kaylan Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 (edited) Maybe size but in general the lack of sex education and lack of understanding of women. Many Asian guys don't do oral sex, Africans don't either. A lot of people are virgins when they get married and have no idea how to communicate about sex. I also think a lot of these guys struggle when they come to the West because we expect more experience from a 27 year-old than he can offer. They can come across like 18 year-olds because they are so inexperienced. I think living in the developing countries where your community and family are put before you can mean that your early socialisation is oppressed compared to how we live in the West. Especially when girls are prized for their virginity. Have you considered the fact that maybe this guy is Westernized and grew up the states or another western nation? Most Asians I know arent fresh off the boat, they are American. Most American guys I know of any race will go down on a girl.Geez, OP posts about a date she has with an Asian guy and we deviate immediately to penis sizes? Really? And that is why we always see threads about whether Asian or Indian men can get women outside of their race. Because dummies in this thread perpetuate negative stereotypes about them. Im glad you contributed some worthwhile advice. Edited May 11, 2012 by kaylan 1
Emilia Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Have you considered the fact that maybe this guy is Westernized and grew up the states or another western nation? Most Asians I know arent fresh off the boat, they are American. Most American guys I know of any race will go down on a girl. We don't know anything about this guy, this is a general conversation about men from developing countries, not Americans.
kaylan Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 (edited) ^It is? I thought it was a convo about the OPs HALF filipino date whos very likely to be of completely Western nationality. My last post was indicating that we cannot simply assume hes some conservative, sexually repressed dude from the developing world simply because hes half asian racially. Edited May 11, 2012 by kaylan
Pierre Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 We don't know anything about this guy, this is a general conversation about men from developing countries, not Americans. The Internet in Japan is 5 times faster and better than in the US. Some Americans need to travel a bit more.
SJC2008 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 The Internet in Japan is 5 times faster and better than in the US. Some Americans need to travel a bit more. The US has the some if the best technology in the world but many Americans don't know or think so because all our electronics are imported. In 07' China shot a satellite down with a missile and a year later we shot one down too, from sea off a guided missile cruiser. Basically telling China "ok you're getting there but check this out!"
Emilia Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 The Internet in Japan is 5 times faster and better than in the US. Some Americans need to travel a bit more. Japan is 'developed' not 'developing' if that's what you mean, otherwise I don't get your point. I'm not American and no-one referred to Japanese on this thread.
UBFeelinMe Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Nobody here seems to realize that the cultures and countries of Asia are as diverse and different from one another as any other region in the world? Comparing Filipinos and Japanese is like comparing Spaniards with Germans, there is massive difference between the two. Anyone that is familiar with or knows Filipino men would tell you that they are FAR from being sexually repressed.
mtber75 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Kidding around or not, Im sick of seeing people emasculate Asian guys. Attitudes like his is why Asian dudes get thought of the way they do in the West. Yeah its amazing how Non Asians (some Asians too) can make fun of Asians and chalk it up as being light hearted humor, you know like Dog meat jokes WTF!!!! Regards to OP, he's half so I would think he's pretty westernized. But many Asian guys do have a more sense of family values than most. Mixed bloods are pretty damn smart too look at Obama:)
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 I'm not concerned about penis size. According to the kama sutra, there are 3 basic sizes of genitalia for both men and women - small, medium, and large - and it works best with a similar size. I already know that I'm a small-medium, and I'm not a size queen. It would be a problem for me if he weren't willing to perform oral, were lame in bed, or didn't have any technique, no matter his size - but it's way too early to know if any of these are the case. Give the guy a chance to show you the type of person he is and then decide if he's the right type for you. Good advice, and some of the best so far. This is what I will do. Just out of curiosity, what happened to the guy you were dating who kept steady contact? Thought things were progressing with him. Eh. I like him a lot, and I think he's