DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I'm 23... And never had a boyfriend that's younger than 30. I was 14 when I had my first boyfriend, he was 36. When I turned 18, he turned 40. When we broke up, I had another boyfriend, a white dude, he was 43! Wait, he didn't look like 43, he looked like a 28 year old guy by his face, skin, body and smell, lol! And even now, he doesn't look like he's already on his late 50's. So young looking! When he went back to his home, we decided to call it off. I started dating and again, I had another white guy and he was 36, then 31 and then 34... And now, I'm with a 33 year old guy. I dunno why but really no one from my age tried to court nor date me. Well, I was talking before to a 26 year old guy but I just can't relate myself with the way he was living his life. I'm quite an immature sometimes but I don't like an immature guy. I've come to think of this coz I was talking to my friend earlier and she asked me why do I always get associated with older guys. And they don't seem to work all the all the time, and she told me to find one on my age and maybe it's going to work. I don't know but looking back, nobody from my age tried to come to me. Is there such a thing as "Older dude's magnet"?
d'Arthez Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Undoubtedly there is. What you may be looking for is something that is so rare in younger guys, that they don't even bother with you. Men who are quite mature at a young age may find themselves in similar positions, and go for the somewhat older women as well.
irin Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I was 14 when I had my first boyfriend, he was 36. :eek::confused: 9
kaylan Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Im convinced this poster is a troll. This seems like an attempt to incite the forum members with this topic. And whats the point in bringing up race with this topic? Im disturbed by the whole statutory rape thing though. 3
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Im convinced this poster is a troll. This seems like an attempt to incite the forum members with this topic. And whats the point in bringing up race with this topic? Im disturbed by the whole statutory rape thing though. Nah, not a troll... Kaylan, you do really hate me, don't you?
mesmerized Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 If you're not a troll, as an Asian girl who is obsessed with white guys, that's what you get, old men. But wrinkles and saggy skin doesn't matter as long as they have blue eyes , right? Lol
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 (edited) If you're not a troll, as an Asian girl who is obsessed with white guys, that's what you get, old men. But wrinkles and saggy skin doesn't matter as long as they have blue eyes , right? Lol LOL! No wrinkles and saggy skin so far. And ugh, no, no older than 45! Edited May 12, 2012 by DuchessKaye
irin Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 did you by any chance report that paedophile, he is probably abusing, taking advantage of some poor little girl now! :sick::sick::sick::sick: words fail me! :(:(:(:(:(:(
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 did you by any chance report that paedophile, he is probably abusing, taking advantage of some poor little girl now! :sick::sick::sick::sick: words fail me! :(:(:(:(:(:( I didn't consider my 1st boyfriend as pedophile. He was my neighbor, he's a cousin of my cousins. And we never had sex til I turned 18. When I was born in the Philippines, he was there. We even had a picture, he was carrying me, he was a teenage boy and I was a baby...
mesmerized Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 LOL! No wrinkles and saggy skin so far. And ugh, no, no older than 45! Lol well if you stay with these old men, they hit 45 and more. And you talking about immaturity is pretty funny since you don't even understand that you were used by a pervert older guy. Bottom line is that, if a guy your age never approached you, you probably lack in the looks department. And you have to bring youth to the table for guys to be interested. You probably also come off as naive and that's also something that older guys look for.
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 you were used by a pervert older guy. Just because they are older doesn't make them pervert. Ugh. And I really mean 'OLDER' guy, not 'OLD' GUY. 1
Kamille Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Lol well if you stay with these old men, they hit 45 and more. Isn't that a fate that awaits anyone who enters a long term relationship? You know, growing old together and all that jazz? DK, like others, I do find the 14-36 relationship disturbing. I take it, though, that you didn't find it as disruptive as we imagine it to be. As for the question: is there such a thing as an older men magnet... Probably. It could be in part due to your social network. Do you have few friends? Are they mostly women? Or do you hang out with a large group of friends? The guys my age I dated in my twenties were usually the result of hooks ups. They would be part of my circle of friends, a crush would develop, and then one night we would make out at a party (awww, those were the days). Now, I have smaller circle of friends and expect men to ask and take me out. The result could be that older men are more likely to "date" women in official ways. And ps: as has been well established, you do not lack in the looks department.
mesmerized Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Just because they are older doesn't make them pervert. Ugh. And I really mean 'OLDER' guy, not 'OLD' GUY. Oh please! You were 14 and he was 36...if you really can't see it then I don't know what to tell you Tbh.
