Jebug79 Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 Im scared im in love and i can't lose him someone help. im not trying to change anyones feelings that just wrong i just want to make him realize that he does in some way care...how can i prove to him that i can be that right girl for him.... (it may help if you read my other post also because it would explain more of what im saying)
dreamguy Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 "....Im just really confused i just want a way to prove to him i can be that girl he wants but im not sure he'll allow me...any ideas anyone" Do you wanna know if he likes you ? Do you want the truth and nothing but the truth about it ? You gotta be ready to accept the result though. Tell him you need some time on your own. Time that would be completely away from him (no calls, no instant messenger, no text messages, no email). Tell him all that and go do it no matter what he replies. This would serve its purpose in two ways. 1) I don't think he never did love you otherwise he wouldn't have stayed with you for two years. But he feels stranded now and it seems he wants to see what he's been missing out there. Listen and please believe all the people on this forum when we tell you this: if you cling to him or try to salvage the relationship in any other way (after telling him ONCE AND ONLY ONCE HOW YOU FEEL) then you will most likely drive him away and in time you'll possibly lose him. If you think that what I'm saying is bull***** then go ahead and give it a try. Hang on to him and pursue him. I'll be here in a few weeks and you can tell me what happens. 2) Add to all that the fact that he's your first boyfriend. Do you want to be with the first person you meet (hey it can happen I'm not saying it can't) but it's very rare. People fall in and out of love many times before settling down. Just try to relax as much as possible before thinking about what I'm saying. If you think while under pressure and/or the influence of your emotions then you'll most likely make the wrong decision. You might not see it right now but one day, down the road, you'll wake up and regret not having been out there to check your options but it would be too late and you would be much much older making it harder for you to start a fresh relationship. Neptoon is right: "When you see people alone, it's because they choose to be alone. Don't settle for anything less than what you want because you are afraid to be alone. Sometimes, it's not so bad being alone and playing the flirting game is fun. You're young and you have a lot of options."
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