Unremarkable Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I broke up with my bf about a year and a half ago (he left me). There has been limited contact via text message every 2-4 months, which usually involves him starting a conversation - then a few messages in, just stops replying (even to open questions). He seemed to message me when I was somewhere interesting with a new person, or because he wanted something (computer help, interview advice.. whatever). I sent him a Christmas card and got no acknowledgement until I asked about it when he text me at Christmas. Roll on a more few months and he emails me asking for computer help. I just ignored it as I was fed up just being used when he obviously doesn't care how I am as he hasn't messaged me in months. The next day he sent a text asking how I was, which I ignored as well. I then get another message saying he's just about managed with the computer thing, and asking how I was again. I didn't reply. 2 minutes later I get a message from his friend about an unrelated issue (reply test game obviously). I ignore this until the following day then reply. I then get another text from my ex asking the same question asking how I am again (3rd time now..). I also ignore this. Basically... should I just ignore all contact from him? It feels really childish, but he treats me badly by rarely contacting me with selfish intentions, and would likely just ignore me half way through a conversation anyway. This ultimately makes me upset as I spend time thinking about the loss of the relationship which makes me sad. I feel bad ignoring somebody I used to love, and don't know if it is better or worse than just replying with a civil 'I'm fine thanks'. Thanks
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Ignore him; it's over. He's being selfish by contacting you; there are others he can ask for help. Seems he's hoping you give him some kind of ego boost. 3
flitzanu Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 there's actually no rules anywhere that you are obligated to speak to anyone. you're free to pick and choose your own friends!! 1
Eddie Edirol Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 You can ignore him until he fizzles, its not uncivil, you have to think of your own sanity in this situation. But if you really want him to stop, send him one text that says "I have no interest in talking to you, you will now be blocked" And block his number. If he keeps contacting, change the number. 1
TaraMaiden Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Read the 'Caliguy No Contact' guide in my signature, and understand exactly why it is 100% necessary. 1
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