ScreamingTrees Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I know a lot of people. Bitch is an expected default as it seems to apply to any gal who isn't placating to guy's egos and pride though manipulative is a toss up to me. As to me the gals are no more or less manipulative than most people and at least they don't play the victim, passive aggressive self-entitled bit that seems common in the nice guy manipulators. Exactly in what way are they souless or robos to you? Though how would a gal using you for a ride or party contacts ruin your day? I could understand the ride as it would entail gas money and driving home drunkies but party contacts.... I don't expect a girl to "placate to my ego", and as I said, I wouldn't be used for anything so I could care less. It had nothing to do with petty stuff like that, moreso the fact that they manipulated me. I've never seen another human being as a tool to be used. I don't bother with people unless I'm genuinely interested in them and enjoy their company. I've been used once by someone who I thought was my best friend of 5-7 years at the time.. I did a lot for this person never expecting **** and then looking back realized they did NOTHING for me and actually treated me worse than what a good friend would've.. If they really didn't want to bother with me but were using me to get to a party.. Why would I even bother with them? I'd be surprised that such a person would even have my phone number, let alone contact me. I don't believe that giving someone a ride would ruin my day, but if I was consistently being taken advantage of, I'd certainly be hurt, regardless of whether or not I liked the person as anything more than a friend. It's just common decency. I also can't speak for the passive aggressive "nice guys" out there, nor do I surround myself with them, so I can't really comment on that. I don't take ****, and I don't treat people like ****. Who/whatever that is, that's what I am. There should be no problem if I respectfully approach a girl and "feel her out" (you know what I mean..) and she rejects me gracefully. Spit in my face, I'll spit right back. Treat me like a human being, and I'll do the same. Treat me like **** when it's uncalled for, I'll treat you like **** all the same. I will NOT be a doormat or be made a fool of. That's a sign of poor character to me, and I wouldn't want to TOUCH a girl like that even if she was the hottest woman I've ever seen. I'd harshly reject them and wouldn't feel bad about it.
irc333 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 (edited) Most likely the gals don't want to socialize with you but want to know if you know of any social events. I'm quite unaware of how these gals are trying to use you. Are you considering answering questions about any party possibilities to be using you? Are you implying the gals wanted you to be their chauffeur to said party? Most likely your age doesn't explain something but rather who you are as a person and that seems to be a person they don't want to party with. Yeah, I had a dumb broad try to pull that with me, I met her at a superbowl party, she gave me her # and email, thinking she had some kind of interest in me for dating purposes. But turns out she was just wanted me to let her know of any events in the area and she'd go to them. ......but....not have me come along obviously (she didn't SAY that, but that's what she meant) Usually women who do this are deliberately being sadistic, or playing mind games to frustrate a guy that they have no interest in.....purposely of course. THey get a rise out of it. To actually CALL the guy up, ask him about events in the area, but once he provides them with the information, they won't let him join them? What kind of rude *itch is that? And then not include them in their "reindeer games", yeah, pretty twisted. I mean, he doesn't even have interest in dating them, but just interested in social networking. That's the problem with women, they won't do favors for members of the opposite sex, even if it's meaning to introduce him to other people in another social network. Edited May 12, 2012 by irc333 1
Nistan Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Do you know anybody that you think that they would hate to be around. Give them that adress. People that have little empathy are usually of low intelligence. People like these girls can't comprehend that what they are doing are hurting another human being. Because seeing another human being means that you have to see nuance. and they just do not have the intellectual capasity to do so. They have put you in some sort of box: loser, nerd or creep. It's like the kids that played with it's animals till the poor thing died. People like these you should avoid. If you need to be around them be cordial and respectfull. Show them that you have a boundary and if they break it punish them in some way. That is the only way that they will understand. They will never see you humanely, they just do not have the ability. 1
