Glove_slap Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Isn't it just absurd how people change? I'm not speaking about anyone specifically as I myself have changed so much in the past few years. My ex has changed to a completely different person that till this day I can't wrap my head around. My friends have changed, my parents, sisters and almost everyone I've ever known have all changed. Some change for good others find themselves caught up in things that they shouldn't have. You see I don't think it's hard living a safe, happy life, I don't think it's hard letting go of something, I don't think it's hard bouncing back and becoming a new person, this contradicts about every post I've ever made here but I think the only thing that holds us back is impatience. Many of us push away our exes by being impatient, many of us try to meet new people and push them away by being impatient, many of us become sadden when we cannot have the things we want right now. Granted some of us wait idly just hoping for something but that shouldn't ever be the path one should take, go to the gym, read books on love & life, bond with friends & family, focus on school, adjust priorities. We live in a world where everyone wants to find something to hold on, we all want love and this is something so natural that it'll often unfold by itself. Stay confident & positive. I'm not sure how many people will read this and reply but if I can get through to at least one person this late night post won't be meaningless. I guess what I'm trying to say is stop trying to find the answers in others, stop trying to find happiness, validation and love within others, most people try to find these things in other people and this just causes a cycle of pain and suffering as people will always try to do better to improve their lives. Try to find happiness within yourself. Work out and get that body you want, go to school and get that job you want, read books and learn what you want. I guess what I'm trying to say is posting in these forums will only prolong the pain, searching for answers that no one really has. - Thanks to Wilsonx for kind of being that outside, impartial entity that provided all the answers without actually answering anything. If I ever post on this forum it'll be to help instead of being helped.
january2011 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I guess what I'm trying to say is posting in these forums will only prolong the pain, searching for answers that no one really has. I agree with this up to a point. There are some people who take longer to graduate from the pain than others and they do seem to hold onto the forum like a crutch. But I think that there are also some who continue to post here to pay it forward as well as to cathartically work through their own issues. A lot of the time, people know what they need to do, they just need a little reassurance to steer them in the right direction. There are also some who post just to vent but might have no real interest in sorting out their problems, they just want to know that someone is listening and acknowledges their pain. Anyway, well done with the progress you've made and good luck with the rest of your healing.
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