robaday Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I saw ex gf in a club other night. First time in a month. Break up was bad - she blamed me for everything that went wrong, and was pretty horrible.Since shes reached out a number of times and Ive pretty much ignored it.So I walked over - tough when your the dumpee, but I cant walk past someone Ive known for so long without saying hi.As soon as she saw me, she broke down. I asked if she wanted a drink, so we walked together to the bar. We talked for half an hour. She was more upset than me, but seemed to want to talk. I told her Id forgiven her and hoped she was happy. There was no chemistry - weve broken up before, but her body language was defensive.I kept it short and left her at the bar staring at me. Am I a pushover for forgiving her? for being so friendly? and why would she cry if she was the one who wanted it over? I dont want her back, Im just curious.
marsha80 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 it's because she still has feelings even though she was the one to end things. feelings don't disappear instantly... they take time. yes, even for the dumper.
Author robaday Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 She asked about going for a drink other night after a bumped into her, and I ignored that part of the message. We exchanged quite a few messages- nothing serious, just banter. I would like to see her, but it feels a little too soon. Think Ive taken it a little better than her. Wonder if going for a drink is a sign she wants me back, or just catching up as friends....I dont want to be THAT DUDE, that has his ex complaining about her boyfriends to.
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