march31 Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year now. things were absolutely out of a fairy tale up until we were nine or ten months. we got into a really big arguement and decided to give each other a break. during that little break (only a week or two) he went out and kissed two other girls and was getting ready to sleep with one of them. and for whatever reason he didnt. im not saying im innocent either. i went out that same night drinking with the girls, met a guy and we danced and flirted a couple times. my boyfriend (ex at the time) walked in on me dancing with this guy and pulled me out and brought me home. ever since that night we have been terrible. the girl he kissed is someone i have hated since before that night and i fel like he betrayed me in more way than one. he has recently told me that he has lost confidence in me and i believe that it was because of that night. its not that we dont trust each other, its just that the trust is very low. he doesnt treat me like a queen like he used to. hes usually pretty rude to me in front of other people and is always telling me that he only treats me that way because he doesnt wanna be suprised when i 'leave him for someone else'. At the same time, i always ask him to constantly remind me of how he feels or what i mean to him or if he thinks im still beautiful. i guess its mostly because i use to be so sure how important i was to him and once that whole thing happened, i've been scared that hes going to betray me again. or that he might want something new. someone new. he tells me that these insecurities are what get hoim upset and get us arguing. i just dont know how to get over them. i guess what im trying to say is can anyone help the two of us to develop a stronger bond like we use to have? and help me with my insecurities?
TaraMaiden Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 you were dancing with a guy, but he actually kissed a girl and had plans to screw her? And he's mad at you and treating you like dirt? Don't you have this the wrong way round? If I were you I'd be making him crawl over hot coals to seek my forgiveness, not the other way round....!! You need to break from this guy completely because he's destroying your self-esteem and eroding your dignity. Crap, honey, get real!
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