Necromancer Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 What´s up with these girls calling me at friday/saturday nights asking me if i know about a party and i should call them back when i find one. I just say to them: Pick me up, then i will help you find something. Then they are always say something like: We have low fuel or we will call you after 1 hour and never call back. I am getting pissed off because they always call every weekend, when they say they will call back, i never take it seriously because MOST of the time they don´t. It´s funny how much they are trying to use me, am i the only one this is happening to? im really young still, turning 18 this summer that might explain something.
udolipixie Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Most likely the gals don't want to socialize with you but want to know if you know of any social events. I'm quite unaware of how these gals are trying to use you. Are you considering answering questions about any party possibilities to be using you? Are you implying the gals wanted you to be their chauffeur to said party? Most likely your age doesn't explain something but rather who you are as a person and that seems to be a person they don't want to party with.
dasein Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Women certainly don't call guys at all that they find socially undesirable, so it has less than nothing to do with any faults on your part OP, or that they somehow think a guy they don't want to party with knows where the cool parties are, you really do amaze me sometimes u-pixie, toe that man blaming party line! Yeah, they are probably just using you to "line up" the biggest best deal possible for the night. Some other guy(s) had a better pitch than you did and so they went with that. Young women are notoriously flaky in this way, just comes with the turf. There is also the possibility they are calling around looking for freebies, "Come over I got a bottle of Crown, bag o weed, tickets to the show, the good car for the night, whatever." The key is to figure out what other -guys- have going, and then start to put a group thing together that these girls and others will find attractive. Give them a favorable ratio of guys-girls, have something interesting going on other than some guys sitting around watching tv or playing xbox, add women to the mix until it's roughly equal >>> profit. Good luck.
Author Necromancer Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 Most likely the gals don't want to socialize with you but want to know if you know of any social events. I'm quite unaware of how these gals are trying to use you. Are you considering answering questions about any party possibilities to be using you? Are you implying the gals wanted you to be their chauffeur to said party? Most likely your age doesn't explain something but rather who you are as a person and that seems to be a person they don't want to party with. These are gals that i hang around much with at school, Most of the time they want me to get some guy to drive. (since i don´t have driver license.) They start most of the conversations on facebook. At least there is something they want from me and if it isn´t physical what is it then?
udolipixie Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Women certainly don't call guys at all that they find socially undesirable, so it has less than nothing to do with any faults on your part OP, or that they somehow think a guy they don't want to party with knows where the cool parties are, you really do amaze me sometimes u-pixie, toe that party line! Different experiences as mine have been gals certainly do call guys they find socially undesirable if they can extract information from them or get something they want from them. From my experiences gals tend to use guys like resources- this one knows where the best beaches are, this one has the best X, and this one hangs out with cool guys though he's a loser. I do wonder if it's a generational thing. Interestingly enough my experiences have shown that those that aren't invited to parties often have information on the where, when, and who. My gal pals have called plenty of guys they wouldn't hang out or party with for the information. Some even alluding to they'd go to the party with the guy only to brush him off once there.
udolipixie Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 These are gals that i hang around much with at school, Most of the time they want me to get some guy to drive. (since i don´t have driver license.) They start most of the conversations on facebook. At least there is something they want from me and if it isn´t physical what is it then? As to me there's quite a difference so do you mean hang around (same social circle don't really intimately or closely know them, only around them during school) or hang out (intimately or closely know them & hang out together and go to events together)? Do you know theses gals closely enough for them to be defined to you as friends or are they more like school friends only or acquaintances? Seems you're their chauffeur contact. My gal pals would when they couldn't drive would call around the losers, placaters, and/or easily manipulated guys who hung around to see if he could drive or if he knew a guy who could drive. Though my gal pals did the same when they could drive as they wanted a designated driver and they like to drink. Most likely these gals want from you to inform of parties or get some guy to drive them there.
dasein Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Seriously, I know young people generally are mercenary, but have never known or heard of women calling men they would avoid otherwise to find out what's going on with no intention of possibly spending time with them. Why do this when they could simply call guys they would be interested in being around who would have the same information? Sorry, women simply don't call guys they think are losers they don't want to be around IME... ever.
Author Necromancer Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 As to me there's quite a difference so do you mean hang around (same social circle don't really intimately or closely know them, only around them during school) or hang out (intimately or closely know them & hang out together and go to events together)? Do you know theses gals closely enough for them to be defined to you as friends or are they more like school friends only or acquaintances? Seems you're their chauffeur contact. My gal pals would when they couldn't drive would call around the losers, placaters, and/or easily manipulated guys who hung around to see if he could drive or if he knew a guy who could drive. Though my gal pals did the same when they could drive as they wanted a designated driver and they like to drink. Most likely these gals want from you to inform of parties or get some guy to drive them there. I am just in the same social circle, But 1 of the girls i know very well....she asked me few times to dance with her at the club(but i never did idk why), she is always chatting me up on facebook(even once 4x in one day) and is always asking me to stay longer with her at school but still she flakes on me at weekends like there is no tomorrow? wth
udolipixie Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Seriously, I know young people generally are mercenary, but have never known or heard of women calling men they would avoid otherwise to find out what's going on with no intention of possibly spending time with them. Why do this when they could simply call guys they would be interested in being around who would have the same information? Sorry, women simply don't call guys they think are losers they don't want to be around IME... ever. From my experiences these weren't guys they would avoid otherwise but guys who hung around or were merely acquaintances that they would avoid in social and status situations. They didn't avoid the guys otherwise as often the guys hung around them in classes (usually for homework/classwork help) or hung around them in lunch (usually to pay for lunch or eat his lunch) they just didn't party or hung out with these guys. Also from my experiences most gals wouldn't call the guys they are interested in because they care about what the guys they like think and don't want to act or say something that would have her looking uncool or lose points with him. As well as there usually is ulterior motive to calling the guy besides information- such as having a designated driver while all the gals drink, haivng a chaueffer, or getting a goodies buyer/supplier. My experiences have shown many gals call guys they think are losers that they would avoid otherwise or losers that they would avoid in social and status situations when they want something from said guy and he's easily manipulated.
