ScienceGal Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 (edited) When I came to LS just over a year ago I don't think I knew what I was getting myself into. I had been left by a man I loved, a man I thought I would marry. I had lost the social life I had built around him, and I was in a darker and lonelier place that I had ever been in my life. I sat here crying and begging that someone could give me an explanation. I would've made a deal with the devil to have him back. I thought about dying and wished I would. I cried, it subsided, then I cried some more. It seemed as though it would never end. I got a lot of responses to the various threads I started about coping with the heartache, dealing with seeing him out in public, dealing with seeing him date new women. I had good days too where I was able to respond to other people's posts. Often times I was able to relate to their story, and I was always willing to offer some advice when they were confused and in pain. I would then have bad days where I thought I had made no progress at all. I became impatient with myself and I regressed on several occasions. LSers always picked me back up and I eventually regained my footing. I poured over into the dating section and worked through a short failed relationship there. It didn't hurt like the previous relationship, and I credit LSers for helping steer me along. It sure is tough to walk away from someone who seems to have so much potential but just can't get it together. It was hard to feel like I had so much love to give, but have no where to place it. I just wanted to feel that connection to another human being. But, in the end, it wasn't him and it was never going to be. I just kept moving forward. Some of the posters who were here when I signed up are still here, and I see even more new posters. A lot of the stories start to sound the same as a dozen other stories I've read, and that's ok. Each human experience deserves attention and thought. In a way though, to see so many others going through what I went through makes me feel normal. And that was an important realization to make, that what I was going through was not weird or wrong or uncommon. It was just life and it wasn't happening to only me. I sometimes wonder if I will ever leave LS. Sometimes I don't check in for a week or two, but I always seem to come back. I like it here (minus the spambots and trolls). I guess I just wanted to express my surprise that I've made it to 1,000 posts. And I wanted to put it into the coping section because that is where I started, as most of us did. And, I continue to cope as I believe all of us do. I thank everyone on here who is here with good intentions. And, to all you new members, hang in there. You will get through, I promise. I want to see your 1,000th post. Edited May 12, 2012 by ScienceGal 5
someone12341 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 i found this site a week after my engagement ended, it really does help to hear other ppls stories, get input from ppl who don't know you,to hear what they have to say from a neutral point of view. one thing i got from reading this forum is that no matter how rough it is now time will heal. one thing i learned from my experience is that the only person that can ever make you happy is yourself, cause if your not happy with yourself you will never be happy with anyone or anything thank you to everyone that helped and will help out anyone and every person that comes on here,
Comfortably Numb Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 It is quite humbling and at the same time, comforting knowing that we all share certain commonalities even while being unique individuals. Off Topic, what kind of science are you into?
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