acamellis Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 This is my first post on this forum and it's about exactly what the title says. First some background information on myself. I just graduated from a prestigious university and starting my professional career as a pilot. I've always been very outgoing and never afraid to talk to any girl because of my "What do I have to lose mentality?" This mentality is changing after a now 50 failed attempts just to talk to women over the last couple years. I don't think I'm terrible looking as I do get occasional compliments, definitely interesting, easy to converse with, and financially secure. My friends all come to me for advice on how to talk/interest and get dates with girls and my advice works wonderfully for them and they think me some kind of Hitch. I seem to be cursed, however. These failures are not attempts at hookups or any other carnal relations but just conversation and perhaps a date. Of the 50 over half have not even given the decency of returning my call, message, what have you. Even in person I've had girls blow me off and literally turn away from me rather than just telling me "F*%& off!" Which I would actually rather. Sorry a lot of this is me venting. btw it wasn't my idea to count the failures but my friends do because now they find my horrible slump unbelievable and decided to document it.
ascendotum Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Understandably you are getting a bit disillusioned. Couple of questions for you OP. You describe yourself as "don't think I'm terrible looking". I dont mean any offence by this, but this is also a nice way of saying someone is not attractive looking, too. Good looks will mean more to many young girls than the university you went to or that you're financially secure. We don't know what sort of girls you are flirting with and beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but would you describe them as just 'not terrible looking' or 'cute & sexy? Its ironic you are helping your mates to get success...are they dating girls any different from what you would? I got the impression you quite often are getting girl's numbers, but it falls flat after that. Are all these girls randoms that you hit on when you go out and Are they flirting back with you & giving you good indicators of interest, or do you just ask them for their number after chatting as a matter of policy? Seems your mates view you as simply cursed. See if can get any feedback from close female friends or your mate's gfs.
Emilia Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Hi OP, there are a few guys here who use cold approach and hopefully they will chip in with some advice. In the meantime it would help if you told us more about your style. What kind of women do you go for? Do you have a type or do you mix it up? What places do you approach them at? Is alcohol involved much of the time?
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