Author horsesrule7 Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 (edited) There's no amount of effort, texts, apologies, excuses you can make to win him back, you're forgetting one huge thing horsies, and that's how he feels about you. When a guy doesn't feel the same way for you that you do for him, there's nothing you can do to make him feel that way, he has to do that for himself...but that's one thing that can't be changed...that's why it's empty and fruitless pouring all your emotions into it, it doesn't make a difference, it doesn't change anything because not seeing your GF for two months is pretty much a breakup as it is, that's way too long. But good news, Is I like your screen name! Hell, you might even live your life in this order! I can see it now.. - Unicorns Rule - Horses Rule - Girls Rule - Bitches Rule - Moms rule - Grandma Rocks! The thing is, I'm not trying to make him feel anything. I'm not trying to make up his mind for him. I understand that if he has his mind made up, you're right, no matter what I do or so, he won't change his mind. But all I'm saying is me explaining my feelings to him and telling him that I'm sorry isn't me trying to tell him what to think. I just want him to listen to what I have to say, and he can make up his own mind after that, because like you said, he has to do it himself. If there's a possibility of him doing it himself after I explain myself, then why shouldn't I give it one last chance?? Also, I forgot to mention another thought. You're right when you say a guy doesn't just be too busy for his gf for 2 whole months, and you're right when you say that guys don't just leave their girlfriend like that if they care about them. But it could also be that when he decided to end it, he was thinking ahead, to this summer. This summer he's going to get his lifeguarding job at a camp and he'll be gone for 6 weeks straight, with visits in between. On top of that, he'll be at his camp a lot and I'll be getting a job and going to camp as well. Maybe he was thinking ahead to how busy we'll be this summer, and when I sent that text saying that he needs to spend more time with me and treat me like his girlfriend every once in a while, he probably realized that it wouldn't work. He said himself that "things things will never be resolved and haven't even begun to change yet", meaning he's still going to be busy, I'm still going to be clingy and worried, and it will never work out. He also said that he thought breaking up would be best for us. So it sounds like, again, he was thinking ahead to this summer and he gave up. Now I realize that I don't care about not being able to see him. I can deal with a long distance relationship, as long as I know that he still cares and it's still worth it. If it means that I can be with him, I want to make it work even though we won't see each other that much this summer. I want to work on my insecurities and get better at not worrying so much, but I want to work on it with him because he makes me want to do that and to be a better person. Kinda cheesy, but true. I just don't know if he wants to do the same and try to make it work. That's why I need to talk to him. It's the only chance I have. If it doesn't work then it doesn't work. I'll accept that fact once I've given it one last shot. Edited May 18, 2012 by horsesrule7
xpaperxcutx Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Do you really want your ex back? DON'T CONTACT HIM. UNLESS HE HAS SOME STUFF YOU REALLY WANT BACK DON'T CONTACT HIM. That's it. Don't contact him and find something productive to do over the summer. If he's vlifeguarding ( where there are a lot of bikini babes around) find a job for hyourself where you meet a lot of cute guys. Don't contact him. You want to "fix" yourself? Don't contact him or spill your feelings to him. Go workout and gmake yourslef more confident. Buy some new dresses, get a makeover. Don't contact him. If you guys hang in the same circle, eventujally your ex will come back and he will hear from his friends. Let him come to you. Don't contact him. Men don't like whining. They either know they want tol be with someone or they don't. They certainly don't like to be guilt tripped into a relationship either. Don't contact him.
soserious1 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 horsesrule7, This young man pulled the classic "Slow Fade" on you by not contacting you for two months. When that didn't work he told you pretty clearly via text that it is OVER! He doesn't want to sit through a lengthy phone call listening to you explain your feelings or actions, if he did, he'd have called you to begin with. My advice? lose this guy's number,delete all his contact info from your phone & get on with your life. Summer is coming, time to get out there and meet somebody new.
CarrieT Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 You don't even see what a contradiction you are saying in this: I'm not trying to make him feel anything. I'm not trying to make up his mind for him. and this: I just want him to listen to what I have to say, and he can make up his own mind after that, He HAS made up his mind - you are just not letting it go...
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