Radu Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 How can you tell she looks submissive from her pics? Her pictures look like typical pictures a girl will take. You look like someone who's friendly and approachable. Besides your 1st picture, you look young. Maybe younger men are intimidated by your attractiveness? Just a feeling i had. She likes to show neck, she arches the eyebrows upwards, in one of them she looks like crying, and overall it seems like she tries to be as ... unthreatening as possible. In most of them it's like she freezes ... deer in headlights comes to mind. Off-course, i could be wrong.
EternalInk Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I'm 23... And never had a boyfriend that's younger than 30. I was 14 when I had my first boyfriend, he was 36. When I turned 18, he turned 40. When we broke up, I had another boyfriend, a white dude, he was 43! Wait, he didn't look like 43, he looked like a 28 year old guy by his face, skin, body and smell, lol! And even now, he doesn't look like he's already on his late 50's. So young looking! When he went back to his home, we decided to call it off. I started dating and again, I had another white guy and he was 36, then 31 and then 34... And now, I'm with a 33 year old guy. I dunno why but really no one from my age tried to court nor date me. Well, I was talking before to a 26 year old guy but I just can't relate myself with the way he was living his life. I'm quite an immature sometimes but I don't like an immature guy. I've come to think of this coz I was talking to my friend earlier and she asked me why do I always get associated with older guys. And they don't seem to work all the all the time, and she told me to find one on my age and maybe it's going to work. I don't know but looking back, nobody from my age tried to come to me. Is there such a thing as "Older dude's magnet"? Wow! This thread is a complete contradiction of your 'Things I have learnt in dating thread'. This might be the reason why some may think you're a troll. As for the "older dude's magnet" thing...maybe you flirt with the older men more than you flirt with the younger guys?
dasein Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I don't see any of that in her pics, just an attractive young woman.
Radu Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Que? A 36 yr old man who takes interest in, and primes a 14 yr old for a future sexual relationship, is a creeper and a predator. Its doubly worse considering this guy is a family friend and has known OP since she was a very young child. What kind of friend does that? A creepy predator thats who...or who you be ok with your daughter dating your good chum at 14 and then banging him at 18? And would you easily believe nothing ever went on between them before 18? No kissing or anything? Ha I don't generally agree with kaylan's female apologyst posts about men, but on this one it's spot right. It's not that there was 22yrs between them, it's that she was 14.
dasein Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Point remains, OP didn't ask us to make her exes an issue to the extent they have been, it's clear she just listed them to support what she is asking. Have read her other posts, they reflect a completely healthy, well-adjusted person. I don't think she was really looking to be told to what extent she is a victim of abuse.
veggirl Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I've wondered if you are a troll too, and no offense op but you come off as naive and ditzy, not sophisticated in any way. I'm actually kinda surprised to learn you are 23. You come across as a teenager. This whole thread is 4
Radu Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Good point dasein. OP, when i was about 15 i had a major crush on a girl and her physical attributes kinda coloured my desires aftewards, have you thought it could be something like this ? I also notice that the difference between your love interests is slowly decreasing mostly as you age, but also because they get younger. First one close to 40, then one over 40, then several just a tad over 30. Could it be that you were looking in them for something that was missing in you, or in your home ?
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Wow! This thread is a complete contradiction of your 'Things I have learnt in dating thread'. This might be the reason why some may think you're a troll. As for the "older dude's magnet" thing...maybe you flirt with the older men more than you flirt with the younger guys? I used to believe that 10 yrs gap is close.. Since I've been with the 2 guys that were 20 plus older than me. After that I only dated 10 to 15 years older to me. Til my friend told me that 10 years, that's too way older. Gets?
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 no offense op but you come off as naive and ditzy, not sophisticated in any way. I'm actually kinda surprised to learn you are 23. You come across as a teenager. This whole thread is Oh yeah? But we were talking about dressing style when I said 'sophisticated'. Okay, I'm sorry, like I said I'm quite immature SOMETIMES. If it's sick, then don't bother to continue reading this. D^mn.
Radu Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Don't mean to sound patronizing, but i did have noticed that women/girls under 24-25 put a lot of emphasis on their gf's opinions. You date that girl, you in a way date her gf's too. Your gf is probably attracted more to guys her own age, and for her the 10yr age gap is quite large. Her reality needs not necesarily be your reality, right ?
matte123 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Just a feeling i had. She likes to show neck, she arches the eyebrows upwards, in one of them she looks like crying, and overall it seems like she tries to be as ... unthreatening as possible. In most of them it's like she freezes ... deer in headlights comes to mind. Off-course, i could be wrong. Even though I still disagree with you, that is an interesting analysis of a person's pictures
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Don't mean to sound patronizing, but i did have noticed that women/girls under 24-25 put a lot of emphasis on their gf's opinions. You date that girl, you in a way date her gf's too. Your gf is probably attracted more to guys her own age, and for her the 10yr age gap is quite large. Her reality needs not necesarily be your reality, right ? Yes, she has different thinking but she had me thinking about what she said. For me, no guy gets old at 45. Who says 45 is an oldie? 45 is not old. That's why I never consider them as OLD MEN... but I'd say OLDER MEN cause they are just older to me, but not OLD as IN OLD.
stillafool Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I've wondered if you are a troll too, and no offense op but you come off as naive and ditzy, not sophisticated in any way. I'm actually kinda surprised to learn you are 23. You come across as a teenager. This whole thread is It really is and sort of pointless. Why does she keep posting her pictures?
