ms.stressed Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Okay here goes...I have a friend. He's my best friend's brother-in-law. We became friends quick. I was having guy problems and he helped me cope. So we kind of established a bond. I was one of the few girls not attracted to him (I was chasing after a cheat, met another guy, got engaged, not really scoping guys out). So anyways, we're good friends now. Lately however I've been getting the tension from him. We'd be talking and he'd reach over start tickling me. When we hug, he kisses my neck. He's done that lately now everytime we hug. The first time I asked what that was about and he said I smelled good. Hm...but that's not the weirdest part. Last weekend there was a get together at my friends new place. He bought a home and had a house party. So his brother asked when he'd settle down now that he has a home. He says he hasn't found his type yet. And I asks, of course, you have a type?! Lol! He's a player and I'm always telling him that. Seriously. The guy dates all kinds of women so it took me by suprise. So his brother says yeah, he likes bright girls with curves and someone whose intelligent. And so friend and I share this look and he's just looking at me. And I tell him I never knew that and he just nods and looks at me until I look away. So now, he's all tense and I don't know what to do. I don't know if there's an unsoken attraction or maybe he thinks I think he likes me which I don't but if he does I don't want to loose a good friend. What should I do? Should I just out right say, hey! Do you like me? Or do you think I like you? Do you think I think you like me?! I just want my homie back. He's gotten through a lot.
january2011 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 You could either keep ignoring it. Or be honest and tell him that you've noticed his behaviour, you don't want him to get the wrong idea because you've only ever thought of him as a friend - yes, sorry, the old cliche. However, you might need to be prepared for his feelings to be very hurt and for him to not want to be friends anymore because it might get too awkward for him.
whichwayisup Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 This guy has the capability to really hurt you..Not on purpose but because he dates many women, seems to not want to settle down with just one woman and have a relationship. He is flirty and making you feel good - A plus if you need an ego boost, but don't go reading into this and hope that he is going to fall in love with you and be your boyfriend. Players and guys who are committment phobes are not worth chasing as you'll never 'tame' them or change them. He is who he is, so just stick with friendship.
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