angie2443 Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Every time I go out to a function where there will be a crowd, I see plenty of short guys with either girlfriends, wives, and many times children. I see the same thing with tall women. I don't see many super short men or super tall women and so I can't really comment on that. My question is, why is there so much talk of bieng SOL or whatever from the short men and tall women? I live in an area where people are mostly of average height- men around 5'9, women 5'4. It seems to me that plenty of people who aren't an ideal height (going by what I read many posters here say) who are doing just fine. I wonder why some don't seem to have a problem with it, and some do. By the way, I just had a friend tell me not to worry because my 3 year old son is small (he's average on the height and weight charts). She's average height. I don't understand why some people have such an obsesion with height.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 You need to clarify how tall and short these people you're talking about are.
newmoon Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 i think it's pretty simple - the short men/tall women you see who are hooked up already are probably very open-minded people who are willing to relax their standards a bit to meet people and make connections. the short men/tall women who have issues, imo, are likely the ones who are not open to meeting a variety of people. height issues can create complexes within people and the ones who are hooked up might be more secure/confident people overall. personally, i am 5'10 and my bf is 5'8.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Aside from a little bit of fretting in high school, I don't worry anymore about being 5'10" - I make the most of the positive parts, such as commanding attention in a room. This tall cutie is working on me for a date. He's 6'4", told me loves a tall woman on his level, and asked if I would consider indulging him and wearing high heels - preferably 6" heels so we are truly eye to eye. Yeah, it struck me as a little fetishizing - but the novelty of a man wanting me to be even taller is too fun. We would seriously turn some heads, that's for sure. At times like this, I know my laid-back attitude toward my height is a good thing. If a guy as cool as this guy digs it and wants even more of it, there is no need to worry.
somedude81 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 You need to clarify how tall and short these people you're talking about are. I'm also curious on the ages. I do think that short guys can eventually marry when women stop being so shallow.
Cypress25 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I do think that short guys can eventually marry when women stop being so shallow. Define shallow. Plenty of shallow women date short men. It's possible for a man to be short and attractive, you know. You're the only one who thinks short = unattractive. 1
motive2002 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 A lot of celebrities that women really have the hots for aren't very tall. If a woman walks into a place and has a really pretty face and nice rack or whatever, she is gonna immediately stand out.. just as a man who's tall dark and handsome. If you don't got that going for you, gonna have to make it up somewhere else. If a chick is too shallow to see past that, then it's not a chick you want to be with anyway. I'm only 5'8" and I'm not dark at all. Blondish hair, fair skin.. I just have to hope she likes the Robert Redford type.. (not that I resemble him, but you know what I mean). I have nice eyes and that has helped me through the years. No sense on picking on a part of your appearance that's impossible to change. Work with what you have.
FrustratedStandards Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 It's not an obsession, but everyone has preference. That's really all it is, preference. Height doesn't determine much, but it does come with a great deal of impression (a tall man being more desirable and powerful than his shorter counterpart, a shorter woman being weaker than her taller counterpart etc)
Author angie2443 Posted May 14, 2012 Author Posted May 14, 2012 Since a couple of people have asked, I'm talking about women who are around the average height for men, and men who are around the average height for women. I have children, so we do go to a lot of family type of events. We also go to ball games (football, baseball) and geek events (gaming expos, etc.) I see people of all ages and heights at these events. I usually don't think too much about who has a partner or kids at these events, but some of the threads here have made me think about it.
