sobti1 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Two nights ago i ended it with my boyfriend because he lied to me and went somewhere behind my back, and i just can't deal with being lied to anymore. Just to clarify it wasn’t a strip club or anything like that and I’m not angry about where he went really im just angry that he lied about going and hid it from me, and is still denying it, even when I have some pretty good proof. I told him just come clean, tell me the truth and I’ll forgive you but he is still denying it. He keeps pestering me, calling me numerous times saying how he just cant live without me and blah blah. I told him the earlier he accepts that it’s over, the easier it will be for him. His friend even went to the extent of messaging me saying it wasn’t my boyfriend in the photo that I saw, it was someone else, yeah right. I am just hurt that he lied, if he had just told me, I wouldn’t care. And the annoying thing is, if I had done the same thing to him, and lied to him about going somewhere, HE WOULD FLIP and probably react worse than me. Now its as if he is trying to play mind games, last night after bugging me for a whole day, he said ‘maybe we are better off without each other, it was nice knowing you.’ BUT STILL didn’t admit to lying? And then this morning he sends me a text saying ‘its so hard to live without you, I don’t know how your coping but I really can’t cope.’ I told him this is for the best. If he admitted to it I probably would have forgiven him, I just HATE being lied to. But i am finding it really hard to cope... Ofcourse I didnt tell him that.
hinatticus Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I hate liars too. How many times has he lied to you? Is he compulsive or just a handful of times in your relationship. Did he lie about anything major? It's weird that you said you'd forgive him and he still doesn't come clean.
Chi townD Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Don't take this the wrong way. But, I think you were looking for any excuse to end it with him. I think you've decided that it was over and you needed one slip up from him to pull the trigger and end it. Making the demise of the relationship entirely his fault. Thus, abading your own guilt for ending 5 years. If it's because, you got bored with him lost feelings for him, can't trust him, don't love him anymore...... The least you can do is own up to your end of the demise of the relationship for any of those possible reasons and not end it on "pretty good" proof...not CONCRETE proof but, pretty good.
Author sobti1 Posted May 14, 2012 Author Posted May 14, 2012 Hi, Thanks for your reply. He has lied in the past, probably a few years ago but every other time he actually admitted to it, so I found it weird how this time he hasn't come clean. It hasn't really been anything too major. He keeps bugging me and its making it harder for me to move on. I know, if he just told the truth I would forgive him. But he is still being dishonest.
budley12 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 and you are a 100% sure he lied? and I agree... it seems that you are looking for an excuse to end things. Personally, I would not end a LTR over a minor lie like that. Don't get me wrong, I would be upset that he lied but is it really worth throwing away 5 years for? If you loved him you would forgive him and just talk things through. Maybe take a small break and go from there.
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