Christine52 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 She's continuously looking at my lips and I eventually kiss her. Her response: "I was wondering when you were going to work that in.." By the time the movie finishes it's 2:30 in the morning. Before I leave we make-out, she says "if you keep this up, you're not going to want to leave.." :S If you're just looking for a fling, ok, But if you want a serious, real relationship, she sounds really...loose? I would want to date a classy, sophisticated, yet fun loving woman who has enough respect for herself not to throw herself at someone she just met, even if it's someone great. I would move on, if you just want to have fun, sure, go ahead and pursue, but I think it's a waste of time. Plus, you don't want to get anything else coming home with you if you know what I mean
dasein Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 You need to CALL her as others have said. If she thought you were "cheap" for splitting a ten dollar drink tab, good for you for screening out low quality. Leave her to the suckers who will happily squander money on women they don't know.
maybealone Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I really can't believe a woman cannot invite a man to her house unless she wants to have sex with him. So all dates have to be in public places, even though it could cost a lot of money in dinners and drinks and movies before both people are ready to have sex because we can't order pizza or watch a DVD without the whole world thinking I'm easy. Man, I am not looking forward to dating again if that's the case. OP, I agree with the others that said to call and to offer plans to take her out somewhere. The champagne idea was a little forward, and concrete dinner plans are always better than the idea that you might get some food if you both feel like it. 1
bac Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 What confuses me the most is the text she sent me after the date.. Why send me a text saying you had a great time and want to see me again if.. Well... You don't?" That is easy. If she says it right, you will ask her out for the second date. The fact will prove her value and it is an approval she needs badly because no one wants to feel rejected. Next step, when you ask her out, she will reject you because she wants to hurt you and because she has already got the approval. You really do things wrong and I would reject you too. I do not forgive men if they want me to pay for anything. And, I prefer to reject and hurt them on my terms when they become most vulnerable emotionally.
ThaWholigan Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 You really do things wrong and I would reject you too. I do not forgive men if they want me to pay for anything. And, I prefer to reject and hurt them on my terms when they become most vulnerable emotionally. ????? Explain......
Andy_K Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I don't think this is about her thinking you're cheap, insecure, or anything of that sort. Quite simply you waited 4 days before trying to ask her out again, by which time she'd got herself another date. She has so far ignored the other texts because you're no longer her top priority. Honestly... the sort of girl who is forward and proactive enough to invite you home on a first date and drop obvious hints about kissing her or make flirty comments about staying over, is not the sort of girl who will go very long without a date - be it her chasing someone else or vice versa.
bac Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 ????? Explain...... For example, the type of rejection the girl did. She could reject him earlier when he was wrong. For example, in the bar or in her place. But, she did it later when she got what she wanted. She wanted the approval of her value. She wanted to make sure that he did not want to pay in the bar and did not want to f...k her in her apartment because he was not good enough himself =he was kind of stupied. If she rejected him in the bar or in her place she might think that he did all the strange things because she was not good enough = kind of unattractive woman.
ThaWholigan Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 For example, the type of rejection the girl did. She could reject him earlier when he was wrong. For example, in the bar or in her place. But, she did it later when she got what she wanted. She wanted the approval of her value. She wanted to make sure that he did not want to pay in the bar and did not want to f...k her in her apartment because he was not good enough himself =he was kind of stupied. If she rejected him in the bar or in her place she might think that he did all the strange things because she was not good enough = kind of unattractive woman. I see. I was confused, I thought you were saying that you reject guys when they were at their most emotionally vulnerable.
Author JC90 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Surprisingly, she got back to me Tuesday evening... HER: Hey you. ME: Hey *name*, what are you up to? HER: Fixing to pass out. I just realized I didn't get back at you.. I've got work super early this week... I don't think I can swing date night ME: It's all good. Maybe next week. HER: Also, this is what I did tonight.. *she sends me a pic of her and a baby* HER: Babysat! ME: Lucky kid ..Whose baby? HER: My friends that I've known from bootcamp.. His name's *name*. You getting thunder over in blah? ME: Ahh cool. And nope, no thunder over this way.. Pretty sure there's a storm warning though. You getting any over there in the hard streets of blah? (<--- inside joke) HER: Yeah, I'm loving it. I've got the windows open and there's a crop of honeysuckle blooming - it's blowing right in my window.. Kinda amazing ME: Sounds like a near perfect night.. All you're missing is a bottle of wine and great company ..Anyways, I've got some work to finish and I'm sure you need to get your ass to bed, so lemme text you a bit later this week.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Move on, dude. Quit wasting time with this broad.
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