CATCH2287 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I met this girl a year ago and fell for her personality right off the bat. i didnt want a relationship but it was like a movie where a girl comes into your sight and you cant keep your eyes off her. Well i asked her out on a date and she agreed and she was a tough one to crack. I was patient with her and waited 7 months (the longest ive ever waited for a gf) i knew she had commitment issues and i respected it and she asked me to be patient and i was. Alas, 7 months down she finally asked me to be her BF, i was the happiest ive ever been. She is like my dream woman. im 25 and she is 23.. well we were only together for four months before she dumped me which broke my damn heart. She is a hard headed person and always had anger problems but always apologized but kept being mean once in awhile and stupid me i accepted her for what it was because i was fallin for her. well 3 months in she started to act weird and wasnt as affectionate to me and i couldnt figure it out...because she would talk about getting married to me, having a house, kids, a future...telling me she only dated *******s who treated her bad but then i came along.>THAT MADe me feel real good, before she would tell me she is not going anywhere and breaking up was the last thing on her mind. she wouldnt talk about how she felt but she came around eventually. i hardly ever got upset at her. well she dumped me monday because of a fight we had on fri which was really small that we dont remember but to her it was too big of a fight and we couldnt go back to how we were. i was nice and respectful but not like super nice....i put my foot down and didnt let her walk all over me..but on monday she hinted to break up but never did. so i took the hint. She started to cry and i did too. She told me she wanted me to call her because she is there for me but i cant do that after all she has said and done and did this to me and when i told her that..she cried even more....then out of no where, she said "lets try one more time" i said "this isnt a game where u try and then give up" its either you do or dont. She told me she doesnt know what to do..i asked if she wanted to be with me she said i dont know..single....i dont know either...then i told her i guess this is it...and she had the nerve to say "lets meet up in a week"?? i was like WHAT THE ****!!! she told me she hasnt felt me for awhile but the feeling comes and goes??? like im sad and mad at the same time..Im a nice guys who has a career, going to school, head on right, treats women with respect, opens doors...all that jazz and thats how my parents raised me. will she ever regret it? do you think she wants to call or text me?? im soo confused on what this woman wants because i waited for her to ask me out and i figured she then knew what she wanted... im sad.I dont want to call or txt because then the ball will be in her court but im struggling. some days are better than others.i finally deleted her number but because i have very good visual memory i know her phone number by heart.. why cant she just realize what she is doing is wrong. what can compel a person to say things and all of a sudden not know what she wants...she was like that in the beginning... will she ever try and make contact??? win me back?? i didnt do anything wrong...why do i feel like a ****.. .please dont be mean on comments...im hurtin here..
polish26 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I can definitely understand what you are going through because I have been through that same conversation, and we lived together at the time which made it awkward because she then had to find a place to live... The best you can do is continue NO CONTACT(NC) and leave the ball in her court, if seeing you is something she really wants, make her prove it. My parents once told me that I would eventually see my exes true colors, but I just thought they said that because they didn't like her at all, which should have been a red flag for me but I put it to the side because I cared about her. Since the break up, I can honestly say I don't recognize who she is anymore and it has been just over 2 months for me... and things she does now, well, lets just say I was never looking for that kind of person. You may see something similar, you may not, it's different for everyone. In the meantime, look for some healthy activities to do and surround yourself with family and friends. The busier you are the less time you will have to let your head play tricks on you. You are going to feel like crap for a while because yes, you do still have feelings for her and those will never just disappear, the brain isn't made to forget something it likes so easily. Just let things take their course, you will start to feel better shortly, but it won't be overnight. I don't know if this helps, but it's more information than I had two months ago, I just wish I had found this site sooner lol
Tree_Salmon Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 The great ones always feel like a movie. Be glad it was only 4 months and not 4 years. You're young, pick up and move on you have allot of love in your future.
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