Ducklover Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I posted previously about my ex. I have since spent every night this week with him, and he contacted me throughout the week. However yesterday he did by bother with me and I rang him this morning, he was busy but didn't seem like he wanted to talk. Now I really don't know what to think or do? As I want to call or text him! Help!!!!
EricaH329 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 So wait, you've spent almost every day with him this week, and have kept in constant contact with him, and the minute he becomes busy you start freaking out? Am I getting this right?
d'Arthez Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 You are hurting because you still make the guy your whole world. You would be better served by not seeing him at all.
Own Worst Enemy Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 The pair of you haven't once discussed what it means? He might just be busy. He might be backing off. FFS don't call him first!
Author Ducklover Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 But he just doesn't call me, then I bet he will ring me tomorrow because it's Sunday night! I don't know what to do, he won't talk about what's going on he just says I'm ruining the evening or some crap excuse if I bring it up...
Own Worst Enemy Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 What a bastard. Ruining the evening because you want to know where you stand? Urrrgh I hate him!!! You SHOULd ignore him when he calls. Then later tell him that you had plans. Best of all, make plans, now. If you give in to the longing to see him, you will be less attractive to him, as he will just see a willing doormat. Don't let him do that. Make him make an effort. And if he doesn't? There's your answer...
d'Arthez Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Stop seeing your ex. The more time you spend with him, the more you want him - but he is your ex. Continue to see him, and make your activities depending on him, the more you will hurt. Spend time with other friends and your family instead.
Author Ducklover Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 I have rubbish friends! They don't even know half of the situation with my ex as its all got so complicated! I really want to get back with him...but I don't think m going the right way about it? I can't keep to no contact I always want to speak to him for one reason or another and when I ignore his calls or texts me goes on and on and then gets angry at me! This is such a mess!
Own Worst Enemy Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 You need to remember my mantra: you want a text. Not a text-back. There is a whole world of difference. Whatever it takes to get your mind off that clawing need to contact him, do it. I knw the feeling. But you have to learn to control it, or you'll always feel the weaker powerless one.
Million.to.1 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 He is your EX. Why are you spending so much time with him? You have crap friends? He sounds like he is your whole life. He is your EX for a reason. Have you forgotten why?
d'Arthez Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 This is a v ducky thread! What can I say ... I am to please. :bunny: As difficult as it is, you are better of telling your friends what has happened, and why things are as they are (if the situation is really complex, you might be better off posting in greater detail about what has happened; we can think with you). You should find a lot of support from your friends in this situation, and they will help you to stop thinking about your ex. From the sounds of it, your ex wants his cake and eat it too. He has unrealistic expectations from you, partly because you make yourself too available to him.
Own Worst Enemy Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 This guy wants to have his cake, eat it, and make trifle out of it!
Author Ducklover Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 I agree totally!! He wants his cake and mine and to eat them both I think! Selfish and greedy I think!! So what to do I do if tomorrow he calls or texts? What do I do to play my cards right here? Thankyou sooooo much for your advice I totally am soooo greatfull!!!
d'Arthez Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Ignore him as much as possible; do not think that everything is fine and dandy if he finally manages to send you a text message. Wow he spent a few cents on you, and no more than 30 seconds to compose it. You deserve better than the crumbs this guy offers you. I know that is very hard, and that is where real life friends can help you a lot by providing you emotional and moral support; spend time with your girlfriends, some of whom may have gone through similar heart aches (and thus are more experienced in how to deal with such difficult and painful situations). Do things you like on your own. You must have some interests, some hobbies, or other things you like to do. Perhaps even take up a new hobby.
Author Ducklover Posted May 13, 2012 Author Posted May 13, 2012 He so far hasn't contacted me today so maybe he isn't interested again! Its so hard to stop myself from contacting him!
MissBrunette84 Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Be strong, post here instead even if you have to make a million threads lol
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