brokendreamz Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Following on from my Marriag poll thread, I noticed one reply using the expression 'Forever relationship' ie: 16 is too young to start your 'Forever Relationship'. This got me thinking... At what age would you say is the perfect time to begin a 'Forever relationship'. Obviously this will be different for everyone but I'd be interested in hearing from you all. Cheers.
Sadwife37 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I believe I had made the above quote on your earlier poll. But I have no idea of the correct answer. My spouse and I started out together as children. We had virtually no relationship experience. Looking back I believe that was our problem. Not the actual age but the fact that we had no history outside of each other. I do know some couples start very young and are very successful. Unfortunately that wasn't my case. It is hard to choose someone when that person is all you have ever known. Are you really even choosing them? My belief would be that it is best to experience relationships. Date, get to know people, have sex or at least sexual contact with people - not just one person. My husband had been with me since 16. He had never had sex with anyone else. At 34 when a new sexy woman started flirting with him it was very flattering and tempting. I don't know that the outcome would have been different if we had gotten together at 25 instead of 16, but I think there is a good chance that it would have been.
Radu Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 At the age where you understand that it is a comitement and nobody owes you a damn thing. That you put it more than you take out and that life is not full of roses. That you need to talk things through instead of allowing them to be set in stone and neglecting the elephant that keeps growing up in the room with you. If you start a 'forever relationship' at a point in your life where you don't understand these things without society enforcing these views on you and removing the possibility of a 'reset' button [divorce], and your relationship lasts to old age [with both of you happy in it] then you are one of the lucky few couples to do so.
paksit Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 there is really no certain age. Only you and your partner can tell.
RiverRunning Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 At the age where you understand that it is a comitement and nobody owes you a damn thing. That you put it more than you take out and that life is not full of roses. That you need to talk things through instead of allowing them to be set in stone and neglecting the elephant that keeps growing up in the room with you. If you start a 'forever relationship' at a point in your life where you don't understand these things without society enforcing these views on you and removing the possibility of a 'reset' button [divorce], and your relationship lasts to old age [with both of you happy in it] then you are one of the lucky few couples to do so. Right on. Acknowledging this, I'd say that for MOST people, starting the rest-of-your-life relationship at 16 is unlikely. I'd say that for most people, they need to be at least 20 before this is a possibility. 18 or 19 for a very bottom limit, though.
Radagast Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I don't think one can speak in absolutes. Close friends of ours got together in high school having known each other almost since birth and are still happily and faithfully together. I was just out of school when I met my ex-wife (she was older, and used me to exit her "unhappy" marriage) and while my family and friends cautioned me that I was far too young for anything so serious I did manage to make it last several decades, although much of that was wool-chewing misery. Now from the comfort of middle age I can look at my wife and know that ours is a "forever relationship" because we ave a wealth of experience between us and wonderful support systems to allow us to cope with what life passes our way, as long as we continue to choose to make our marriage our priority. My wife and I both have children from our previous marriages. Her children are now older than she was when she married, my children are now older than when I got together with their mother and we are ecstatic that they seemed to have imbibed the lesson about pairing up too seriously too soon. 1
january2011 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 After you've 'lived', are fairly stable (particularly emotionally and financially), been around the dating block and are ready to commit yourself to one person for the rest of your life. If I must give an arbitrary age range, I'd say, anywhere between your mid-20s to early 30s.
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