Author angie2443 Posted May 14, 2012 Author Posted May 14, 2012 At times like this, I know my laid-back attitude toward my height is a good thing. If a guy as cool as this guy digs it and wants even more of it, there is no need to worry. I have noticed that people who are laid back seem to have an easiar time with dating and life in general. I think a laid back attitude puts others at ease:) 1
olivec Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 i'm 5/7 male and i've never had a issue with my height before as i've dated short girls and taller girls. a woman is a woman to me. if i find her attractive i dont care how tall she is. and if the person your dating or trying to date has a problem you just get rid of them and meet other people period! 2
Cracker Jack Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 I think it's because people would rather focus on something they have no control over instead of things they do have control over. Not gonna lie, I was very obsessed with height and wondered if (I'm 5'8") this would have a negative effect on my future dating life, but now I see that it's hardly a big deal. I see plenty of shorter guys (shorter than me) with women on a daily, and many of the ones I actually know are completely comfortable with themselves, which is why they have no issue getting a woman. I also know plenty of tall, professional women who are either engaged or married. People need to just get over the fact that some people will likely be turned off by their height. I'm sure there are a lot of women who wouldn't date me because of my height, but I'm also confident that there are many women who wouldn't care, since I look good:cool: Just focus on your strengths. 3
Woggle Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Because being short can be love life killer for a man.
Onlyjonley Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 My boyfriend is 5'9. I used to prefer tall guys before I dated him, but I have found he still makes me feel protected and taken care of. I'm 5'4, so he still has a few inches on me. Give the shorter guys a chance!
somedude81 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 My boyfriend is 5'9. I used to prefer tall guys before I dated him, but I have found he still makes me feel protected and taken care of. I'm 5'4, so he still has a few inches on me. Give the shorter guys a chance! 5'9 is average. Would you date a guy who is 5'5?
Onlyjonley Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 5'9 is average. Would you date a guy who is 5'5? Oh, I just now saw where she stated 5'9 was average. I rarely see guys shorter than 5'7. So to me, 5'8-5'9 is still fairly short. My boyfriend is shorter than all of his friends. Most of them are taller than 5'10.
FitChick Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Most of the men in Asian and Hispanic communities are short. They seem to have no problem dating Asian and Hispanic women, who are even shorter. Short white guys might have better luck there.
somedude81 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Oh, I just now saw where she stated 5'9 was average. I rarely see guys shorter than 5'7. So to me, 5'8-5'9 is still fairly short. My boyfriend is shorter than all of his friends. Most of them are taller than 5'10. You didn't answer my question.
somedude81 Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Most of the men in Asian and Hispanic communities are short. They seem to have no problem dating Asian and Hispanic women, who are even shorter. Short white guys might have better luck there. Lucky me, gets to be a half Cuban-half white guy, who looks completely white, doesn't speak a word of Spanish, and lives in white communities. I think I should move to Miami.
Onlyjonley Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 You didn't answer my question. You must be fairly short if you're asking. I really have no idea. I've never been in that situation. All I know is my guy is shorter than a large number of guys, and it doesn't bother me.
Cypress25 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Because being short can be love life killer for a man. No it can't. Not by itself. If a man's love life is dead, it's not his height that killed it. A great guy will never have trouble getting dates, even if he's short. I rarely see guys shorter than 5'7. So to me, 5'8-5'9 is still fairly short. My boyfriend is shorter than all of his friends. Most of them are taller than 5'10. It's all a matter of perspective. This is the first I'm hearing about 5'9 being short, that's in the average range for a white man. But if you're always surrounded by men who are over 6 feet tall, then 5'9 will seem short in comparison. Most of the men I've dated were 5'8-5'9 and none of them considered themselves short. Funny story. I used to do OLD, and one day I got a message from a guy whose profile said he was 6'5. I looked at his pictures, and he did indeed tower over everyone else in his pics. My first thought? "It's a shame he's so tall, he's actually kinda cute. Oh well." Heaved a big sigh and closed his profile. OK, I admit it, I judged him for his height. I'm not proud of that fact, but I couldn't help it. I mean, come on, 6'5?! Only a genetic mutation could cause a severe abnormality like that. But wait, it gets better. A few days later, he sent me another message, demanding to know why I wasn't interested. Um, because you're a giant and I would need a step ladder just to talk to you? Just kidding, I didn't really say that to him. Instead, I gave him half the story: I wasn't interested because he sounded like a jerk in his profile. And that was true, he did sound like a jerk in his profile, because he wrote 3 full paragraphs about how bitter he is that women won't go out with him, yet he always sees gorgeous women with men who are only 5'9! He made it sound like 5'9 men are flawed and he couldn't understand why women would want to date such men. He said it didn't seem right for a tall guy like himself to be single, while all those lesser men had girlfriends. I then had to inform him that being tall couldn't possibly make up for a terrible personality, and if being tall was the only thing he had going for him, then he would be single forever. I was shocked at his attitude. He really expected women to throw themselves at him, just because he's tall. What a douchebag. I didn't tell him that a lot of women were probably turned off by his height, like I was, because there's nothing he can do about that. But seriously. There is such a thing as too tall. Walking around with a guy like that wouldn't make me feel protected. It would make me feel like a f*cking idiot. I'm like any woman, I'd rather date a guy who's taller than me. But not a foot and a half taller! That's insane.
