hurting1982 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 My boyfriend of 6 months split up with me about 3 weeks ago. He said that the spark had gone and we had become more of a friends type of relationship. We only argued once during our rime together and I honestly think that the reason the spark went was because we got too comfortable not doing much together and the fact we didn't talk when things started going wrong. We started out amazing and couldn't get enough of each other. I can't get him out of my head and want to ask him for another chance to try rectify our relationship. We didn't have a nasty break up and we've been in contact quite frequently since the split. Please help me with what to say and do?
Ajax Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Relationships that burn that hot really leave a scar when they go cold so quickly. They're so hard to get over. It becomes an addiction, and you need your fix, but that doesn't mean it's really good for you. So lets play the scenario out. You ask for another chance. What do you think his reaction will be? How would you feel if he says no? How would you feel if he says yes but it still doesn't work? I think the frequent contact might be giving you false hope. It so often does. We think that since they're still in our life, even in a limited manner, they still have part of the fire left that was there before, and if you play your cards right, you can get it burning again. But usually it's just a fantasy. I feel for you, hurting1982, but I think the best thing would be to let this go.
jennisfora Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 3 weeks is way too early to be asking that, if he left you, he needs to be the one to bring it up, you bringing it up will just be perceived as pressure. you are better off going NC to heal, rather than waiting for him to change his mind. *hugs*
Rorschach64 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Ajax and jennisfora are, in my opinion, right. Listen to them and do NC. Though that comment about getting TOO comfortable in a relationship....well I do not believe there is such thing as TOO comfortable, because you should want to be comfortable in a relationship. Next time just talk about your concerns with your significant other don't let it just pass by, that's the worse thing ever to do. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 why do you want to be with someone who dumped you? Go NC; it's better for you.
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