how do i trust her?

[scared to death]

ok so a little background. i have been in a relationship with my wife now for 8 years. only the last 8 months we have been married. during the relationship i have talked to other women online and was caught. about 4 times in fact. i admit now that i had an addiction to those type of websites. i have since kicked the habit and am totally devoted to my wife. she stood by me even still and through the course of things we have been blessed with 2 wonderful children ages 6 and 2. last month we had a huge fight that ended in her wanting a separation to work out our marriage. for the past 6 months i have had a bad feeling that she was talking to other guys online and had caught some tid bits of evidence. and when i confronted her it caused our fight. i started going through her phone and email and she would get mad when she would find out as anyone would. through the course of time we where unable to do the separation due to a bad situation where we feared for the safety of our kids due to a friend of the family molesting their cousin and threatening the entire family we also dont make enough money on our own wages to get separate places. we decided to work on our marriage together and its getting better alot better in fact however i am having a hard time learning to trust her i know it sounds messed up but every little thing thats out of place sets my mind off. it doesnt help that i work all day and she works overnights. we see eachother on average of 3 days a week. so my question is how do i trust her again? i dont want to lose my marriage now that ive realized what i have. plus i dont want to lose my boys either. please help.......

[in the dim]

I really hate to hear about these situations, especially in these days and times, and I hope everything works out for you, but if you and your wife are seroius about trying to make it work, you both have to be transparent to eachother. Meaning no secrets, no lies, ( and yes you both have to give up those fb passwords) if you ever want to trust eachother again.If you aren't able to do this, it's probably best you guys separate, for the kids cause they are intelligent and aware what's going on, and if your wife refuses, then either the marriage is unsalvageable or she's already gone. I can relate being that I am in a similiar situation so I'm not speaking out of naivity, I wish you the best of luck.