dreams about ex

[someone12341]

so the past couple of weeks (not everyday tho) i have been having dreams of my ex , don't know what to think about them. i think i am over her, but the dreams keep coming

 

almost all of the dreams are about her crying. One dream i was invited to a party and she was there everything was fine, i went to sleep only to be woken up by someone crying i went out of the room i was in to find her balling her eyes out, i went over to comfort her and as soon as i put my arms around her i wake up.

 

another dream i had was me and her holding hands walking down the street and having a great time playing around flirting, i look away for a second then i turn around and she is not there, and i wake up

 

other dreams are pretty simiular to the first i don't know what to think of them or why they come haven't been able to sleep to well

[cincinnatikid]

There are some people out there who say that if you are dreaming about someone then that means that person was dreaming about you. I don't buy that philosophy.

 

What I do believe is that, IMHO, that when you are dreaming about someone - specifically a person you have lost, or broken up with, or is no longer in your life - it means that something about the relationship with that person is, in one way or another, left something unresolved within you. In the case of ex's, that feeling of no resolution may always remain, thus the recurrent dreams. The best thing you can do is chalk it up to this. And, if the dreams are good, enjoy them.

[Ajax]

I think cincinnatikid makes a lot of sense about something being unresolved within you leading to dreams.

 

The breakup that brought me here to LS is going on two years, but I still have the occasional dream about my ex. I posted about it about a month ago when it was coming up on the would-be anniversary of our first date, and I found myself having dreams about her several times in that week, which was more often than typical (usually once every couple months or so).

 

I hadn't spoken to her in over a year and a half and considered myself over her for quite some time, so I didn't get why I was having so many dreams about her. I posted on here and pondered it for a few days, and came to the realization that while I don't have any current interest or desire in talking to her or having her in my life, I wasn't as comfortable with the idea of never talking to her again as I thought I was.

 

After realizing this, the dreams stopped. So maybe that aspect was resolved.

 

I do think it's normal to have dreams from time to time. But as time goes on they'll become less frequent. If you do feel something is unresolved within yourself it might help to try to identify what that is.

[flitzanu]

so the past couple of weeks (not everyday tho) i have been having dreams of my ex , don't know what to think about them. i think i am over her, but the dreams keep coming

 

almost all of the dreams are about her crying. One dream i was invited to a party and she was there everything was fine, i went to sleep only to be woken up by someone crying i went out of the room i was in to find her balling her eyes out, i went over to comfort her and as soon as i put my arms around her i wake up.

 

another dream i had was me and her holding hands walking down the street and having a great time playing around flirting, i look away for a second then i turn around and she is not there, and i wake up

 

other dreams are pretty simiular to the first i don't know what to think of them or why they come haven't been able to sleep to well

 

after my breakup (year+ ago) i dreamt of my ex literally every night for 2+ months straight. it's draining. i put stock in dreams, but things like this...it's just your heart and mind trying to deal with the loss. they suck, but eventually they go away.

[EricaH329]

I personally believe that dreams are a way of telling you how you truly feel about things. Sometimes we are only able to feel the emotions that are at the surface, not recognizing that they go much deeper than that. I believe that dreams are meant to help you realize those things in order for you to take the appropriate steps towards fixing them.

 

I know it hurts to have dreams about the person you are trying to get away from (feels like you are unable to when they show up in your dreams), but realize that this is a huge part of your life right now, so of course you are going to have deeply rooted emotions that are going to come out in dreams.

 

Give it time. They will go away. Until then, try to heal more and more every day.

[lilyblue]

I personally believe that dreams are a way of telling you how you truly feel about things. Sometimes we are only able to feel the emotions that are at the surface, not recognizing that they go much deeper than that. I believe that dreams are meant to help you realize those things in order for you to take the appropriate steps towards fixing them.

 

I also often dream of my ex. The other night I dreamed that he shot and killed himself. It was disturbing. Wonder what that one means.

