somedude81 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 You forgot, you want a white girl. Seeing as how I've never met a Cuban girl that wasn't in my family, what's wrong with that? Seriously, is that fact that I'm only half white means that I'm not good enough to date a white girl?
fishtaco Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Doesn't mean they were that way when they got married. Most women let go after they get hitched, but if you look at their wedding pictures 90% of the time they were much thinner. Fat people get married too. I doubt 90% is correct. My point was, these things do make a difference, but it's not either yes or no. There are all shades of gray in between. So it's not that being short is the death knell, but being short IS a disadvantage, there's no denying that, although it can be overcome with other means. 2
wheream_i Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Seeing as how I've never met a Cuban girl that wasn't in my family, what's wrong with that? Seriously, is that fact that I'm only half white means that I'm not good enough to date a white girl? Dude, seriously. You are bringing WAAAAAY to much into this. You seem to be the only one with a problem with your height and now your heritage. I'm Hispanic and almost every woman I've dated has been white. I've only dated two Hispanic women. White isn't a preference, it's just happened that way. Sometimes they even seek me out. If a white girl doesn't have a problem dating a Hispanic then why should I? Just by your posts alone, this has more to do with your lack of confidence. You need to learn how to walk into a room like you swingin' 8" below the belt, throw your shoulders back and say, "Who wants a piece of this half-Cuban cack?" I'm kidding but I'm not. Let go of your issues with your height and so will everyone else that you assume has a problem with it. 1
wheream_i Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 So it's not that being short is the death knell, but being short IS a disadvantage, there's no denying that, although it can be overcome with other means. Bullsh*t. It's only a disadvantage if you let it be, like somedude. The only time it sucks being short is when I'm at a standing room only concert, lol. In those cases, I've always had fun with it. Like, I'll tap a tall dude on the shoulder, do the hieght difference thing with my hand, we both have a good laugh and he'll let me stand in front of him. No big deal. 1
irc333 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I know this one couple, living together the woman is probably so petite, she could snap like a twig under her morbidly obese boyfriend's weight. I figured they had have met in person for theres to be some kind of attraction. But, apparently they met on an online DATING Site, figure that one out?? A small petite woman, if say saw a man of his girth, she'd quickly press the delete key. I was thinking "dang, if he can get a small, petite cutie, so can I!" Doesn't mean they were that way when they got married. Most women let go after they get hitched, but if you look at their wedding pictures 90% of the time they were much thinner.
ThaWholigan Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Dude, seriously. You are bringing WAAAAAY to much into this. You seem to be the only one with a problem with your height and now your heritage. I'm Hispanic and almost every woman I've dated has been white. I've only dated two Hispanic women. White isn't a preference, it's just happened that way. Sometimes they even seek me out. If a white girl doesn't have a problem dating a Hispanic then why should I? Just by your posts alone, this has more to do with your lack of confidence. You need to learn how to walk into a room like you swingin' 8" below the belt, throw your shoulders back and say, "Who wants a piece of this half-Cuban cack?" I'm kidding but I'm not. Let go of your issues with your height and so will everyone else that you assume has a problem with it. ^^^This guy = legend Short guys always get laid, don't get it twisted. This from a tall guy (me). 1
fishtaco Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Bullsh*t. It's only a disadvantage if you let it be, like somedude. The only time it sucks being short is when I'm at a standing room only concert, lol. In those cases, I've always had fun with it. Like, I'll tap a tall dude on the shoulder, do the hieght difference thing with my hand, we both have a good laugh and he'll let me stand in front of him. No big deal. Bullsh*t, it is a disadvantage, you don't "let it or not let it be", it just is. But as I mentioned, you can overcome this by excelling in other areas. It's the sum of everything about you that counts, not just your height. So basically, we're talking about the same thing.
Necris Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I don't see how a tall woman would be a turn off just look at her she is 6 foot 9! and still sexy. http://www.oddee.com/_media/imgs/articles2/a96897_a555_4-model.jpg Though that height does look intimidating. But most tall women are only 5'8 to 6'1 so around average guy height I personally would have zero issue with this infact tallness can be sexy plus taller women I noticed don't seem to be as plagued by obesity as the shorter ones.
