Dulce_Angel_Whispers Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 ok so here goes... This has been awhile but I find myself thinking about this time and time again although I'm in a new relationship and everything but I'm seeking insight! About two years ago I met a guy online he lived in CA and me 2000 miles away here in the heart land of the USA anyway we talked EVERY night, morning before he went to work, and a lot on the phone! Well he was 30 yrs old 8 yrs my senior but talking to him and camming with him like face to face chats I begin to really fall for him. First off I never date white guys *american guys* always hispanic men and this was my first time considering dating a white guy. Anyway I fell for him and hard!! Long story short he decided he wanted me to come live with him in CA and I had IMed and face to face with cam chatted with his mom and all seemed well. He was a security guard at a casino, always saw him dressed in uniform and oh my he melted my heart! Anyway he sent me close to $500 (though I didn't ask him to or need him to he just sent it and called me to tell me it was on it's way) to go to CA and I had my bags packed and all. Two days before I was to leave for CA he didn't come online....ok that worried me but hey things come up! Well needless to say that night nothing nor the next day....finally his mom came online and told me he was out with another girl! His co-worker he had been dating for a month! I was floored, blown away because he had sent me the $ and made all the arangements. I finally got to talk to him and he admitted it and claimed he had bi-polar and was soooooo confused on what to do! It ended up being that he convinced me to change the ticket 3 times and on the 3rd time I realized it would never work he'd always string me along but needless to say I couldn't leave him alone. He IMed me saying he loved me wanted me and couldn't be without me! He swore he would come here and pick me up or move here...blah blah blah! Well it didn't happen and i ended all contact with him. I still think about him and wonder why would someone do that? I never had an online relationship before or after that now I stick to men in my area but I have to know...... WHY would someone do this? WHY would they part with their money when no one asked them to? WHY would they play such strong harsh emotional games with someone's life?? I still wish to talk to him at times but have no way of finding out his Screen name but I guess it's better that way.
honey2005 Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 Some guys are just jerks. There's not really anyway to tell which ones are good and which ones are losers, until you get to know them and learn the hard way. Not all online relationships are bad. I've had a friend on here for 3 years that I'm really really close to and would do anything for. But I've also met one who met me, visited me, said he liked me, then it turned out he had a gf back home all along. I guess some guys just really like hurting girls. I'm not sure why the guy you liked would waste money like that, maybe it was some sick game he liked to play. But maybe you shouldn't talk to him anymore, no matter how badly you want to. He doesn't seem like the kind of guy who cares who he hurts, especially if he would go and do that to you.
Dulce_Angel_Whispers Posted June 24, 2004 Posted June 24, 2004 I appreciate your response! It has been such a loooooong time since I've talked to him and I'm sure I will never again but the urge is still there because we clicked so well...(or so it seemed) I thought OMG I've found my soul mate! What a joke fate played on me!!!! I guess a part of me wishes I would have met him just once to see if the passion and feelings were there when we were live in life instead of cyberspace! I know he was a jerk and I was a fool for believeing it and that's why it's hard to understand (even after moving on to a relationship for a year or so hear where I live and I'm happy for the most part) but I still have that longing for a romance never completed! I know I'm a complete fool but since I'll never hear from him again I know it doesn't make a difference! Thanks for your response!
miz_barby Posted June 24, 2004 Posted June 24, 2004 Sorry to hear about your dilema! I can see how you would want to contact him...it's kinda like unresolved in your heart but you know the best thing is leave it alone! ALSO I'm suprised more people haven't responded to your post. There are so many responses to other posts and this one's been up since yesterday and no responses how sad!
Dulce_Angel_Whispers Posted June 24, 2004 Posted June 24, 2004 yes I know I try and respond to other posts but I was hoping to get some advice a lot of different POV'S but no one responded except you and one person. It's kind of sad really. Oh well what can I do?
FreeMe Posted June 24, 2004 Posted June 24, 2004 The part about him being bipolar explains it all. Have you read up on it? If not, you should. I'm sure there are plenty of websites that provide information about the disease. If you understand what having bipolar can do to a person, you'll probaby have a better understanding of why he behaved as he did. If he's not on the right medication or if he's not on medication at all, then his feelings, his ideas, his decisions are going to be all over the place - erratic. He was probably TRULY confused about what to do. I don't think he was intentionally trying to hurt you.
msrealdoll Posted June 24, 2004 Posted June 24, 2004 I agree with FreeMe. Being bipolar, he has problems controlling himself. It has nothing to do with you, or how he feels about you personally.
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