auntie06 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 So me and my boyfriend got in an argument the other night because I fractured my foot and he wouldn't help me with laundry. It escalated and he said f*** you to me and I did not like it; I took off my promise ring and then he flushed it down the toilet. Before he told me to never take it off or he would flush it. I know its just a material thing, but it meant a lot to me. He regrets it and begged me not to leave...he said a part of him didn't think it would go down(hello its small enough to fit). I just don't know if I can forgive him because he really hurt me by doing this but on the other hand I love him a lot. We've been together two and a half years; but I have no idea how to get over this or if I can. Every time I look at my finger; it makes me even more hurt. I told him to not buy me another ring because if he buys me another promise ring it will sit on the counter, since he took the meaning away from it. Any advice?
january2011 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I'm more concerned about your foot than the promise ring. A guy who shows no compassion for your predicament is not a guy who is in any position to promise anything. I know you've been together for two and half years but this is a dealbreaker. If he can't be there for you when you're injured, where will he be when you're pregnant, in labour, going through the death of a parent? Will he be swearing at you and refusing to support you? 1
Author auntie06 Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 Yeah, before I got up I said I was going to fold clothes and I proceeded to do so, but then he didn't help me and I said thanks for helping, which upset him. He then took the basket and finished mating the socks; but I had to ask him to help me because he'd rather play video games; I just dont know if I can get past this.
january2011 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I just dont know if I can get past this. If you need someone you can count on in the long-term, I don't think this guy is going to be there. I could be wrong, but I think fractured foot trumps video games.
marsha80 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 the two of you bring out the worst in each other... sometimes, it's best to recognize that past history is not enough to ensure a positive future... Imagine being married to someone who refuses to help you in times of need (add children to the equation) and then reassess your relationship in its present state and the future
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