olivec Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I would love to be able to stop taking it personally and not care what women think of me. But I only see it as them having what I want and the only way to get it is to make them like me. I don't know how I can not care they think. You completely missed the point brotha. What i'm saying is you live your life and forget about worrying to please someone else only to get them to like you. What exactly do you want from them? is it sex, love,. Your problem you think that meeting a woman is gunna fix all your problems and you'll be happy. So lets say you meet someone tomorrowyou guys fall in love and then out of nowhere she dumps you for some hot model type guy. What are you gunna do? Cry? get super depressed, angry, give up women completely. Bottomline is this if you cant be happy with yourself no woman is gunna do it for you because what will happen is you'll fall even harder. You need to learn to be proud of yourself and also come to reality that you dont need someone to make you happy or complete. You should feel that way on your own. When you get to that point is when you'll meet someone and be mature enuff to understand if it dont workout thats its not the end of the world. you know its shame you haven't took the advices of people on this site. i've made changes in my life and listened to people on here and its worked i have a renewed confidence about myself and have learned to not dwell on things you cant change and focus on working on parts of my life i have the ability to change. You NEED TO START MAKING CHANGES MY FRIEND. 1
Cypress25 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I think if you are short you MUST do/obtain the following or you may have some difficulties... 1. Work out / Be in good shape (This may be most important, short and overweight is a bad combo) 2. Have good hygeine (Self explanatory) 3. Dress Well (Wear fitted clothes, baggy clothes will only make you look shorter) 4. Have a good sense of humor/personality (Self explanatory) Doesn't everyone need these things to be desirable to other people, regardless of their height? I don't think a tall guy would have much success with women if he was out of shape, had bad hygiene, dressed badly, and didn't have a sense of humor or a good personality. Being tall can't possibly compensate for that. Bullsh*t, it is a disadvantage, you don't "let it or not let it be", it just is. But as I mentioned, you can overcome this by excelling in other areas. It's the sum of everything about you that counts, not just your height. The problem with declaring that being short is a disadvantage is that you're assuming all women prefer tall men. If that were true, being short would be a disadvantage across the board. But if you're pursuing women who prefer short guys, then being short is actually an advantage. And there are plenty of attractive women who have a thing for short men. They don't think being short is something that has to be overcome, they love it! I should know, being one of those women myself. 3
olivec Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I'm about 5'6"... was married for 8 years (ended due to reasons other than height, haha) to a woman that was 5'7". She was model calibre in terms of beauty/body. Since we have officially split a few months back, I have met numerous women, all very attractive. No troubles for this short guy so far. I think if you are short you MUST do/obtain the following or you may have some difficulties... 1. Work out / Be in good shape (This may be most important, short and overweight is a bad combo) 2. Have good hygeine (Self explanatory) 3. Dress Well (Wear fitted clothes, baggy clothes will only make you look shorter) 4. Have a good sense of humor/personality (Self explanatory) I completely agree with every point you made man. Like said before i'm 5/7 and weigh 205 lbs i workout about 5-6 days a week. I can definately say the muscle helps big time along with clothes and good hygeine. Even if i was not muscled up i still have the confidence in my self which you should have regardless because women for some reason can seek it out if you got confidence issues and then its over lol. thats what somedude need to understand you need the confidence first and then you continue to improve yourself and good things will follow. 1
somedude81 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I completely agree with every point you made man. Like said before i'm 5/7 and weigh 205 lbs i workout about 5-6 days a week. I can definately say the muscle helps big time along with clothes and good hygeine. Even if i was not muscled up i still have the confidence in my self which you should have regardless because women for some reason can seek it out if you got confidence issues and then its over lol. thats what somedude need to understand you need the confidence first and then you continue to improve yourself and good things will follow. 5'7 205 is huge! How the hell did you get so much mass? You must have some killer genetics or have a little help from other things.
ThaWholigan Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I completely agree with every point you made man. Like said before i'm 5/7 and weigh 205 lbs i workout about 5-6 days a week. I can definately say the muscle helps big time along with clothes and good hygeine. Even if i was not muscled up i still have the confidence in my self which you should have regardless because women for some reason can seek it out if you got confidence issues and then its over lol. thats what somedude need to understand you need the confidence first and then you continue to improve yourself and good things will follow. Fackin hell, you weight almost as much as me and I'm 6'3!! That's some serious mass . I think you touched on an important part as well, which is style. All the guys I know who do horribly with women dress like their mothers picked out their clothes. I never used to be style conscious until recently. Right now I'm trying to find my own style to complement me. 1
shorty7 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I didn't tell him that a lot of women were probably turned off by his height, like I was, because there's nothing he can do about that. But seriously. There is such a thing as too tall. Walking around with a guy like that wouldn't make me feel protected. It would make me feel like a f*cking idiot. I'm like any woman, I'd rather date a guy who's taller than me. But not a foot and a half taller! That's insane. I'm going to argue that not all women wouldn't want to date a guy a foot and a half taller. I'm barely 5' and my SO is nearly 6'5". The only people who don't seem to realize that there's a foot and a half difference is us. Yeah, we look awkward together, but when you're short like me, everyone is taller. And when you're his height, everyone's shorter. So our take is that it really doesn't matter how ridiculous we look together. It's what's inside that matters. Most of our friends got tired of the height comments and jokes after the first week.
