A question for the short guys and tall girls-

[Els]

I thought SoCal has lots of latinos. I agree with Fitchick's comments, as I feel ethnic women aren't as hung up on height. Given your expectations, what would you rather, a cute senorita in her 20s or to wait for anglo women to give a short guy a go when she's a single mother in her late 30s. Which would make you feel lucky. If you just don't find mexican or asian women appealing, then its irrelevant, but if there is an aspect of sticking to your preferences simply because 'you are not asking for a lot', then maybe broadening your options might change your luck....you can always change your mind back.

 

Yeah, I'm Asian and most of the guys I know are shorter than 5'8". Many of them are in Rs *shrug*.

[Ruby Slippers]

That sounds like a pretty creative way to say, "I have a fetish for 6" heels." Kudos to him!

Girl, you know he is trying everything. People can really get very creative when challenged to do so just a bit.

[somedude81]

I thought SoCal has lots of latinos.

The "latinos" in SoCal are mostly Mexican, and I'm not Mexican. Nor do I fit into their culture.

 

I agree with Fitchick's comments, as I feel ethnic women aren't as hung up on height. Given your expectations, what would you rather, a cute senorita in her 20s

That being said, I have asked out a few Mexican girls and they've all turned me down. Same with the Asian girls.

[somedude81]

Yeah, I'm Asian and most of the guys I know are shorter than 5'8". Many of them are in Rs *shrug*.

So tell me how I'm supposed to be surprised that most of the Asian guy's you know in an Asian country are in Rs with Asian women?

 

At 5'6, I'd be basically average height if I lived in Cuba or an area with a high Cuban population. I'd fit right in.

 

But in this part of the world, and looking completely white. It's fu*king horrible. The only thing preventing me from fully assimilating is my God damn height. It's as if God wanted to make sure that I'd never have a chance.

 

Make me 100% white, and I'd be average height for a white guy and I'd have no trouble. Make me 100% Cuban and live in a Cuban area, and I'd have no trouble getting a Cuban girl. Or hell, being half and half is fine if I was born in a Cuban area and I can be a part of my culture.

 

Now I'm stuck trying to find somebody who'd be willing to date a half Cuban, half white midget.

[Badsingularity]

 

Now I'm stuck trying to find somebody who'd be willing to date a half Cuban, half white midget.

 

Sorry, but you are too tall to consider yourself a midget.

 

I wish you would believe it when people tell you that with the right attitude you could be taller than you ever thought possible.

Edited May 15, 2012 by Badsingularity

[ScreamingTrees]

Most of the men in Asian and Hispanic communities are short. They seem to have no problem dating Asian and Hispanic women, who are even shorter. Short white guys might have better luck there.

 

What if a short white guy isn't looking for an Asian or Hispanic woman and would rather be with someone of a similar ethnic background? Seems a majority of them feel the same way. I'd never had racial preferences before until recently in my life, and I don't think it'll change again.

 

What DOES suck is that I seem to be a bit short for my own northern european standards, but not for those of a radically different ethnic/cultural background.. Great. But I ultimately want kids that look like me, and I want to share a mutual culture. Lots of people don't care, but I know now that I do.

[Cypress25]

What if a short white guy isn't looking for an Asian or Hispanic woman and would rather be with someone of a similar ethnic background?

 

Then date a short white girl. Or any white girl. It's not hard to find white girls who like short guys.

 

But I ultimately want kids that look like me

 

What are you gonna do if your kids don't look like you? It happens sometimes. Not all white people look alike, and this isn't Gattaca. You have no control over what your kids look like, even if they're inbred.

[Woggle]

I my kids don't look like me I will get them plastic surgery. They will do it if they want me to love them.

 

I am just joking so don't get mad.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

 

My question is, why is there so much talk of bieng SOL or whatever from the short men and tall women? I live in an area where people are mostly of average height- men around 5'9, women 5'4. It seems to me that plenty of people who aren't an ideal height (going by what I read many posters here say) who are doing just fine. I wonder why some don't seem to have a problem with it, and some do.

 

Heck if I know Angie! Half of my family is made of average to short men. They are married and in loving relationships. They've even reproduced!

 

The other half of my family has taller men, they are also married and in loving relationships! Seems like love goes in all shapes and sizes. I think issues arise when people over glamorize ideals though. And I think alot of people on LS get stuck on ideals. Which might explain why some are single. They don't see people as human beings, jsut a list of expectations that they are required and that other people are required to meet. Heck, one guy I was really attracted to was 5'3! He was sexy. But he wasn't into me. And I think guys like Jon Stewart and Seth Green are really attractive.