ThaWholigan Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 No it can't. Not by itself. If a man's love life is dead, it's not his height that killed it. A great guy will never have trouble getting dates, even if he's short. It's all a matter of perspective. This is the first I'm hearing about 5'9 being short, that's in the average range for a white man. But if you're always surrounded by men who are over 6 feet tall, then 5'9 will seem short in comparison. Most of the men I've dated were 5'8-5'9 and none of them considered themselves short. Funny story. I used to do OLD, and one day I got a message from a guy whose profile said he was 6'5. I looked at his pictures, and he did indeed tower over everyone else in his pics. My first thought? "It's a shame he's so tall, he's actually kinda cute. Oh well." Heaved a big sigh and closed his profile. OK, I admit it, I judged him for his height. I'm not proud of that fact, but I couldn't help it. I mean, come on, 6'5?! Only a genetic mutation could cause a severe abnormality like that. But wait, it gets better. A few days later, he sent me another message, demanding to know why I wasn't interested. Um, because you're a giant and I would need a step ladder just to talk to you? Just kidding, I didn't really say that to him. Instead, I gave him half the story: I wasn't interested because he sounded like a jerk in his profile. And that was true, he did sound like a jerk in his profile, because he wrote 3 full paragraphs about how bitter he is that women won't go out with him, yet he always sees gorgeous women with men who are only 5'9! He made it sound like 5'9 men are flawed and he couldn't understand why women would want to date such men. He said it didn't seem right for a tall guy like himself to be single, while all those lesser men had girlfriends. I then had to inform him that being tall couldn't possibly make up for a terrible personality, and if being tall was the only thing he had going for him, then he would be single forever. I was shocked at his attitude. He really expected women to throw themselves at him, just because he's tall. What a douchebag. I didn't tell him that a lot of women were probably turned off by his height, like I was, because there's nothing he can do about that. But seriously. There is such a thing as too tall. Walking around with a guy like that wouldn't make me feel protected. It would make me feel like a f*cking idiot. I'm like any woman, I'd rather date a guy who's taller than me. But not a foot and a half taller! That's insane. I bet it was Phillydude, He's 6 foot 5 That would be ****ing funny
somedude81 Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 You must be fairly short if you're asking. I really have no idea. I've never been in that situation. Amazing. So you go from saying "Give the shorter guys a chance" to having no idea once you realized that 5'9 is actually average height for a man. Now I see that it's just ignorance. And I'm 5'6.
ascendotum Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Lucky me, gets to be a half Cuban-half white guy, who looks completely white, doesn't speak a word of Spanish, and lives in white communities. I think I should move to Miami. I thought SoCal has lots of latinos. I agree with Fitchick's comments, as I feel ethnic women aren't as hung up on height. Given your expectations, what would you rather, a cute senorita in her 20s or to wait for anglo women to give a short guy a go when she's a single mother in her late 30s. Which would make you feel lucky. If you just don't find mexican or asian women appealing, then its irrelevant, but if there is an aspect of sticking to your preferences simply because 'you are not asking for a lot', then maybe broadening your options might change your luck....you can always change your mind back.
Els Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 This tall cutie is working on me for a date. He's 6'4", told me loves a tall woman on his level, and asked if I would consider indulging him and wearing high heels - preferably 6" heels so we are truly eye to eye. That sounds like a pretty creative way to say, "I have a fetish for 6" heels." Kudos to him! 1
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