Els Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 The problem with declaring that being short is a disadvantage is that you're assuming all women prefer tall men. If that were true, being short would be a disadvantage across the board. But if you're pursuing women who prefer short guys, then being short is actually an advantage. And there are plenty of attractive women who have a thing for short men. They don't think being short is something that has to be overcome, they love it! I should know, being one of those women myself. Exactly. Not everyone's definition of 'short' is the same. I'm sure some people from Scandinavian countries would call a 5'6" man 'short', but to me 5'6"-5'7" is approximately the 'just right' height for a partner, if I absolutely had to choose a height. I'm 5'1", and I was once with a 5'11" guy (not because of his height, I assure you - he would not have appealed to many women physically, being all of 130 lbs at that height). God, it was awkward. Soooo hard to embrace properly standing up (we had to lie down or I had to stand on a chair!), and I had to crane my neck quite painfully to look him in the eye when we were walking and talking! It was not really an issue for me because I loved him at the time, but it would have been more comfortable had he been shorter. 2
Cypress25 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I'm going to argue that not all women wouldn't want to date a guy a foot and a half taller. Oh, I'm sure there are some women who wouldn't mind. Everyone has their own preferences. For me, it's not even a matter of how ridiculous we'd look together, it's more a matter of all the inconvenient things that Elswyth mentioned. I would have to crane my neck to talk to him, he would have to kneel down to kiss me, I can't even imagine how sex would work...seems like the whole relationship would be awkward and uncomfortable. But I'm glad it works for you!
olivec Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 5'7 205 is huge! How the hell did you get so much mass? You must have some killer genetics or have a little help from other things. i've been weight training since i was 17 yrs old i'm 33 now. and yes its all natural brotha. i just eat about 5-6 meals a day including using whey protein and creatine and a multivitamin, thats it.
olivec Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Fackin hell, you weight almost as much as me and I'm 6'3!! That's some serious mass . I think you touched on an important part as well, which is style. All the guys I know who do horribly with women dress like their mothers picked out their clothes. I never used to be style conscious until recently. Right now I'm trying to find my own style to complement me. lol tks brotha yeah sometimes i wish i had a little more height though, but ultimately you gotta work with what you got and maximize it as much as you can. if more people did that they have alot more success in life or dating. and yeah clothes ar good to i try to keep up with as much as i can without going overboard. i usually hit to the states to get my clothes at outlet stores soo much cheaper compared to canada where i'm from.
somedude81 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 i've been weight training since i was 17 yrs old i'm 33 now. and yes its all natural brotha. i just eat about 5-6 meals a day including using whey protein and creatine and a multivitamin, thats it. Damn, that's crazy. When I was seriously working out and trying to gain weight, the highest I got was 160 and I'm 5'6. And I had more fat than I wanted. I can't even imagine being 20 lbs heavier, let alone 40. What bodytype are you? I'm an ectomorph.
ThaWholigan Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 lol tks brotha yeah sometimes i wish i had a little more height though, but ultimately you gotta work with what you got and maximize it as much as you can. if more people did that they have alot more success in life or dating. and yeah clothes ar good to i try to keep up with as much as i can without going overboard. i usually hit to the states to get my clothes at outlet stores soo much cheaper compared to canada where i'm from. I see. My little brother is shorter than you by about an inch - he has never had trouble with girls and seems to have a large amount of options. I always encourage him .
ThaWholigan Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Damn, that's crazy. When I was seriously working out and trying to gain weight, the highest I got was 160 and I'm 5'6. And I had more fat than I wanted. I can't even imagine being 20 lbs heavier, let alone 40. What bodytype are you? I'm an ectomorph. What kind of cardio were you doing?
somedude81 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 What kind of cardio were you doing? It wasn't that much as a lot of cardio seemed counterproductive.
ThaWholigan Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 It wasn't that much as a lot of cardio seemed counterproductive. If you did more intense cardio like mountain climbers and burpees, you would have lost way more fat.
mortensorchid Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I'm glad SOMEONE brought this up! My mom is super obsessed with people and their height. She actually comes off as not liking a person because they are short. Of course, she is nearly 70 now and is shrinking, and ever since she became shorter than me she does not say it so much anymore. Ha ha ha ... We are thinking about biology when we see something like this. Of course, there is no way of knowing if said pair before us is going to have children or not, but we are thinking about it whether or not we want to admit it. I had a great aunt (long since passed away) who worked as a nurse for many years. In the old days, if they came across a tall man and a short woman (or vice versa) who were having a baby, they would literally write "mismatch" on the charts. That is a sort of but not really politically correct term today, but there was obviously something to it. Does it bother us? I'm 5'10". I am used to having people be shorter than me. And quite honestly, it's rather hilarious when you are out with a man who said he was so tall and he turns out to be shorter than me. I just have to smile and not say anything. But I think it does bother guys that they are shorter than women who are taller than they are. Unless they are NBA tall.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 You'd have to "settle" for someone that loves you for who you really are. How is it settling if you find someone that loves you for who you really are????? And when did love become equatable to dating someone simply good looking??? Who said Brad Pitt was automatically "better" and if you didn't score someone with his looks that you were "settling"?????
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