[wheream_i]

Because being short can be love life killer for a man.

 

Nah, not at all.

[wheream_i]

I wish you would believe it when people tell you that with the right attitude you could be taller than you ever thought possible.

 

I like this quote, Bad. I'm the same height as Somedude and never once have I felt "cursed" or ashamed of my height.

[somedude81]

I like this quote, Bad. I'm the same height as Somedude and never once have I felt "cursed" or ashamed of my height.

Have you had any trouble with dating?

[olivec]

So tell me how I'm supposed to be surprised that most of the Asian guy's you know in an Asian country are in Rs with Asian women?

 

At 5'6, I'd be basically average height if I lived in Cuba or an area with a high Cuban population. I'd fit right in.

 

But in this part of the world, and looking completely white. It's fu*king horrible. The only thing preventing me from fully assimilating is my God damn height. It's as if God wanted to make sure that I'd never have a chance.

 

Make me 100% white, and I'd be average height for a white guy and I'd have no trouble. Make me 100% Cuban and live in a Cuban area, and I'd have no trouble getting a Cuban girl. Or hell, being half and half is fine if I was born in a Cuban area and I can be a part of my culture.

 

Now I'm stuck trying to find somebody who'd be willing to date a half Cuban, half white midget.

 

Good lord man. you have to be the most negative person on this site or maybe in the world lol. STOP BLAIMING YOUR HEIGHT for your LACK OF SUCCESS when dealing with women. Hell i'v dated many women and struck out with just as many or more because of whatever reason. However you cannot take it PERSONAL. Seriously you gotta have the attitude you don't give a crap what anybody thinks of you. Not ALL WOMEN are hung up on height man. The problem with you is you use it as a disability. Man thats not gunna attract a female trust me. Do yourself a favor just start living your life and be proud of who you are instead of thinking your less than somebody who may have a few more inches on you.

[olivec]

Heck if I know Angie! Half of my family is made of average to short men. They are married and in loving relationships. They've even reproduced!

 

The other half of my family has taller men, they are also married and in loving relationships! Seems like love goes in all shapes and sizes. I think issues arise when people over glamorize ideals though. And I think alot of people on LS get stuck on ideals. Which might explain why some are single. They don't see people as human beings, jsut a list of expectations that they are required and that other people are required to meet. Heck, one guy I was really attracted to was 5'3! He was sexy. But he wasn't into me. And I think guys like Jon Stewart and Seth Green are really attractive.

 

exactly thats how i feel with a girl if shes what i want then i dont care what height or shape she is. I find on the flip side some men including my friends would not date a curvy or chubby girl only skinny. I would laugh at them because its soo narrowed minded. people gotta get a life lol

[Els]

So tell me how I'm supposed to be surprised that most of the Asian guy's you know in an Asian country are in Rs with Asian women?

 

At 5'6, I'd be basically average height if I lived in Cuba or an area with a high Cuban population. I'd fit right in.

 

But in this part of the world, and looking completely white. It's fu*king horrible. The only thing preventing me from fully assimilating is my God damn height. It's as if God wanted to make sure that I'd never have a chance.

 

Make me 100% white, and I'd be average height for a white guy and I'd have no trouble. Make me 100% Cuban and live in a Cuban area, and I'd have no trouble getting a Cuban girl. Or hell, being half and half is fine if I was born in a Cuban area and I can be a part of my culture.

 

Now I'm stuck trying to find somebody who'd be willing to date a half Cuban, half white midget.

 

If that's what it'll take to convince you, move to some part of Asia and give it a shot once you graduate. You'll be considered of average height there, Caucasians are seen by modern young women as exotic, and many women don't mind men being much older than them as the older man-younger woman pairing is much more common there.

 

If you succeed, great. If you don't, well, time to cross those reasons off your list.

[ScreamingTrees]

Then date a short white girl. Or any white girl. It's not hard to find white girls who like short guys.

 

 

 

What are you gonna do if your kids don't look like you? It happens sometimes. Not all white people look alike, and this isn't Gattaca. You have no control over what your kids look like, even if they're inbred.

 

It's far more likely with someone of the same race. And unless I go out with my sister, I'm not sure how my children will be "inbred", as if all of Europe is closely genetically related somehow..

 

My personal experience is that people are *generally* colorblind until it comes down to who they'll share their life with, regardless of their racial background.

 

As long as the girl isn't 5'10+ (how many girls are even that tall?) there shouldn't be an issue, I guess. I'm not going to limit myself beyond that because there's no reason to.

