was this a relationship. question about Tue break up

[hate101]

Dated for about 6 months. At first things were great. But she became Moody a lot and didnt like to talk much. She has some extreme stress come her way, she has to wear a scram bracelet and cant wear lotion and has to wear baby powder cause she cant use anything with alcohol. She cant do her women stuff, like paint her nails, shampoo even. Special soaps, ect ect.

 

And eventualy in the back of her hear she knows she has to go under house arrest. And prior, she would say we will work something out, as to when to see each other.

 

We kissed a lot, she tried to sleep with me several times, we fooled around a lot tho and she always tried to get in my panys, I played dumb, for personal reasons.

 

Now while she is on arrest and a lil prior I ask her what this was, got yelled at. Only reason I asked is cause she would hint and say we were a couple in a relationship. Yada yada and that she is so lucky to find me.

 

She initiated everything. Date, kiss, folling around, only thing I was pushy on was the this question.

 

Anyways she get mad cause I ask again, and finally I get a straight answer but she was harsh. So I got upset and had a lil fit for like a half a day, said things like you keep pushing ke off, talk to me. It seems you dont really care, your about money.

 

Anyways I apologize rather quickly, and btw I am not clingy, this was done over text, I jever called her or talked to her on the phone, it was all done in person .

 

So she says I am pissing her off, and got me even more upset cause she pissed me off. So she says goodbye and she is done, if I text her she will change her number and that this is what I get for bugging her, which this was the first time I actually attempted to get an answer.

 

So I wait a week and try to contact her, over a month I tried contacting her maybe 10 times over text, some drunk text, mooshy and mean stuff.

 

I met her at her work, was a nornal hang out, now I could visit her. But she is still stressed and prolly Moody as hell cause of the arrest.

 

Ps. Only reason its hard for me to move on, is cause I did a lot for her, was there for her when she was being evil. And helped her out financially and put all of her BS aside. And cause she started the more than friend thing, she would get me drunk and try to take advantage of that.

 

Now she knows I care, and I might of said I love you over a drunk text. I drink cause it helps with the pain. Never drank before.

 

I embarrassed myself with the text I sent after the break up and I dont know if I couod face her and what she might do.

 

One, was this a relationship?

 

Two, I just wNt my friend back, but she refuses to respond to me, I hurt her, maybe, but she hurt me a hell of a lot more, deciding she doesnt want to put effort into her promises and to keep this alive while going thro difficult times.

 

What do I do to get my friend back, I love this girl, I am ok with her being with other people, I just want my friend back.

 

She is stuborn and prideful, and every lil flaw of mine she amplified and want to say goodbye every time she saw sonething she didnt like. She has never said goodbye and she is done.

 

She made it clear she doesnt want a relationship, but she is so difficult to talk to in person, so uptight.

 

Again, do I wait for this tornado to blow over and go visit her and say sorry to her face, or hope she contact me?

[NateC]

This really sounds like going NC is the best resolution for you...in fact, it may be the only one. She probably has some personal mental issues that she should seek help for...and you really shouldn't be sucked into it.