udolipixie Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I am just in the same social circle, But 1 of the girls i know very well....she asked me few times to dance with her at the club(but i never did idk why), she is always chatting me up on facebook(even once 4x in one day) and is always asking me to stay longer with her at school but still she flakes on me at weekends like there is no tomorrow? wth Seems like a sorta know him situation where the one gal you know very well is interested but not interested enough to not flake out. It's probably best suited to disregard what she says and stop responding to the texts.
ScreamingTrees Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Different experiences as mine have been gals certainly do call guys they find socially undesirable if they can extract information from them or get something they want from them. From my experiences gals tend to use guys like resources- this one knows where the best beaches are, this one has the best X, and this one hangs out with cool guys though he's a loser. I do wonder if it's a generational thing. Interestingly enough my experiences have shown that those that aren't invited to parties often have information on the where, when, and who. My gal pals have called plenty of guys they wouldn't hang out or party with for the information. Some even alluding to they'd go to the party with the guy only to brush him off once there. You must know a lot of soulless, manipulative robo-bitches, huh.. ? If a girl blatantly used me for anything like that and it ruined my day, she'd better hope I'm not familiar with her ride, or else she might find her windows smashed, tires popped, ect.. But I won't be blatantly used, so these are empty words towards some person I'll (hopefully for them) never meet.
ThaWholigan Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 You must know a lot of soulless, manipulative robo-bitches, huh.. ? If a girl blatantly used me for anything like that and it ruined my day, she'd better hope I'm not familiar with her ride, or else she might find her windows smashed, tires popped, ect.. But I won't be blatantly used, so these are empty words towards some person I'll (hopefully for them) never meet. udolipixie knows everybody . Much like me in a sense: nothing really shocks me as I've seen most people behave in a variety of ways. Perhaps the frequency of some behaviors differ.
udolipixie Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 You must know a lot of soulless, manipulative robo-bitches, huh.. ? If a girl blatantly used me for anything like that and it ruined my day, she'd better hope I'm not familiar with her ride, or else she might find her windows smashed, tires popped, ect.. But I won't be blatantly used, so these are empty words towards some person I'll (hopefully for them) never meet. I know a lot of people. Bitch is an expected default as it seems to apply to any gal who isn't placating to guy's egos and pride though manipulative is a toss up to me. As to me the gals are no more or less manipulative than most people and at least they don't play the victim, passive aggressive self-entitled bit that seems common in the nice guy manipulators. Exactly in what way are they souless or robos to you? Though how would a gal using you for a ride or party contacts ruin your day? I could understand the ride as it would entail gas money and driving home drunkies but party contacts....
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Either have sex with these airheads or cut them off.
Woggle Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Just cut them off or at least charge them. That is what I did whenever women I knew wanted extra favors. If they wanted me to work on their car or fix something around the house they had to pay up.
Sid6.7 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Just cut them off or at least charge them. That is what I did whenever women I knew wanted extra favors. If they wanted me to work on their car or fix something around the house they had to pay up. Shhh don't tell boys that, they may catch on and become men.
Woggle Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Shhh don't tell boys that, they may catch on and become men. It's a good way to earn some extra money too. I also didn't tell them about the parties I went to because the party was better off without them there. 1
Sid6.7 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 It's a good way to earn some extra money too. I also didn't tell them about the parties I went to because the party was better off without them there. I wouldn't go that far, if booze is involved it's a party and they stop worrying what other people think. You must be married?
Woggle Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I wouldn't go that far, if booze is involved it's a party and they stop worrying what other people think. You must be married? The kind of places I hang out I don't want stupid drunk girls or guys for that matter there. I am married but I felt this way when single. The parties I was involved with had quality women and were not suited to the kind of girls in this thread.
Sid6.7 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 The kind of places I hang out I don't want stupid drunk girls or guys for that matter there. I am married but I felt this way when single. The parties I was involved with had quality women and were not suited to the kind of girls in this thread. Ah marriage, why? Curious, and I am being sincere with my question. What do you constitute a quality women? In your eyes.
Woggle Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Ah marriage, why? Curious, and I am being sincere with my question. What do you constitute a quality women? In your eyes. When I divorced my first my first wife I said I would never remarry unless I met a woman with certain qualities. By sheer luck I found such a woman. To me a good woman is one who is the opposite of the kind discussed in this thread.
Sid6.7 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 To me a good woman is one who is the opposite of the kind discussed in this thread. Yet, you have never met the female in question regarding this thread. You know zip about her other than a few paragraphs. Much like some of the other threads I have read here, women and some men are quick to judge other women without ever meeting them. They know absolutely nothing about them and oh so quick, to toss them off to the side with an adhesive label to justify their means, I suppose. I don't get it. Good to know you fought a good fight.
wavering_radiant Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 What´s up with these girls calling me at friday/saturday nights asking me if i know about a party and i should call them back when i find one. Wow, what a sad life
Author Necromancer Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Seems like a sorta know him situation where the one gal you know very well is interested but not interested enough to not flake out. It's probably best suited to disregard what she says and stop responding to the texts. Well.....it will be funny to see how she will respond, when i ignore her
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