[Coffee20]

I have dreams about my ex too. After the day we broke up I had a dream where we were lying in my bed and he touched me and told me "I love you". Then I had at least 10+ similar dreams about running to his home, I knocked the door and his mum came to invite me very nicely, then she told me he was in his room. I went there but his door was locked. I ended up crying and pleading him to open the door but nothing happened. So I destroyed the door but there was another door, I destroyed the second door but there was the third door. I didn't have any power to destroy it, but I found that on this door was a keyhole. I looked into the hole and saw his blue eye and I woke up.

These days I have dreams about him telling me sorry, by text, mail, facebook or face to face. It looks like this "I am sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you" or "Good morning honey, I am really sorry for what happened, let's forget it".

I hate those dreams.

[EricaH329]

I also often dream of my ex. The other night I dreamed that he shot and killed himself. It was disturbing. Wonder what that one means.

 

It really all depends of the context of the dream. Was there more to it than just that? What had happened before hand? Was it for a reason? Most times, if you sit down and actually think about the dream itself, they are pretty easy to understand. I studied it for awhile, and there is always a pattern in figuring out dreams.

[EricaH329]

I have dreams about my ex too. After the day we broke up I had a dream where we were lying in my bed and he touched me and told me "I love you". Then I had at least 10+ similar dreams about running to his home, I knocked the door and his mum came to invite me very nicely, then she told me he was in his room. I went there but his door was locked. I ended up crying and pleading him to open the door but nothing happened. So I destroyed the door but there was another door, I destroyed the second door but there was the third door. I didn't have any power to destroy it, but I found that on this door was a keyhole. I looked into the hole and saw his blue eye and I woke up.

These days I have dreams about him telling me sorry, by text, mail, facebook or face to face. It looks like this "I am sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you" or "Good morning honey, I am really sorry for what happened, let's forget it".

I hate those dreams.

 

Wow that is a really intense dream!!! I hope you realize what it meant, and was able to learn and grow from it!! Not often do we get the opportunity to have dreams like the one you had, where it goes SO incredibly deep into our emotions that it's almost as though it's a key to unlock exactly what we need to move on.

[lilyblue]

It really all depends of the context of the dream. Was there more to it than just that? What had happened before hand? Was it for a reason? Most times, if you sit down and actually think about the dream itself, they are pretty easy to understand. I studied it for awhile, and there is always a pattern in figuring out dreams.

 

There wasn't really all that much surrounding it that I can remember. He was on top of a tall building, and I think someone told me about it (I don't think I was there when it happened). We hadn't had any interaction or anything. I'm not sure what the reason was. I probably hoped it was because he was really unhappy.

[EricaH329]

There wasn't really all that much surrounding it that I can remember. He was on top of a tall building, and I think someone told me about it (I don't think I was there when it happened). We hadn't had any interaction or anything. I'm not sure what the reason was. I probably hoped it was because he was really unhappy.

 

I don't want to thread jack, but if you'd like to discuss it you are more than welcome to PM me. I find that uncovering the meaning of dreams can be extremely enlightening and helpful. If not, that's fine too. I just didn't want to take away from the OP

[Coffee20]

Wow that is a really intense dream!!! I hope you realize what it meant, and was able to learn and grow from it!! Not often do we get the opportunity to have dreams like the one you had, where it goes SO incredibly deep into our emotions that it's almost as though it's a key to unlock exactly what we need to move on.

 

I just think I know what it means....after each fight we had, he never wanted to talk about the problems, many times he told me just to leave him alone and he didn't want to see me...I always went to his home and told him sorry (but also for his mistakes too) and tried to fix things as much as I could, it was all the time the same, for example in January he started a few fights about stupid things and I always tried to fix them, talked to him nicely. In February I was losing my mind slowly. In March after each fight I ended up crying.

I often have dreams like that, sometimes there is music in the background, intense or poor light, changing colours etc. I have this since my childhood, I am rather awake. I go sleep late at night.

