Definitely saying no. Pretty confused. Not sure if all the guy wanted was just sex or not. Seems like that to me and that he was just buttering me up with the first Skype call. Just glad that I could see through his bull**** and not go through with it. Guess I will know if he contacts me again after today or not. If he really is genuine about getting to know me personally or not. What do you guys reckon ?? Advice please !!
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 From the overall vibe of your post it seems to be just a sexually casual thing. I don't think he's in it for more, he's making those early on efforts guys sometimes do after they've slept with you and still feel into it, but from what you've said about his responses and efforts it doesn't seem deeper. I'm not sure what you expect out of this, he's probably very much aware that the potential to stay in contact with you and actually be able to see you, so I doubt he's going to invest much unless you can try and keep it interesting by getting naked on skype for him...you're still in his sexual cross-hairs basically, that's the main thing on his mind when he thinks about you. If he's really interested then he's going to put aside of a lot of his time to talk to you/chat. If he starts treating you like a casual contact and just goes on with his life then he's not really that interested, plus logistically It might not even be feasible. Personally I would just chalk this up as an experience and move on before you become further invested emotionally...however If you really need to see how invested or interested in you he is emotionally then test it and see what he's willing to do and say to keep you a main focus in his life..of course he might not be able to take action and that's what can make this complicated...guys can say a lot of nice things but not go through with it especially If he's not around to have to prove it. Also this response: He was like aww! Made him sound like a major douche to me.
Emilia Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Sounds like he wants you to do a lot of the work by encouraging you to message him but the way a I read it, he hasn't initiated much of it himself. Is that correct? Is he long distance away? I'd say this is casual interest at the most.
Author ziggue Posted May 14, 2012 Author Posted May 14, 2012 (edited) I know. That is what I was thinking when he suggested to send texts and messages. At least I barely did that but. Only had messaged first like once or twice. The rest was all his doing. After I got his attention on Facebook by poking him. He was the one that was messaging me first. I was pretty surprised he actually got back in contact with me. Only did that for the fun of it. Still was slightly interested but did not think nothing of it. He is from Hawaii and I am from Australia. Yes. It will be interesting to see if he still contacts me after this but not holding my breath. Any more thoughts on this people?? Edited May 14, 2012 by ziggue
pteromom Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 It was a vacation fling. You live in different countries. You had sex with him. He's hoping to continue having sex with you the only way he can (Skype). Yes, it's just sex. Either have fun with it or let it go.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 It was a vacation fling. You live in different countries. You had sex with him. He's hoping to continue having sex with you the only way he can (Skype). Yes, it's just sex. Either have fun with it or let it go. This is it.
Author ziggue Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 Feel uncomfortable with the idea of the whole Skype sex deal. It is not even technically sex! Well. Sex with another person. LoL. Why Skype sex when he can pick up quite easily back in Hawaii?!! I have no problems picking up back here either! Plus. He is not even my boyfriend so don't really see the point of it and really paranoid of the thought of him recording it if I did go ahead with it and god knows where that will end up then. Did end up liking him but think the whole thing is so not worth it. Better then that and deserve a proper relationship with someone who actually lives in my area.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Feel uncomfortable with the idea of the whole Skype sex deal. It is not even technically sex! Well. Sex with another person. LoL. Why Skype sex when he can pick up quite easily back in Hawaii?!! I have no problems picking up back here either! Plus. He is not even my boyfriend so don't really see the point of it and really paranoid of the thought of him recording it if I did go ahead with it and god knows where that will end up then. Did end up liking him but think the whole thing is so not worth it. Better then that and deserve a proper relationship with someone who actually lives in my area. Don't confuse an "option" as "exclusivity"...If it's not confirmed you are together, don't assume or "feel" like you are together so you must be...that's just a ridiculous assumption when you could find out for sure through communication. "Why Skype sex when he can pick up quite easily back in Hawaii?!!" And you cannot do both because of why? If you're willing to strip on skype then I'm sure he'll make the appointment...when you're not taking off your clothes then he'll find another summer fling. You'd be a fool IMO to get naked for this guy in this day and age, he will definitely record it, possibly show his friends after saying "Brah...I banged this hot little Australian girl and now she's getting naked for me on skype!" ::shows friends so they can stare at your boobies and everything else:: Nothing is going to come from this, just take it for what it was.
Author ziggue Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 (edited) "Why Skype sex when he can pick up quite easily back in Hawaii?!!" And you cannot do both because of why? If you're willing to strip on skype then I'm sure he'll make the appointment...when you're not taking off your clothes then he'll find another summer fling. You'd be a fool IMO to get naked for this guy in this day and age, he will definitely record it, possibly show his friends after saying "Brah...I banged this hot little Australian girl and now she's getting naked for me on skype!" ::shows friends so they can stare at your boobies and everything else:: Nothing is going to come from this, just take it for what it was. Definitely do not want that! Hence the main reason why I did not go through with it. I am pretty tech savvy and know how easily something like this can get out there. Online, through friends. No thanks! Funny how I have not heard from him since. . The only reason I agreed to skype him was for friendship. Not for Skype sex! His loss I reckon. Edited May 15, 2012 by ziggue
Leegh Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 It sounds as if he likes you. You could suggest he visit you, many people travel by air for a long week-end or something. If you suggested him visiting you, you may get a clearer picture of his feelings, by how he responds.
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