CATCH2287 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Im 25, she 23....i spent 7 months chasing her because she was emotionally unready and wanted me to wait for her as it would be nice. I noticed before too that she has an anger problem and snaps very easy. she doesnt like to talk about things and keeps it to herself. as i tried to approach being nice she would just tell me to let her cool and she would shut me out. She is indicisive, and never knew what she wanted...she wanted me to wait still. I did but wasnt all over her, i gave her plenty of space. then she kept pursuin me and finally 7 months later she asked me to be her bf and i was happy. i figured since she asked me then she was emotionally ready...i was real good to her. i opened her door, gave her flowers. She kept telling me she's only dated *******s and then found me. During our 4 months she told me i was an amazing man and was real happy with me. Called me the best bf ever, and that im the greatest thing thats ever happened to her. She would always make me feel special, and i thought she really was different..my last two gfs never appreciated me and both cheated. So anyway, 1 month before she dumps me she was acting weird again like in her indicisiveness and i just let it go and hoped she cooled off. There were times where she would always ask me what's wrong and i was totally fine. She always asked that...it got rather annoyin. Then we had the stupidest fight ever that we both dont remember what was it about. So then the next day she wanted to be alone and "think about things" but that breaking up was last on her mind and doesnt want to because she would miss me terribly. The next day after that we had dinner and a talk and we both agreed that breaking up is not what we want. we had dinner she was laughing, me too. After dinner she hugged me and kissed me and told me that we were going to be ok... Come monday she texts me saying she is frustrated and doesnt think we are good. That she is sorry that she is not what i expected. But never mentioned not wanting to be with me. So i go over her house because she wanted me to and she is outside almost crying. She tells me she hasnt felt me but the feeling "comes and goes". we both started to cry, and she then told me that she is there for me and cares but i knew she was going the friends route and i said NO..i cant be her friend. im in love with her. After i told her that , she started to cry even more... now why did she cry more?? We talked more and suddenly she caved in and said "ok, lets try again"...i got soo upset and told her this isnt a game, stop toyin with me... why would she say that? Then she started to cry alot more and kept saying "im sorry, im sorry, im sorry"....then i told her that i will not be contacting her at all nor take her calls, that when i leave that day, i will disappear and will not come back. after a bit more, she has the nerve to tell me "lets meet up in a week?" LIKE SERIOUSLY>>> why would she say that? i told her no... she seriously fed me sweet nothings so what the hell would compell someone to say all these things to someone who was an absolute real man to her when all she had was *******s??? does she not see what she has? ladies if you can please help me understand what is going through her mind?? will she ever call? ...its been 5 days of NC and im not going too, do you think she is thinking about me? wanting to contact me? Ladies/anyone if you can answer my questions, i would be greatly appreciated... thanks..
Own Worst Enemy Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 But I don't think she knows what she wants. And if she wanted you, she would know. This may sound v patronising, but 23 is quite young to know what you want from a serious relationship. I didn't think so when I was 23, but my god from the ancient heights of 33, I can tell you I knew NOTHING! Stay NC. Either she will question her decision and get in touch, or she won't because she has made up her mind. However, by the time she does, hopefully You. Won't. Care! And won't that feel great?
EricaH329 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I don't understand how you could want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. It shouldn't matter what her reasons are. If she is unsure about you, or flat out tells you she doesn't want to be with you, that's a very clear sign of where the relationship stands. There's a reason she has only dated @$$holes. I can tell you now, that not every man alive is an @$$hole. You have to make an effort to ONLY date them. She's attracted to them. And since you aren't one, she has lost interest. It was new and exciting for her, at first, being with someone that's 'new' and 'different' to her. She's clearly unstable. And once she realized you weren't going to push her around, she decided that it just wasn't going to work. ALWAYS stay away from the girls who say they've only dated @$$holes. It's the equivalent of a 40 year old man saying he only dates 18 year olds. It's a pretty big sign of their emotional maturity. 1
tornangel Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I think one of two things or maybe both. She has been with another guy and stringing u on the side (back up plan) . Or she doesnt want a nice guy cause thats too boring for her. And she started crying and flipping out cause she ONLY wants what she cant have.Thats why she kept pushing you away when she had you. Its a game to her. And thats all. She has serious problems and will only cause you pain. Sorry : (
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