[Els]

It's far more likely with someone of the same race. And unless I go out with my sister, I'm not sure how my children will be "inbred", as if all of Europe is closely genetically related somehow..

 

My personal experience is that people are *generally* colorblind until it comes down to who they'll share their life with, regardless of their racial background.

 

As long as the girl isn't 5'10+ (how many girls are even that tall?) there shouldn't be an issue, I guess. I'm not going to limit myself beyond that because there's no reason to.

 

....If you're 5'10", that is really not statistically short, not in any country in the world.

[ScreamingTrees]

....If you're 5'10", that is really not statistically short, not in any country in the world.

 

Obviously not, never said it was. I'm closer to 5'9. My point was that unless the girl is 5'10 or taller, she won't be taller than me. If she can't be seen with me because she might be taller in heels, otherwise she's crazy for me, sucks for her I guess. I just need to find that.. poor, poor girl..

[Surfer203]

I'm about 5'6"... was married for 8 years (ended due to reasons other than height, haha) to a woman that was 5'7". She was model calibre in terms of beauty/body. Since we have officially split a few months back, I have met numerous women, all very attractive. No troubles for this short guy so far.

 

I think if you are short you MUST do/obtain the following or you may have some difficulties...

 

1. Work out / Be in good shape (This may be most important, short and overweight is a bad combo)

2. Have good hygeine (Self explanatory)

3. Dress Well (Wear fitted clothes, baggy clothes will only make you look shorter)

4. Have a good sense of humor/personality (Self explanatory)

[somedude81]

Good lord man. you have to be the most negative person on this site or maybe in the world lol. STOP BLAIMING YOUR HEIGHT for your LACK OF SUCCESS when dealing with women. Hell i'v dated many women and struck out with just as many or more because of whatever reason. However you cannot take it PERSONAL. Seriously you gotta have the attitude you don't give a crap what anybody thinks of you. Not ALL WOMEN are hung up on height man. The problem with you is you use it as a disability. Man thats not gunna attract a female trust me. Do yourself a favor just start living your life and be proud of who you are instead of thinking your less than somebody who may have a few more inches on you.

I would love to be able to stop taking it personally and not care what women think of me.

 

But I only see it as them having what I want and the only way to get it is to make them like me. I don't know how I can not care they think.

[fishtaco]

I see fat women with boyfriends/husbands all the time. Therefore it's okay for women to be fat...

 

Doesn't work that way.

 

We're lucky that the world is such a big place with a variety of people. Even if you're too short/too tall/too ugly/too fat, you still have a chance of finding someone. But... your chance is lower, and you may have to manage your expectations.

 

It doesn't mean you won't find happiness, but it means you're probably not going to get a Brad Pitt/Bill Gates/Derek Jeter/whatever floats your boat. You'd have to "settle" for someone that loves you for who you really are. Which ironically, the not so short/tall/ugly/fat people are often so distracted by other superficial qualities that they forgot about this one.

 

Options is the name of the game. People with higher perceived dating value have more options. Is having more options a good thing? Maybe, maybe not.

 

So being short, from the perspective of focusing on this attribute only, doesn't mean you should give up. But it does mean you have less options than someone that has a more desirable height. But it's the sum that counts. A short guy with a large social circle will do better than a tall guy that sits at home all day.

[wheream_i]

Have you had any trouble with dating?

 

I don't recall a time when I ever had trouble dating.

[PlumPrincess]

Lucky me, gets to be a half Cuban-half white guy, who looks completely white, doesn't speak a word of Spanish, and lives in white communities.

 

I think I should move to Miami.

You forgot, you want a white girl.

[wheream_i]

Not ALL WOMEN are hung up on height man. The problem with you is you use it as a disability. Man thats not gunna attract a female trust me. Do yourself a favor just start living your life and be proud of who you are instead of thinking your less than somebody who may have a few more inches on you.

 

Exactly! There are women out there that will only date a tall man. No matter what. Those are the same women sitting at home alone wondering why they're single. Same goes for men that say they only go out with "10's". I have a friend who thinks this way. He's 28 years old, beer-bellied, bald as hell and hairy as **** everywhere else. He talks as if he's on par with a Tom Brady. Oh, and I've never seen him even talking with anything that closely resembles a "10". It's amazing.

[FrustratedStandards]

I see fat women with boyfriends/husbands all the time. Therefore it's okay for women to be fat...

 

Doesn't mean they were that way when they got married. Most women let go after they get hitched, but if you look at their wedding pictures 90% of the time they were much thinner.