kaylan Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I didn't consider my 1st boyfriend as pedophile. He was my neighbor, he's a cousin of my cousins. And we never had sex til I turned 18. When I was born in the Philippines, he was there. We even had a picture, he was carrying me, he was a teenage boy and I was a baby... Wait wait, so youre saying an older white dude went to asia to date early teenage girls? That sounds like your typical creepy Western pervert imo. Def a troll. 1
mesmerized Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Isn't that a fate that awaits anyone who enters a long term relationship? You know, growing old together and all that jazz? DK, like others, I do find the 14-36 relationship disturbing. I take it, though, that you didn't find it as disruptive as we imagine it to be. As for the question: is there such a thing as an older men magnet... Probably. It could be in part due to your social network. Do you have few friends? Are they mostly women? Or do you hang out with a large group of friends? The guys my age I dated in my twenties were usually the result of hooks ups. They would be part of my circle of friends, a crush would develop, and then one night we would make out at a party (awww, those were the days). Now, I have smaller circle of friends and expect men to ask and take me out. The result could be that older men are more likely to "date" women in official ways. And ps: as has been well established, you do not lack in the looks department. Yes but in her case, she dated a man who was 43. 45 is only a couple of years away. Lol
matte123 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 You probably also come off as naive and that's also something that older guys look for. ^ This. Maybe you give off that vibe so some of older men may think they can take advantage of you. I'm not sure why you're not attracting men your own age. Could it be your appearance? What type of clothes do you wear? 1
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Oh please! You were 14 and he was 36...if you really can't see it then I don't know what to tell you Tbh. Yes I was young but he never touched me til I was 18... Is that enough to make him not a pervert? I don't think he was just after sex. We lived in the Philippines and people there believe in too much, like superstitions. He said, that when my Mom was giving birth, he was dreaming of me, a baby that was crying and for. So, he went to our house next door and when I was born he cried. He didn't even know my Mom's due date. But, to dream of me that night. He seriously thought it was something... And as I grew up, he took care of me. Too bad, superstitions didn't work for us.
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Wait wait, so youre saying an older white dude went to asia to date early teenage girls? That sounds like your typical creepy Western pervert imo. Def a troll. We moved...
irin Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I didn't consider my 1st boyfriend as pedophile. He was my neighbor, he's a cousin of my cousins. And we never had sex til I turned 18. When I was born in the Philippines, he was there. We even had a picture, he was carrying me, he was a teenage boy and I was a baby... he wasnt a teenage boy, he was 22 years old, and your were newborn! you really believe a 36 year old man was in a "relationship" and waited 4 years to have sex with a 14 year old, what exactly was this relationship based on what did a 14 year old have to talk about with a 36 year old, did he help with your homework?
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 ^ This. Maybe you give off that vibe so some of older men may think they can take advantage of you. I'm not sure why you're not attracting men your own age. Could it be your appearance? What type of clothes do you wear? My appearance? Uhm.. I'm pretty sophisticated but casual...
mesmerized Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Yes I was young but he never touched me til I was 18... Is that enough to make him not a pervert? I don't think he was just after sex. We lived in the Philippines and people there believe in too much, like superstitions. He said, that when my Mom was giving birth, he was dreaming of me, a baby that was crying and for. So, he went to our house next door and when I was born he cried. He didn't even know my Mom's due date. But, to dream of me that night. He seriously thought it was something... And as I grew up, he took care of me. Too bad, superstitions didn't work for us. This is even more gross lol he took care of you when you were growing up and had sex with you as soon as you turned 18? Anyways, I'm smelling troll too. 2
NeverDated Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Just because they are older doesn't make them pervert. Ugh. And I really mean 'OLDER' guy, not 'OLD' GUY. A 36 year old who would even contemplate dating a 14 year old that he held as a newborn is a total pervert. At that point in life, most guys still have the "ew, she could be my daughter" mentality. And dating a 14 year old in your thirties isn't the same kind of status symbol as dating a 25 year old when you're in your fifties/sixties. It's...shameful. Sounds to me like you are an older guy magnet, because you've been conditioned to be arm candy. A 43 year old may find something in common with a 23 year old. But a string of men approaching middle age more than likely were not attracted to you, so much as the buzz and attention they receive for scoring a hot young girl. You're being used. If you like it, good for you. Otherwise, you may want to reconsider the signals you're giving to people. 2
iris219 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Your story isn’t surprising (although the relationship you had at 14 with the 36 year old was inappropriate and that guy was gross). Most older men would love to date young girls; it’s just that most young girls wouldn’t give a man old enough to be her dad the time of day. You’re not a magnet for old men any more than any other young, cute girl. You just happen to not blow them off and/or be outraged that an old man approached you like most young girls would be. Your current relationship (10 year age difference) isn't unusual at all.
anne1707 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 This gets worse So this neighbour basically acted like a pseudo-uncle to you whilst you were a child, started dating you whilst you were still a child and then had sex with you as soon as it was legal.
Author DuchessKaye Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 he wasnt a teenage boy, he was 22 years old, and your were newborn! you really believe a 36 year old man was in a "relationship" and waited 4 years to have sex with a 14 year old, what exactly was this relationship based on what did a 14 year old have to talk about with a 36 year old, did he help with your homework? Not a newborn... We had the picture when I was 2 or 3 something... 2, 3 and 4 is still a baby, right? yes, he quite a bit helped me with my homework.
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