kyle77 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 So lately I have been trying to get over my ex by shutting her out of my life. My ex broke up with me seven months ago but she was in my class in university so we were in constant contact with each other. Unfortunately that kind of delayed the getting over her process by a bit. Now I am out of university for the summer though and I really want to get over her. I am trying to keep busy and not think about her. (No checking Facebook, no twitter, no looking into her friends or anything) I am just worried that when if I ever do see her (randomly in the summer, or inevitably when university starts up in the fall) that all these feelings will come rushing back. So how do I get over her and make sure that those feelings are done and away with so that seeing her doesn't trigger them?
Tree_Salmon Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 Ignore any impulse to think about her. Force yourself to think about other things and then do them. Concentrate on things you want to improve about yourself and don't allow your mind to get off them. No matter how much you want to remember the good stuff. After so long it gets much easier. The only person that keeps you from progressing is yourself. We now have 7 billion people on the planet, I'm sure you can find another love eventually.
Author kyle77 Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 so just keep up doing what I am doing? I am just worried that if I see her again or something all those feelings might come rushing back...
Author kyle77 Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 more opinions please need all the feedback and advice I can get
edelveis Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Hej.try not to think about what you fear may happen coz if you think of it too much and dont progress your letting go of her then it might happen.concentrate and keep busy.i am going through the same situation and i will see her again on september when the new semester starts and i have the same fear.but i am working on it..do the same!
mtcrsx28 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 try get involved with something, maybe focus on pursuing another relationship if your ready that could get your mind of things it worked for me after about 7 months after ending a 2 year relationship. but the more you try and not think about something the more you our actually will think about it, its human nature good luck man
Joaquin Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Ignore any impulse to think about her. Force yourself to think about other things and then do them. Concentrate on things you want to improve about yourself and don't allow your mind to get off them. No matter how much you want to remember the good stuff. After so long it gets much easier. The only person that keeps you from progressing is yourself. We now have 7 billion people on the planet, I'm sure you can find another love eventually. I'd take a slightly different approach. Keep busy for sure but.... Allow yourself to think of her whenever you want. You can't control it, and the more you try, the harder it can be. Think of those thoughts like a wave, they roll in and roll out. Over time the wave will get smaller and you may eventually go an hour, a day, maybe a week without thinking of her and what happened. Take the time and heal properly. Funny thing is that when you stop trying not to think of something, you might eventually not think of it. 1
Author kyle77 Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 and you think by doing that I won't "relapse" when I see her next?
Joaquin Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 How the heck do I know bro. You want a pill or something to get over a broken heart. It doesn't exist. When you see her all you can do is keep your head up and not spaz out like a fool in front of her. The only remedy known to anyone is time. If you think you find something better let us know. 1
Joaquin Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 When I was in college I broke up with my then gf. We did everything together for years and were in the same class. She was boning a new guy within 3 weeks of breaking up. I was single for the rest of the time we were in college. I got over it by going compete NC. I did it without using anyone else but it took time.
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