[EricaH329]

I just think I know what it means....after each fight we had, he never wanted to talk about the problems, many times he told me just to leave him alone and he didn't want to see me...I always went to his home and told him sorry (but also for his mistakes too) and tried to fix things as much as I could, it was all the time the same, for example in January he started a few fights about stupid things and I always tried to fix them, talked to him nicely. In February I was losing my mind slowly. In March after each fight I ended up crying.

I often have dreams like that, sometimes there is music in the background, intense or poor light, changing colours etc. I have this since my childhood, I am rather awake. I go sleep late at night.

 

 

Have you ever felt like you would try and try to overcome whatever obstacle you two were facing, only to find out that there was yet another obstacle to overcome? Each time, it was getting more and more upsetting, harder, frustrating? Until finally you just couldn't do it any more, and when you finally stopped, you saw him for who he was?

 

The emotional torture you went through is so evident based on your dream. I'm so sorry you felt that strongly about the situation you were in. I know it must have hurt.

[Coffee20]

Have you ever felt like you would try and try to overcome whatever obstacle you two were facing, only to find out that there was yet another obstacle to overcome? Each time, it was getting more and more upsetting, harder, frustrating? Until finally you just couldn't do it any more, and when you finally stopped, you saw him for who he was?

 

The emotional torture you went through is so evident based on your dream. I'm so sorry you felt that strongly about the situation you were in. I know it must have hurt.

 

ah yes, it is exactly like you said :/...finally I felt so exhausted and I couldn't believe that he could be like this, that I went to tell him that it was over...even this time he didn't want to come from his room so I firstly told his mum but then she called him

[someone12341]

after read all the replies and knowing that in not the first person to have dreams of their ex and knowing that they will fade hopefully, it kinda has put my mind at ease.

 

I've been doing some thinking and wonder if why I dream of her crying and trying to comfort her, is me subconsciously wanting to be there for her during these hard times but I know I can't. it sucks dreaming of her and not getting to much sleep

 

thank you guys for all your stories and suggestions, it's really nice knowing that there are ppl out there willing to help

[EricaH329]

ah yes, it is exactly like you said :/...finally I felt so exhausted and I couldn't believe that he could be like this, that I went to tell him that it was over...even this time he didn't want to come from his room so I firstly told his mum but then she called him

 

This is the perfect example why dreams are important to understand. I truly believe there is a meaning behind them. Realizing what they mean helps you to recognize the relationship for what it really was, and helps with the healing process.

 

I'm sorry you went through what you did. I know it's hard, but understand that your mind recognizes the pain, effort, and exhaustion you went through with your ex. And recognizing the way you felt, and how the relationship actually was, is a HUGE stepping stone in healing and moving on. Good for you!!

[EricaH329]

after read all the replies and knowing that in not the first person to have dreams of their ex and knowing that they will fade hopefully, it kinda has put my mind at ease.

 

I've been doing some thinking and wonder if why I dream of her crying and trying to comfort her, is me subconsciously wanting to be there for her during these hard times but I know I can't. it sucks dreaming of her and not getting to much sleep

 

thank you guys for all your stories and suggestions, it's really nice knowing that there are ppl out there willing to help

 

You could absolutely be right! If that's a conclusion that leaves you feeling fully satisified, then that could be what it means! I don't know your story with her, and i'm not too sure about the entire dream either. In my experience, and research, usually dreams tend to focus on the emotions that effect you because of outside issues.

[Coffee20]

This is the perfect example why dreams are important to understand. I truly believe there is a meaning behind them. Realizing what they mean helps you to recognize the relationship for what it really was, and helps with the healing process.

 

I'm sorry you went through what you did. I know it's hard, but understand that your mind recognizes the pain, effort, and exhaustion you went through with your ex. And recognizing the way you felt, and how the relationship actually was, is a HUGE stepping stone in healing and moving on. Good for you!!

 

thank you a lot for helping me understand , also thanks to someone12341 for sharing his dream with us