sexy as hell - but I'm figuring out that he's basically another sexy underachiever. He's just not on my level. He's got potential, but you can't count on that. I think he'll be a friend and maybe an occasional date during slow times. The Asian guy seems very Westernized. I don't know about his history yet, if he was born in the U.S. or not. I do know he travels quite a bit all over the world for work and fun. He speaks perfect English with no accent. But I've had some friends from other cultures who were very Westernized, and they retained some quite different culture practices and values. I can already tell he's very confident and assertive. He has made every move possible so far. Athletic and actively sporty, like me. Very take charge, sociable, friendly - all of which I love. He's cute, and in spite of his respectable demeanor, I get this sense of rumbling sensuality beneath the surface. Is there some reason you got the impression his culture was going to impact at all? He strikes me as very intelligent, and a total old school gentleman. The smarts I'm used to, but I can already see he has more gentlemanly behavior than any of the other guys I've been dating lately - opening the door, anticipating my smallest needs, going out of his way to make things easy on me. And I noticed this in just one brief interaction. Also the way he handled the date planning. He let me handle the fun parts that I wanted to, and he took care of the grunt work - making the reservation, etc. I'll definitely report back on how it goes. 3
TaurusTerp Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 The Internet in Japan is 5 times faster and better than in the US. Some Americans need to travel a bit more. Hahaha Americans need to be more enlightened Then he posts a map of penis sizes What a moron 3
Pierre Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Hahaha Americans need to be more enlightened Then he posts a map of penis sizes What a moron A troll with a small penis, how cute.:laugh:
123321 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 For what it's worth, Filipinos are genetically Pacific Islanders who have been invaded by mainland Asians a lot in the distant (and recent, WW2) past, culturally it's complicated but not at all like Japan or anywhere else I've been in Asia.
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 This thread reminds of this clip... Nothing against Rubiedslippers, you probably haven't men too many Asian people in your life which is cool. But most of them are just like normal Americans, especially if they are only half and Filipino, which is a very westernized country. 1
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 This thread reminds of this clip... Nothing against Rubiedslippers, you probably haven't men too many Asian people in your life which is cool. But most of them are just like normal Americans, especially if they are only half and Filipino, which is a very westernized country. That was pretty funny. Yeah, all the penis talk was making me sorry I started this damn thread. But whatever. LS has a lot of static you've just gotta tune out.
mtber75 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I'm not concerned about penis size. According to the kama sutra, there are 3 basic sizes of genitalia for both men and women - small, medium, and large - and it works best with a similar size. I already know that I'm a small-medium, and I'm not a size queen. It would be a problem for me if he weren't willing to perform oral, were lame in bed, or didn't have any technique, no matter his size - but it's way too early to know if any of these are the case. It seems that your very sexual, I though that most girls don't like receiving? That may be a problem because Asian men in general are not as experienced as Western counterparts due to their more traditional upbringing. Also the fact that Asians are brought up to be studious and hard working first before dating. Your guy may be different but every Asian American that I know spent their teens and 20s in some kind of schooling or high pressure jobs so no time for dating including myself at that age:(
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 It seems that your very sexual, I though that most girls don't like receiving? That may be a problem because Asian men in general are not as experienced as Western counterparts due to their more traditional upbringing. Also the fact that Asians are brought up to be studious and hard working first before dating. Your guy may be different but every Asian American that I know spent their teens and 20s in some kind of schooling or high pressure jobs so no time for dating including myself at that age:( Will you stop with the stereotypes? First of all, the guy is half Filipino, and seeing as how many Filipinos are mixed with Spanish blood, the guy is probably at least 3/4 Caucasian and 1/4 Asian at most. So, none of the stereotypes fit. Also all of the stereotypical studiousness that East Asians have don't carry over to Filipinos. Completely different culture and country. And thirdly, even if he were full Japanese or some crap, it's still a horrible stereotype.