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 (edited) It really is and sort of pointless. Why does she keep posting her pictures? And why do you keep checking and posting on here? There are so many threads out there that you can read and maybe you can give SENSEFUL advices on there... Get the hell away from this one if it's not making sense to you... I've seen some pointless threads and posts here and never did I give a f**ck to them... EDIT: Anyway, I like your username. That's pretty perfect for you! Edited May 12, 2012 by DuchessKaye
veggirl Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Don't men typically die like 10 yrs before women? If you marry a guy who is 45, you'll probably be a widow by the time you are 55!
NeverDated Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Point remains, OP didn't ask us to make her exes an issue to the extent they have been, it's clear she just listed them to support what she is asking. Have read her other posts, they reflect a completely healthy, well-adjusted person. I don't think she was really looking to be told to what extent she is a victim of abuse. You post on a public forum, you get what you get. Those adolescent years are quite formative in how a woman presents herself to men. The fact that she was with a pervert, who, without a doubt whether she admits it or not, was grooming her for sex as soon as it was legal, speaks volumes to how she views the relationships with men. There is now an unconscious expectation of how a man treats a woman, which can't be fulfilled by men her own age. So...yes, the extent to which she is a victim is extremely important for her original question. This is a learned behavior, and she has also learned to present herself in such a way that fulfills her role in these types of unbalanced relationships.
Radu Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Don't men typically die like 10 yrs before women? If you marry a guy who is 45, you'll probably be a widow by the time you are 55! Here, take this ... it's salt mixed with peper, pour it freely over the wound !
stillafool Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 And why do you keep checking and posting on here? There are so many threads out there that you can read and maybe you can give SENSEFUL advices on there... Get the hell away from this one if it's not making sense to you... I've seen some pointless threads and posts here and never did I give a f**ck to them... EDIT: Anyway, I like your username. That's pretty perfect for you! This is a public forum and when you post you get what you get. With that mouth of yours I can see why you only attract old perverts. 1
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 This is a public forum and when you post you get what you get. With that mouth of yours I can see why you only attract old perverts. Well, sorry. I don't talk like this in real life. There's a big difference. Anyway, my apologies Madam. And sorry, I don't attract OLD PERVERTS... But just OLDER MEN that are just successful and awesome that I always get intimidated. So far, I've never had any affair with MARRIED MEN. Better be with OLDER MEN that are singles than stoop down to the level of being the OTHER WOMAN... You know what I'm saying...
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Sorry if I get so mad and lost my temper. I'm a sweet, passionate, friendly, kind-hearted girl in real life. (Atleast, I was told) And hope you guys consider this... | | V No woman is all sweetness... BRB...
stillafool Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Well, sorry. I don't talk like this in real life. There's a big difference. Anyway, my apologies Madam. And sorry, I don't attract OLD PERVERTS... But just OLDER MEN that are just successful and awesome that I always get intimidated. So far, I've never had any affair with MARRIED MEN. Better be with OLDER MEN that are singles than stoop down to the level of being the OTHER WOMAN... You know what I'm saying... I understand that my dear. I commend you for not stooping to the level of an OW. Never could understand what ANY woman would get out a relationship as demeaning as an OW. I still say don't throw your youth away on old men because there will come a time when you will want what you missed out on when you were young.
RedRobin Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Those adolescent years are quite formative in how a woman presents herself to men. The fact that she was with a pervert, who, without a doubt whether she admits it or not, was grooming her for sex as soon as it was legal, speaks volumes to how she views the relationships with men. There is now an unconscious expectation of how a man treats a woman, which can't be fulfilled by men her own age. So...yes, the extent to which she is a victim is extremely important for her original question. This is a learned behavior, and she has also learned to present herself in such a way that fulfills her role in these types of unbalanced relationships. I second this... ... and to the other posters who never miss an opportunity to continue coaching young women (and subsequently other women readers) to keep dating much older men... well, I have my theories about that too. Me thinks they like that kind of dynamic themselves. Use 'em up. Throw 'em out. Find another gullible young'in...
Radu Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 I second this... ... and to the other posters who never miss an opportunity to continue coaching young women (and subsequently other women readers) to keep dating much older men... well, I have my theories about that too. Me thinks they like that kind of dynamic themselves. Use 'em up. Throw 'em out. Find another gullible young'in... They are also freemasons, it was covered at last week's meeting at the lodge. Seriously now, there isn't a grandplan at works ... it's just advantageous for them. It's no different from women promoting their own agenda on men in other threads. They just identify too much.
dasein Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 You post on a public forum, you get what you get. Yeah, um no. OP didn't invite psychoanalysis via "predator preaching" and suggesting she has been emotionally damaged and victimized somehow. If she was seeking to be told she was an abused victim, she would have stated as such. Those adolescent years... Lots of unwarranted hyperbole and a real stretch to apply to an OP who cites no such issues. OP is presumed no more damaged due to her dating experiences than any other person, certainly no more than the average young adult having sex from the mid teens on.
dasein Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 ... and to the other posters who never miss an opportunity to continue coaching young women (and subsequently other women readers) to keep dating much older men... well, I have my theories about that too. The above reveals very clearly that you haven't even read this thread, just saw an opportunity to sling some poo and drop a bomb. Cite some posts here in this thread or anywhere else on the board where men "coach" young women to date older men. You can't because they don't exist.
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