irc333 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 It's like the kids that played with it's animals till the poor thing died. People like these you should avoid. If you need to be around them be cordial and respectfull. Show them that you have a boundary and if they break it punish them in some way. That is the only way that they will understand. They will never see you humanely, they just do not have the ability. Yeah, there's a lot of movies like that where stupid humans are OVER doing things and aren't even aware of the repercussions that are occurring , so they could not be doing this purposely, but might be not aware of their actions, or just don't care. That's why I'd never loan my vehicle out to a friend that asks to borrow it, I don't trust something THAT valuable in someone else's hands. Because I know they'll wreck it. 1
Author Necromancer Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Do you know anybody that you think that they would hate to be around. Give them that adress. People that have little empathy are usually of low intelligence. People like these girls can't comprehend that what they are doing are hurting another human being. Because seeing another human being means that you have to see nuance. and they just do not have the intellectual capasity to do so. They have put you in some sort of box: loser, nerd or creep. It's like the kids that played with it's animals till the poor thing died. People like these you should avoid. If you need to be around them be cordial and respectfull. Show them that you have a boundary and if they break it punish them in some way. That is the only way that they will understand. They will never see you humanely, they just do not have the ability. Dude, you just gave me an idea, hahaha! i will let one of the girls call my friend that she HATES and say that she needs to ask him if she can come to his party!(and make up some other name for him) Brilliant. It will be the most awkward phone call ever
Nistan Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Dude, you just gave me an idea, hahaha! i will let one of the girls call my friend that she HATES and say that she needs to ask him if she can come to his party!(and make up some other name for him) Brilliant. It will be the most awkward phone call ever Glad I could help
PlumPrincess Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Seriously, I know young people generally are mercenary, but have never known or heard of women calling men they would avoid otherwise to find out what's going on with no intention of possibly spending time with them. Why do this when they could simply call guys they would be interested in being around who would have the same information? Sorry, women simply don't call guys they think are losers they don't want to be around IME... ever. Uh, it looks like they need a driver and he looks like he can supply them with one. All the other guys they want are probably interested in getting wasted themselves, so they can't ask them. Did the penny finally drop? Your paranoia isn't that quite active anymore, is it?
udolipixie Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Usually women who do this are deliberately being sadistic, or playing mind games to frustrate a guy that they have no interest in.....purposely of course. THey get a rise out of it. To actually CALL the guy up, ask him about events in the area, but once he provides them with the information, they won't let him join them? What kind of rude *itch is that? And then not include them in their "reindeer games", yeah, pretty twisted. I mean, he doesn't even have interest in dating them, but just interested in social networking. That's the problem with women, they won't do favors for members of the opposite sex, even if it's meaning to introduce him to other people in another social network. From my experiences the gals are usually just lazy and busy bit of a weird combo too busy in themselves to stay in touch but too lazy to get out of their own world to get the information they need so they have sources. Egh it's not being a rude b*tch or pretty twisted to me it's just calling someone up for information. Now having the guy be a chaueffer, brink the party favors, or pick you up is twisted. To me it's not gals responsibility to introduce a guy to their or any social network if they don't wish to. If a guy wants to meet someone or expand their social network to me the onus is on them. Either do it himself or ask a gal to and accept the possible no.
Woggle Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 From my experiences the gals are usually just lazy and busy bit of a weird combo too busy in themselves to stay in touch but too lazy to get out of their own world to get the information they need so they have sources. Egh it's not being a rude b*tch or pretty twisted to me it's just calling someone up for information. Now having the guy be a chaueffer, brink the party favors, or pick you up is twisted. To me it's not gals responsibility to introduce a guy to their or any social network if they don't wish to. If a guy wants to meet someone or expand their social network to me the onus is on them. Either do it himself or ask a gal to and accept the possible no. This is true but both genders should have the decency not to use somebody they have no interest in.
udolipixie Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 This is true but both genders should have the decency not to use somebody they have no interest in. Different defintiions as to me it's not using if one is simply calling the other for information that's being a contact or source.
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