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I've noticed that Asian men are lacking with confidence when they date Caucasian women, they are shy to talk, and they are not that good in bed, unlike white men lol. And yeah, most (not all) have small or average size of penis. Dang! ^^ Reason why I really wanna settle down with a White Guy. You're a serious insult to your people. I mean, it's one thing to like a white guy (fine), another to prefer a white guy (meh, OK I guess), but to insult your own dudes... Your father should slap you upside the head little girl. 1
Pierre Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 You're a serious insult to your people. I mean, it's one thing to like a white guy (fine), another to prefer a white guy (meh, OK I guess), but to insult your own dudes... Your father should slap you upside the head little girl. I hear Ruby is a very tall woman. Average male height in the Phillipines 5'3-5'4. Whatever you do-----------don't wear high heels. OTOH, maybe the American side of the family are basketball players.
matte123 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 (edited) It seems that your very sexual, I though that most girls don't like receiving? That may be a problem because Asian men in general are not as experienced as Western counterparts due to their more traditional upbringing. Also the fact that Asians are brought up to be studious and hard working first before dating. Your guy may be different but every Asian American that I know spent their teens and 20s in some kind of schooling or high pressure jobs so no time for dating including myself at that age I feel bad for you and hope you're enjoying the dating world now but please understand that not all Asians are brought up like that. I only know one Chinese guy and one Indian guy who couldn't date even in their twenties because of school/work-related issues. Most of the other Asians I know even the overseas ones had a girlfriend or a boyfriend during their teens and their twenties. Among my friends, a few of the Chinese guys already had sex when they were teenagers. I feel that a lot of my friends were able to find the balance between work and play. Edited May 11, 2012 by matte123
matte123 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I hear Ruby is a very tall woman. Average male height in the Phillipines 5'3-5'4. Whatever you do-----------don't wear high heels. OTOH, maybe the American side of the family are basketball players. Actor Hayami Mokomichi is half Japanese/half Filipino and he's over 6ft. No American genes there so it's possible for a Filipino even a mixed one to be tall. Also some guys don't care about the height issue.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 This thread really highlights how much emphasis a lot of LS posters put on the superficial. I'm tall, and don't mind dating shorter guys. But anyway, he's an inch or two taller.
Almond_Joy Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I don't understand why people get so bent out of shape and defensive over stereotypes stated by people who aren't stating them with malicious intent. If a person hasn't had any experience with a culture or race, usually all they have to go on are the stereotypes. If you want enlighten them as a person of that culture, you can objectively state your experience contrasting the stereotype. Done and done. No need to infer the person's stupid or ignorant. If they didn't know, they didn't know.....
AkidAtHeart Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 (edited) I don't understand why people get so bent out of shape and defensive over stereotypes stated by people who aren't stating them with malicious intent. If a person hasn't had any experience with a culture or race, usually all they have to go on are the stereotypes. If you want enlighten them as a person of that culture, you can objectively state your experience contrasting the stereotype. Done and done. No need to infer the person's stupid or ignorant. If they didn't know, they didn't know..... It's called "annoying" Ignorance is really annoying when it's about race and culture and it's about questions that are asked over and over again... Edited May 11, 2012 by AkidAtHeart
yongyong Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I am pretty sure you already know that you can't compare south east asians to east asians. that's really offensive. you know why Asians are great especially Filipinos. There are CULTURE DRIVEN similarities in the MAJORITY of Asian guys. I'm an Asian, Filipina-Korean I've been friends with a sh'tload of Asian males. They pretty much all date the same. Of course, there are exceptions, but they have (we have) CULTURES which are similiar and motivate them to act a certain way during courtship. It's cultural kind of like dinner and a movie to a white guy. So yes, they are mostly always the same. Very commited, even if they dont feel compatibility, they will keep going, 3 year relationships are average for them. I've noticed that Asian men are lacking with confidence when they date Caucasian women, they are shy to talk, and they are not that good in bed, unlike white men lol. And yeah, most (not all) have small or average size of penis. Dang! ^^ Reason why I really wanna settle down with a White Guy. Again, there are exceptions to every rule. It's refreshing to meet someone who isn't entirely similar to you. So, goodluck Ruby!
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