avon20 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 If a woman is interested in me and she has given an obvious green light of romantic interest and I do not make an effort to reciprocate then what happens? Will a time come when she puts me in the friend-zone? If so how soon? How much time do I have to make a move and reciprocate? Also once a woman has put me in the friend-zone for not reciprocating her interest will I ever have a 2nd chance with her if I start chasing her after the fact? Or do I make myself look worse and more unattractive for chasing her?
Phennyphen Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 If you leave it too long she'll be embarressed about coming on to you and you being (seemingly to her) not interested. If you like her go for it, if not then back off. 1
Author avon20 Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 So when is it a good time to act? Right that minute?
Phennyphen Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Depends what the 'green light' is and what you want from the relationship. If she gives you her phone number and you like her then call her within a couple of days, if you leave it weeks shes going to of written you off and be likely embarressed that she did in the first place. All depends on the green light...what has this lady specificly done?
goldengirl11 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 If a woman is interested in me and she has given an obvious green light of romantic interest and I do not make an effort to reciprocate then what happens? Will a time come when she puts me in the friend-zone? If so how soon? How much time do I have to make a move and reciprocate? Also once a woman has put me in the friend-zone for not reciprocating her interest will I ever have a 2nd chance with her if I start chasing her after the fact? Or do I make myself look worse and more unattractive for chasing her? Sorry why would you not reciprocate first time if you were interested? Or do you just mean how much time have you got initially?
Author avon20 Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 Depends what the 'green light' is and what you want from the relationship. If she gives you her phone number and you like her then call her within a couple of days, if you leave it weeks shes going to of written you off and be likely embarressed that she did in the first place. All depends on the green light...what has this lady specificly done? Well we're already past the phone numbers stage and stuff. We've been on 5 dates. I've known her for a little over 2 months. As far as the green light as that she's talking about her and I going away out of state for a weekend this summer and spending the night at a hotel. I told her I have to think about it.
Author avon20 Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 Sorry why would you not reciprocate first time if you were interested? Or do you just mean how much time have you got initially? Well how much time do I have to think about reciprocating her interest? I told her I'd have to think about whether or not I'd want to go away with her on a weekend out of state.
crazylove Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Well, if you don't sound that interested...which you don't....then she'll probably move on fairly quickly. What's stopping you from going?
spiderowl Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 If a woman is interested in me and she has given an obvious green light of romantic interest and I do not make an effort to reciprocate then what happens? Will a time come when she puts me in the friend-zone? If so how soon? How much time do I have to make a move and reciprocate? Also once a woman has put me in the friend-zone for not reciprocating her interest will I ever have a 2nd chance with her if I start chasing her after the fact? Or do I make myself look worse and more unattractive for chasing her? I kind of know about this as I've recently been in her position. She will probably give you a little time to respond, as she will bear in mind that she's shown you interest and you may be wondering if she means it. She will probably give you another sign of interest, smiles and so forth, but if you don't respond after that, she'll assume that you are not interested. If you miss another chance to get to know her, then she'll decide it's best not to bother any more. She won't want it to appear that she's chasing you and, from her point of view, you've had your chance. If a guy doesn't respond within a reasonable amount of time, there can only be a few reasons: - he hasn't realised - he has but he's not interested - he's already seeing someone - he's too scared to make a move - he's waiting for her to make the move. Personally, if a guy waits for me to do everything, I'd drop the idea. I want a guy who can be a man, not one who expects women to chase him. I want to feel he's stronger than me and I wouldn't if he was too scared to make a move. If you show interest later on, she's going to be very suspicious about why you didn't respond earlier. Were you seeing someone else? If not, why only now? I think you'd have a much harder job getting her to show she likes you again and an even harder one getting her to date you. She may already have moved on. Chances are, if she's given up on you, she will be thinking of someone else instead by the time you get round to it.
Sid6.7 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 If you leave it too long she'll be embarressed about coming on to you and you being (seemingly to her) not interested. If you like her go for it, if not then back off. OP, you move immediately. Why waste time when you could be moving on to the next prospect? Not tomorrow, not next week, now. The reason I quoted the above was because I found it very interesting. The man can go through quite a bit to catch the eye of a female. This includes, as you mentioned, embarrassment, hurt, failure, self-esteem hit, a feeling of not good enough that hits your ego. So her embarrassment comes completely secondary to your motives. It should be an afterthought.
SJC2008 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Well we're already past the phone numbers stage and stuff. We've been on 5 dates. I've known her for a little over 2 months. As far as the green light as that she's talking about her and I going away out of state for a weekend this summer and spending the night at a hotel. I told her I have to think about it. I don't understand your post and I guess I'm in the minority seeing how no one has asked you to clarify yet. You say you have been on 5 dates with her and have known her a little over two months so what is your queston? Have ya'll kissed? Done the deed? I'd say she's interested for sure being that yall are 2 mos. in. The million dollar queston is do you like her? Your "I'll think about it" seems pretty aloof and mundane so I hope you know how to shovel $hit if you still want to date her. If you do make a move and go for it!
Quiet Storm Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Why would you wait? If you are interested, show it. Just don't over do it. If you are not interested, don't lead her on.
ThaWholigan Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Hah, the hotel story. I had something like this. Then when I called to confirm, bitch changed her mind . Still, she asked me to stay over at hers the next day instead. I didn't do anything. I didn't even escalate that interest, even though she kinda knew I was into her. If you want to get anywhere with this girl, make a move NOW. What do you even have to think about?
goldengirl11 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 If you want to get anywhere with this girl, make a move NOW. What do you even have to think about? Indeed. Otherwise the window will most likely close.
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