lovelost24 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Well my ex broke up with me for another guy about a month ago not to mention she moved in with him only knowing him a month!. I begged and pleaded for her back and she aid no. So I went no contact for a week and was doing ok and then bam she texts me "did u call me yesterday from a blocke number" I said no! Then she says she misses me and loves me then she calls me and we talk and she says she's going to leave that guy for me! So I say okay becase I'm in love with her. So days go by we start talking only when she's not home with her new guy. I start to get fed up and tell her if she dosent leave him then I'm done with this. Of course she dosent tell him. So I tell him myself and she gets mad at me so she ignores me and has been ignoring me ever since!!! Now I'm back at square one and heartbroken all over again ;((((
polish26 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I'm sorry to here about your situation. I have been in a similar situation, except that my ex has remained steadfast in her ways to not want to be in our relationship anymore. I have to sit directly behind her "new guy" at my place of work, and it tore me apart piece by piece for a while. However, I woke up one day and realized that this is her decision and not mine, and I made my decision to work on myself and get to know myself. You will go through the rough patch until you are ready. In my opinion, you can do better because in reality if someone loves/loved you then they wouldn't have done anything to the contrary. In this instance your ex almost immediately moved in with another guy, which is a massive red flag. Have some respect for yourself and take a good look at yourself, are you happy right now? I seriously doubt it! Take time for you, and fill your time and mind with activities that have nothing to do with her. I almost drank myself to death because I couldn't believe what was going on, and I even had my health compromised because of my relationship because they weren't honest with me. Be honest with yourself, be the person you are meant to be! You can't rely on someone else for your happiness, that comes from within. Don't let yourself be a doormat, spend time with family and friends. Talk as much you can to whoever you can, even a therapist can do wonders, I know from experience. Just remember you were a good and happy person before the relationship. You have can and will have that good happy person back after it as well. I will keep an eye on your post, and I will try to reply as much as possible.
Chi townD Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Lessons Learned. NC = NO CONTACT PEROID! She threw the line out there and you jumped right on that hook. Now, you're back to square one. Chaulk it up to lessons learned. 1
Author lovelost24 Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 Thank you polish 26. Its so hard for me to be motvated to do anything because I was always motivated by her love. I mean we didn't have the best 2 year relationship but I till am very in love with her. I know I deserve so much better but its hard to move on an forget a girl like her... and it dosent help that she is very beautiful to and I've never meet someone with a personality like hers... I just wish I could forget her! I'm only 22 I'm sure ill meet more girls and girls do try and talk to me but I'm just not interested
polish26 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Thank you polish 26. Its so hard for me to be motvated to do anything because I was always motivated by her love. I mean we didn't have the best 2 year relationship but I till am very in love with her. I know I deserve so much better but its hard to move on an forget a girl like her... and it dosent help that she is very beautiful to and I've never meet someone with a personality like hers... I just wish I could forget her! I'm only 22 I'm sure ill meet more girls and girls do try and talk to me but I'm just not interested Trust me, we have all been there! I was there not too long ago. I am 26 currently, and I had a 3.5 year relationship. I still feel pain from time to time, but that is perfectly natural. Like any addiction, and yes relationships can be addictive, you are just coming off of that high and you're looking for a fix. The one thing that really helped me really was working out, but I didn't do it alone. I have been fortunate enough to have two friends who have helped me take out my agression in a healthy way. I work out almost everyday, and I am healthier than I have ever been before, minus the disease she left me with that is but I haven't been sick since she left either so that is a great sign to me. Once I worked out long enough, which only gave me peace for short periods of time, I decided to see a therapist which is something I thought was quite embarassing at the time. I also journal as often as I can, even at work if I have the time. You also NEED to find a hobby! This is something that I too am also working on because of my busy schedule, but I have taken the time to start trying to find out who I am. Also, do your best to NOT CONTACT HER... it's not worth it, trust me I know! Just take your time, you have plenty of it, and focus on the things that are going to be important to YOU <- this is key, because the more you love yourself the better off you will be. Remember, create your own happiness! We are only a few years apart, but pain is all the same it will make you stronger and you will come out of the better than you did before
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