Gentleman83 Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Hi there, I hope someone can give me some good advice or tips in my situation... I am 6 weeks in NC now and would like to break the contact as i am feeling way better when she broke up with me 2 months before the NC. I was devastated and in a emotional rollercoaster and made some mistakes. I kept contact and said to her i missed her alot and i missed us togheter. She wanted to keep contact after the breakup because else our roads would never cross again. We live in a different city and it is 45 minutes apart by car. No problem for me but it was a slight problem for her. She could not combine it with her job/family/friends etc etc... she had so much stress in her mind and it didnt give her rest. We only met in the weekend because She also worked alot at home for her job preparing interviews... She is still living at her parrents place and is searching for her own home in the same city for more then a year. She is 25 and i am 29 so she might have GiGs instead? I said our roads split up here then and this is the goodbye, but then she said "no thats sounds so permanent!!!" and our roads will never cross again then and "maybe you should go for your feelings instead?" i want to meet again if i have my own home and you can come and have a drink at my place? . But also saying there are alot of great people around and i think i see us as friends..... Like wtf, giving mixed signals? I was so confused so i kept contact but it made the pain worse and i had to initiate the no contact or i would go down with my ship.... I told her it is better for both of us and i needed healing aswell. I would appreciate it if she didnt contact me during this NC and i would let her know if the time was right. I know i was very good for her and she cried alot when she broke up with me in person and we spoke for more then 2 hours and i it felt like my world was falling apart. Anyway i would still give it a second chance and would like to break the NC and i know both people are needed for a second chance so i should not rush in... I feel alot better and have hit the gym alot lately. I was so busy lately i almost moved on without her but then i found something which reminded me about her and made me think about the good times we had. we never had fights and always had fun togheter. She just was not sure about us because of the gigs effect i guess.... Anyway, phonecall or just a small txt msg by phone? and what to sent? acting like i moved on or be honest? i read different things on the internet and every situation is different so if you have any questions please do so Thanks for your time and i appreciate any help
Follower Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Take the advice I know your itching to do it but DONT Just DONT its not worth it for any reason whatsoever.
ThatDudeXO Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Don't it won't work. The only way you will get together is if she initiates NC and says she wants to try things again.
favoritepills Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Don't do it. It'll only undo 6 weeks' worth of progress and set you back to square one. You should only get in touch with her if you're absolutely sure you have no feelings for her anymore. Try to imagine how you would feel if she told you she was madly in love with another guy. If your answer is anything other than "I don't care" or "Good for her," you're not ready.
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