Plaid Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I'll make this as short as I can. Met her at a bar. Took her home. Spent the night together, she slept in my bed and we cuddled all night. Few days later, she slept over again. I fingered her and she gave me a handjob. The next weekend, I invited her over. She declined saying she was busy and that she's a 'family girl'. I said, "that's good". Then a few hours later she asked if the offer still stood. She came over, I had a party at the time and she was kind of left on the sidelines (she brought her girl friend - who is seeing my roommate, so it was good). Slept with her that night, but I was too tired to do anything, and she seemed 'distant' in bed. We basically cuddled all night. It's been almost a week, we've texted back and forth a bit. I tried getting her out for dinner earlier this week. She had a team practice 2 nights. I tried getting her out to lunch today, and she replied "I can't do lunch this week ! Haha I'm all booked up!" We texted some more, and I called her out on blowing me off, and we did some light flirting. I'd like to get her out tonight, she's done work now but don't want to seem too persistent. I think it's her turn to make a move. Should I just cut off all contact until she asks me out now? The thing is, I might have another date with a girl tomorrow night that I haven't met before. I do like this one now, and don't want to cut her out of my life just yet. Maybe I'm way too impatient.
sal110104 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Go out with the other girl - live your life - dont wait around for anyone
InJest Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 (edited) It's going to be hard to get her to come out if you keep asking her the day of, to do something. Do take a step back, but ask her if she wants to do something like dinner next wednesday(pick a specific day). You absolutely should go out with the other girl tomorrow too. If the girl that you've been seeing, doesn't have sex with you or at least give you a blowjob, the next time she's in bed with you drop her altogether. Handjobs are not okay. Edited May 10, 2012 by InJest
truth_seeker Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I'll make this as short as I can. Met her at a bar. Took her home. Spent the night together, she slept in my bed and we cuddled all night. Few days later, she slept over again. I fingered her and she gave me a handjob. The next weekend, I invited her over. She declined saying she was busy and that she's a 'family girl'. I said, "that's good". Then a few hours later she asked if the offer still stood. She came over, I had a party at the time and she was kind of left on the sidelines (she brought her girl friend - who is seeing my roommate, so it was good). Slept with her that night, but I was too tired to do anything, and she seemed 'distant' in bed. We basically cuddled all night. It's been almost a week, we've texted back and forth a bit. I tried getting her out for dinner earlier this week. She had a team practice 2 nights. I tried getting her out to lunch today, and she replied "I can't do lunch this week ! Haha I'm all booked up!" We texted some more, and I called her out on blowing me off, and we did some light flirting. I'd like to get her out tonight, she's done work now but don't want to seem too persistent. I think it's her turn to make a move. Should I just cut off all contact until she asks me out now? The thing is, I might have another date with a girl tomorrow night that I haven't met before. I do like this one now, and don't want to cut her out of my life just yet. Maybe I'm way too impatient. I think she is playing a bit of hard to get because she is afraid you might think she's a slut. She is backing off to either get you to think she is not an easy whore or she is embarrassed now about her behavior, taking her home from a bar and ending up in your bed, and doesn't think you guys can have anything significant. See the other girl and let this bar girl come to you. If you want, do what someone else suggested, contact her in a week and ask her to dinner not for that day but for the following week.
Author Plaid Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 I appreciate your input everyone - thank you. She is not a bar girl, and I'm not like most guys, I like to think. This was the first time I brought a girl home from the bar and got her into bed. It was also my first time trying. I was successful, but I'm not looking for a one night stand. Anyways, she did tell me how she never does this and blah blah blah the first night. I think she is also playing hard to get. So who knows... I'm going to shut down the texting (and I dont have Facebook) until she at least texts me again. Then I'll do things proper and take her out a week after that. If she's busy for that, then it's game over for her. Which will be too bad, she's different from any chick I've dated. Ah well...
Author Plaid Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 I forgot to mention that after our first night, she came over the next afternoon and surprised me with cupcakes that she made, and bought me some bandaids and lotion for some serious road rash I got myself into. That alone had me hooked on her. It was so sincere. Now things seem way too distant, even though I havent known her too long. Uhhhhh
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